A girl that rejected me keeps messaging me?

[johnny8888]

Looking for general advise.

A girl I was close with and flirted a lot with rejected me. She did say she had some level of feelings for me but there is an age gap that wouldn't make it work long term and she said she chooses to ignore her feelings.

I thought this was fair enough reason and moved on with my life. She did say a lot of flattering things about me in the following days so it was in no ways a bad rejection. I also believe she was seeing someone else which may not have been the best timing for my proposition although not seriously and she doesn't have a boyfriend.

I moved on distanced myself and stopped messaging her but she persists in messaging me frequently asking about me and trying to make conversation and keep conversation going. Often I don't reply as I'm moving on.

Am I being unfair in not being friendly I don't have any bad vibes towards the girl I just don't like the idea she has decided I wasn't a good fit but still wants me around regardless. I don't believe she has romantic feelings but is attracted to me on some level. I don't want to be some simp orbiting around when someone has said no.

What's the best way to handle this?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you may feel uncomfortable with this situation, especially if you're trying to move on from your feelings for this girl. It's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and respectfully, while also being considerate of her feelings.

If you're not interested in continuing a friendship with this girl, it's okay to politely decline her messages and let her know that you need some space to move on. You can say something like, "Hey, I appreciate you reaching out, but I'm trying to move on and I don't think it's healthy for me to continue talking with you right now. I hope you understand."

On the other hand, if you're open to being friends with this girl, but not interested in pursuing anything romantic, you can make that clear as well. You can say something like, "Hey, I appreciate your messages, but I just want to make it clear that I'm not interested in pursuing anything romantic with you. If you're okay with that, I'm open to being friends."

You just need to communicate your boundaries clearly and respectfully, while also being considerate of the other person's feelings. It's okay to prioritize your own emotional well-being and take the time you need to move on from this situation.

[Hulk_kitty]

If you don't want to pursue any relationship with this girl, Just tell her nicely.

I am sorry i don't want to pursue any relationship with you, as I have romantic feelings for you, and it will be hard to pursue any friendship with you. No hard feelings, please move and all the best. I would rather tell you, and upset you, than ghost you, and hurt you.

I have always have been straight with girls, like or not.

Something like that, just be polite about it, so you don't want to leave on bad terms.

[Hulk_kitty]

always keep your side of the plate clean with people, If your nice to them, they really can't say anything bad behind your back.

[Sour-rose]

bish really just tryna spark a flame with you and her. Guess she is regretting her decisin and is lonely. Proceed as you are doing now, she'll stop eventually. And if it gets back like light a heart shaped fire in your yard, she's not getting it. Use restraining order.

[Sour-rose]

*gets bad like a light-*

Thank you for the MHO <3

[Gingerbread_GB]

She broke up with you. You don't owe her a friendship. I think she's just stringing you along in case she needs a backup plan. Maybe if this "someone else" doesn't work out, she'll return to you. But personally I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone like her because if she finds someone "better" later, she'll dump you again.

[Anonymous]

I got rejected by a girl who did the exact same thing this one did to you.
Except unlike you, I reciprocated. Turns out it was because she changed her mind. She's now my girlfriend.

Maybe you shouldn't "move on" bro. They can flip their minds on a dime. She may have rejected you in the beginning, but it sounds like you got her thinking