There’s this girl who keeps initiating plans with me for coffee about my job but then flaking last minute every time. Why would someone do that?

[Anonymous]

She asked if I wanted to do coffee some time because she had questions about what I do for work. She expressed interest in coding. Then she keeps flaking or not getting back to me on time with the apology “omg I’m so sorry. I was traveling!” Or something else. Then suggests another day and keeps flaking on that too. It’s really weird but she’s actively on Instagram as an influencer, so it wouldn’t surprise me if she’s just always looking for a better opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Id totally ignore her at this point, or ask her why she acts like that.

[Asker]

Yep for sure. I don't know who the hell she thinks she is. She’s not a supermodel. But she’s one of those types of girls that in her IG comments all her friends are like “to all the haters: she really does look this good.” Lmao no she doesn’t. She uses excessive filters and has the worst lip injections ever.

[Anarcamus]

What does her appearance have to do with any knowledge or skills you wanted from her?

[Asker]

@Anarcamus Um she saught ME out and asked me about my job.

[Anarcamus]

Your right, I'm dumb.
Still, why attack appearance here?
Take the even healthier approach that she's just missing out

[Asker]

@Anarcamus you’re totally right. I guess I’m just annoyed that she gets all this praise from people I don’t see what they see. So I don't know I shouldn’t get consumed with it

[Asker]

I think it’s just annoying that people we know think she’s this amazing person when she actually isn’t respectful to you if you’re not of “use” in some way to her.

[Anarcamus]

Who knows what her goals are, don't worry about it ultimately. You do you :-)
It took me years to really learn this, people are going to do what they do.