Is it a bad thing to crave male validation?

[Anonymous]

[Screenwriter]

It's a bad thing to crave ANY kind of validation outside of yourself.

It will take practice, but start validating and congratulating yourself. If you have to wait for external people, companies or entities to validate you, you'll ALWAYS be waiting on someone ELSE to tell you how important, wonderful, lovely, smart or whatever you want or need to hear, that you are.

It's NICE to be recognized, but recognize your worthinesses yourself. Then you never have to wait for anyone else's validation because it may never come!

[MementoMori777]

To a point yes, you should seek very small amounts, mostly if you are known to make changes for validation, it's normal for a woman to want a guy to think they are attractive but if it becomes excessive cravings for male validation and you feed those cravings, then that's already more of an attention seeker and it's no longer normal, but overall and in general it's normal for a woman to want a man to find them attractive cause it's the same for men with women but there's definitely a limit and it's not hard to cross if people are feeding the cravings.

[RealMarek]

You can’t necessarily help what you crave at one moment or another, but it is a bad thing to compromise yourself or make bad decisions in order to get it. Be patient until you find a worthy man who will provide that validation but also a healthy relationship.

[fonduegirl]

Depends on what you do to get it.

Like a cute selfie on Instagram or a hot video on YouTube where you wear something skimpy and do ridiculous dance moves? Sure. We've all been there.

But if your best friend takes you out shopping and you pick all items with a guy/guys approval and validation in mind — then there's something off. You should be able to have fun without thinking what other people will assume based on your choices.

[ManOnFire]

Not if the attention you want is coming from your boyfriend, husband, or a guy you're interested in.

Craving male attention is bad when you just want men in general to worship you like women on Instagram, yet never caring about those men or ever wanting to talk to them, you just want them to validate you.

[Jazzy54]

Yes. Men aren’t stupid. They can spot a desperate woman, seeking validation, from a mile away. Therefore, he will tell her all the things that she wants to hear. He can do this without having feelings for her. There are many men out here who are up to no good. Instead, wait for a man who will love you genuinely.

[Jazzy54]

Are there some unresolved issues that you need to take care of? Why do you want male validation?

[Malwi93]

how wanting to be an IG model makes me desperate?

[Jazzy54]

All I’m saying is that you don’t want every guy’s attention. Just be careful who you attract.

[nastyb]

as you get older, you will start to mature and realize yourself worth is worth way more than male validation. Some people never mature and they carry it lifelong.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's not really good or bad. But think about the overall picture. What is it really accomplishing? And if you have to continually seek compliments from various men, wouldn't it make more sense to get your own man?

[Asker]

Women seek validation even when they have a man

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay; well they shouldn't have to feel the need to do that. Sorry if this is an unpopular opinion, but I truly do believe that the role of a romantic partner is to be that validation for your partner. They should feel safe asking you for that, and you should give them that love generously. I believe this establishes a strong bond of trust in the relationship.

[Yannishka]

Yeah. What if you don't get it. You might freak out while me, who doesn't live to be validated, would still have a fairly good day.

[Anonymous]

No, it is our natural place to live to please men, it's why our bodies are designed the way they are so as to be unable to deny their pleasure, and as such it is natural for us to crave their validation

[Asker]

I agree

[Opinion Owner]

I wish more people would understand this... its so much easier once you finally decide to just submit

[Asker]

It is a bit hard to accept this. Some men are not worth submitting to

[Opinion Owner]

It can be hard, but I disagree that some men are not worth submitting to, it's only natural and we are told to submit by God.

[Nikki1989]

Well, the problem is it gets old very quickly.

[Lynx122]

Well it can lead to bad decisions but it's your life.

[lightbulb27]

what does that mean? in other words, you don't feel good unless a male desires you?

[FreyaRed]

What want you validate by men? Appearance, your personality or opinions?

[TooHot2Care]

Yes, and it is also a bad thing to crave female validation. Wait, I crave female validation... Shit.

Welp, guess we're both sluts.

