The female doctor (who abused me) worked in a very reputable hospital near my school (which was an all-boys school). So, she recieved a lot of patients (all boys) from my school and all of them were underage because the age of graduation at my school was 16-17.
Long story short, I only realized that I was sexually abused when I got older like 13-14 and learnt what sexual activities were. I immediately told my parents and lodged a complaint against the doctor.. but there was no proof or evidence to put against the doctor... it was just my words against hers... my school supported the doctor and said that she had been working with them for a long time and never had any complaints... I was shocked! They told me "only girls can get abused" and my parents agreed with them. I was heartbroken and cried for days...
Now I'm 24 and that female doctor still works for the same hospital in partnership with the all-boys school.
I can never enter a hospital again without thinking about what happened to me when I was 8, and because of this, I unfortunately cannot afford to trust female doctors anymore. It's not misogyny. It's trauma that has scarred me for life.
Now whenever I go to the hospital, I specifically ask for a male nurse and a male doctor but they say there are none available. I am soo traumatized that I can never trust a female medical professional ever again!
I was sexually abused by a female doctor when I was 8 years old, and no one believed me. What can I do to recover?
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Anonymous
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1 y
Please do not self harm, it's not a solution. I used to do it to cope with problems childhood sexual abuse trauma left me with, but it's not worth it, believe me, there's a point when you won't want to stop and it just gets worse from the first time you do it.
I had many therapists, I was on therapy for 3 years when I was a teenager, it didn't help, I still felt like shit and the trauma was still affecting me, I hated psychologists and didn't believe they could help, I honestly thought of them as the most useless people in the world. But at 21 I was abused again which led me to being a complete mess and I had to look for help, I finally found a therapist that helped me, it was a matter of 4 months intense therapy and it helped me SO MUCH. Look for a psychologist specialized in sexual abuse, find one with good reputation, it's totally worth it, you need a good therapy to get the life you deserve. I'm so sorry you went through that, I understand you, don't give up and don't hurt yourself, you did nothing wrong, your body doesn't deserves to be harmed.
Hi. I understand your situation. Having gone through similar situation, I even had PTSD, Even today. I seek therapy to overcome the anxiety it has created.
Although not completely over from its damages, I believe in trusting people. However my inner voice is extremely cautious and keeps alerting me at the first sign of crossing boundaries.
Moreover now I seek to solve my issues on my own as I know most people will not believe my words. Thus I seek no support or sympathy from them.
I know you don't know me, but I believe you!! You would think that doctors are respectable people, but a lot of them aren't. Just because they are doctors or even dentist doesn't mean they won't do what happened to you. That female doctor that harmed you when you were 8 probably set up her practice so she could just see young boys and molest them. SHE is mentally ill!!! Otherwise that wouldn't have happened to you. She probably did it to many more young boys that went to her office. You can hold your head up high. The doctor on the other hand is a pervert and cannot hold her head up high. Promise you will not self mutilate yourself? That would not fix the problem. It would only hurt you more. Take care ok?
It's rare to get abused by a female so u don't need to worry about it so much , plus , ur a grown man now , u can defend (protect) yourself against any female who tries to abuse or just stop her from doing that , just make sure u go to hospitals with lots of cameras so if she tried to say that you're the one who abused her she'll get caught but then again it's rare so nothing to worry about :) and for the self hamr thing , that won't change anything from the past and u shouldn't take out revenge from yourself bc it's her fault not yours , she's the one to be blamed , u were young , so no need to self harm or self hate , ik it's easy to say "don't worry " or "stay strong" but try to learn from this experience, everything that we experience from life is to serve us , u experienced what's it like to be sexually abused so later on u wouldn't abuse anybody in that kind of way bc u felt how painful it is , I hope this helps or at least makes u feel better :)
You're absolutely disgusting for trying to defend the actions of a female pedophile. Like seriously, you're trying to supress the severity of the situation by telling me not to worry about it as if it's just a walk in the park? Have you ever heard of trauma? Especially when you're sexually abused repeatedly at age 8, it can have a huge impact on brain development and trust issues as an adult. And here, you're saying "female pedophiles" are nothing to worry about. I hope you don't ever get abused because you won't have to suffer like me, but don't try to suppress other people's abuse. Just because we are boys doesn't mean we can't be abused. Your comment just shows how completely clueless you are about this situation.
U said in the question that ur afraid to go to a hospital bc of that so I told u to don't worry about it bc u won't get abused there , am I wrong for saying don't worry?
you have to become more selfish. humans are disgusting no therapist actually cares. just start being more selfish and interuppt your thinking with the word "positive" whenever it gets bad. evan if you have to interuppt your own thinking 1000 times
I'm sorry to read you have experience all of it. Try to find independent organizations, activists against abuse and even making public her name, i bet she had several victims. Try to find therapy, groups. Lots of hugs, good luck.
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Anonymous
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I’m extremely sorry this happened to you. Doctors will soon need to wear body cameras on their chest as well
I'm sorry that happened to you. Have you tried therapy or anything?
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Yes, but it doesn't help! Or at least it didn't help me. Plus, I hate talking about something so traumatic that the therapist doesn't even know what to say! What a waste of money. I've considered self-harm as it provide some sort of relief, to be completely honest.
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