Do girls tell their friends about you if they’re interested but haven’t text you after giving them your number?

[Anonymous]

So, I gave a girl at my local cafe my number (I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable asking for hers) and left the ball in her court as she, from my perspective showed interest. She didn’t text but I went back to the same cafe 4 days later to meet with a friend and saw a girl that she works with there (I’ve never seen her before & didn’t know her) but they looked so similar (surely related) and I asked if it was her I gave my number to and she said no so I did a double take and realised it definitely wasn’t her (she served my coffee then literally came back to the table 2 minutes later to ask how our drinks were with huge smile on her face, pretty quick if you ask me when the cafe was very busy) so I asked her if she would tell her friend in a very lighthearted and humorous way to tell her friend to stop being a chicken and text me, the friend giggled and I asked her if she knew what I was talking about and she said yes and said her friend told her about me. I didn’t flirt with the friend at all despite initially thinking it was the original girl I gave my number to. She said she will tell her friend to text me as they live together. My expectations are low but at least her friend didn’t tell me not to bother or tell me an excuse like she has a boyfriend etc, do you think I will hear from now or are they just having a laugh lol?

[Anonymous]

Just as easily as you felt certain that woman was her sister and turned out it was a roomie, you could be wrong about the vibes you got that started this whole thing. Since you don’t know where she stood, you should’ve just gotten her number and made the first move. I get not wanting to feel awkward but now you’ve made it her responsibility to reach out when you were the one interested and that’s kinda lame. On top of that, now it will be awkward if you go in there talking about this texting thing again, so you can’t even bring it up a 3rd time (technically it would be since you’ve addressed her friend and asked her to relay that message). Anyway, I’m not sure that she’ll text you, as there was no solid verification that she was interested in the first place. Time will tell and if she says anything then that’s great for you.

[Asker]

I’ll continue to go to that cafe regardless as it’s always been my go to along with a lot of my friends and I’ll politely say hello if I see her again and leave it at that. There won’t be a 3rd time asking, Im not obsessed and desperate. Don’t see what I did that was so lame? The girls in my country are different, it’s way more acceptable to offer my number than ask for theirs.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not saying the notion of giving your number to her is lame, it’s the logic behind your reason for doing it. Like in your own head, you feel as though there was chemistry or whatever, right? Even though you didn’t have solid verification on her end, at least you knew there’s interest on yours. So because you are the one acting on an emotion, you should’ve asked for her number. You don’t know that she felt the same way, or how comfortable she is to reach out (assuming she did like you), and putting her in the position to reach out first when it should’ve been you to do it was lame to me. In this situation. I guess if she never says anything then you’ll have your answer anyway right.

[Asker]

I hear what you’re saying but it was busy and I didn’t want to stop her in the middle of her working and chat her up then ask for her number….. she literally excused herself from the table she was halfway through taking an order when she noticed me walking out and followed me, the friend I was with even noticed it and he couldn’t believe it. I took a punt and offered my number and took a risk and I’m fine with her not txting, it’s not lame. There’s plenty of fish in the sea and going back there today just sparked my interest and curiosity that’s all. I actually don’t go around handing my number to every random attractive girl I see. I’m very shy and it just got me wondering hence why I’m asking on here out of pure curiosity of how girls think and of course wether she’ll text or not. She doesn’t owe me anything at all…. maybe you’re right and I read her wrong but I honestly don’t think that’s the case. I’m sure you’ve had someone attracted to you without saying a word but you just know right? It’s all good either way.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe not in that moment but if you frequent this place a lot, I’m sure there would’ve been a better opportunity at some point. You don’t have to agree about the lameness, it’s not me trying to make you feel bad or any sort of way, that’s just what it looks like from my POV and it’s genuinely not a personal thing. As for me feeling like someone was attracted to me while out in public? Of course, and in almost all those cases I had the guy ask for my number, with him initiating because I’m not one to just act on my intuition if I don’t feel confident in the exchange. Which brings me back to if you were correct, my guess is that maybe you weren’t, as she would’ve surely said something by now. The only other things would be if she’s too shy or talking to someone already. Assumptions assumptions lol, just take her silence for what it is I guess, rejection.

[jennifer_bloom]

I only talk about a guy if I’m stressed out about the relationship or anxious about it. If I’m happy, nobody will know about him.

[Asker]

That’s sad, sorry to hear that.

[Anonymous]

LMAO - text?

Yeah, you don't have a clue what goes on.

[Asker]

Thank you ;)

[Iron_Man]

They always tell everything

[Asker]

Good and not so good right?

[Iron_Man]

If she has her your back, she won’t say nothing negative against you

[Asker]

Well that’s good, my conscience is clear and I was polite so who knows what she’s thinking….. it’s all good, much appreciated dude, thank you

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[In_Trance]

I think you lied about your age

[Asker]

No I never lied about my age, if anything she may have, I’ve never lied about my age…. matter of fact I’ve turned down much younger women by telling them my age. I have an age range and I stick to it.

[Anonymous]

I tell my friends about anyone in crushing on