[RingOfFire]

It's a bad thing in the sense that it indicates a personal deficiency in women who feel the need to do it excessively.

[TacosRAwesome]

It's only bad if she comes across quite desperate.

[Luckycharms12]

Yesvyou should love yourself and be comfortable and confident in your own shoes not need others to boost your ego

[Anonymous]

Nah. You want to get a partner, have sex and have kids. Turns out male validation will help tremendously with that.

[Jackblue]

Well guys want to be adored by women so why shouldn't women want the reverse.

[007kingifrit]

no its an inherent part of being female, just make sure you seek it in healthy ways. not online

[LiamJHayden]

It might be bad to seek validation from anyone.

[imfreeze95]

It’s a bad thing to crave validation from ANYONE. Full stop.

[justabuddy]

I tend to say yes. True confidence comes from within. Craving validation can lead you down the wrong path pretty quick if left unchecked.

[Anonymous]

I mean to what extent? Are you a pick me, or a woman who puts other women down to get that attention?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is. It makes someone look desperate and pathetic

[LazerBean]

Yes, it means you have daddy issues.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Savage ✋

[Asker]

What about the girls that don't have daddy issues?

[Vegasrunner]

@LazerBean You believe every woman has daddy issues? because they all crave male validation.

[Asker]

@Vegasrunner exactly not every woman has daddy issues

[Vegasrunner]

@asker Agreed, women naturally seek male attention because it's what validates them.

[LazerBean]

Vegasrunner believes that everyone has daddy issues because he himself has daddy issues. That's why he's so emotional and promiscuous. But people who do not have daddy issues tend to have their emotions under enough control to not need other people to validate them and give them an emotional boost.

[Vegasrunner]

@LazerBean TY for this as this is gold! @asker if you look at her response notice the contridiction which begins w/ a personal attack yet claims someone else is the "emotional" one? This is a common tactic used by those that are insecure. Instead of examining the validity of your statement they take the position that those w/ different POV's must have external issues there are typically two reasons why people do this.
1) They have their own problems w/ said external issues. IE she may have her own daddy issues to work through.
2) They're immature - Only children attempt to work through problems through negative insults.
(If you pay attention you'll usually see a response to this w/ something of the effect of "I'm sorry you feel insulted... etc)

[LazerBean]

Well that's a lot of words that I'm not going to read, since you've already established that you don't use logic anyway. Bottom line is, if you were not ruled by your emotions then you wouldn't be a filthy whore. Yet you are. So keep coping, fatherless boy.

[Vegasrunner]

@LazerBean The person that does not read has no advantage over the person that cannot read. Tbh most of my response was for the original author so that can get some clarity as to why so many women behave the way they do. In your case it seems as if your guilty of the actions you criticize.

[LazerBean]

Reading the coping process of a dog is no more advantageous and no less a waste of time than watching another dog lick it's genitals. Go back to licking yourself, dog.

[Vegasrunner]

@LazerBean Choosing to read is completely up to you, but the fact that you can comment on statements that you've never read only proves my point about women making their decisions based on emotion. TY for that.

[desidoll]

Yes, and it can never make you happy.

[Adam1978]

Yes especially strangers.

[jshm2]

Depends if you are getting it or not.

[es20490446e]

Nah, because that's how I seduce you.

[Iron_Man]

You probably want a man in your life

[mommymommymommy]

If you have daddy issues, that's common

[serious_miss419]

As long as it doesn’t harm you or them

[In_Trance]

I guess that depends on how you quantify bad

[Actor3]

No all girls and women do

[robocop666]

yeah cause women like that waste our time

[SnowedIn]

Nope.

[itsalyssaagain]

I don’t think so 😂

[harry000300]

Ofc not. 😅

[itsalyssaagain]

Unless you’re in a relationship then it’s disrespectful. But if you’re single, enjoy life girl lol

[harry000300]

Are you single? @itsalyssaagain

[itsalyssaagain]

No I’m not

[swettannie]

no it is not

[Fuentes]

Lol most females do