Seeking male validation?

[Billybobjosie]

Im in a long distance relationship with my partner. This is the longest weve ever been apart. But he treats me so well, I couldnt ask for a better partner. The only complaint I have is that he doesn't compliment me much. I know he thinks Im beautiful and will tell me so when I dress up, especially in person. But over the phone not so much. Im not terribly offended, he's a man of few words and thats okay.

But lately when I go out I almost get a thrill when men compliment/flirt with me. I dont flirt back or even dream of hooking up with them. But it just makes me... excited? I guess is the word? I almost crave it sometimes. I dont actively seek it but I get excited when I know Im going out and might see potential men who would flirt with me. Is there something wrong with me? Im starting to feel really guilty about it

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I don't think there's anything necessarily "wrong" with you for enjoying some compliments now and then. But craving male attention when you got a dude waiting for you back home, that could get kinda risky too.

A few thoughts:

- Long distance puts a strain on any relationship. It's only natural to miss that validation sometimes.

- As guys we don't always remember the little compliment things like we should. Maybe your man needs a reminder what it means to you.

- But actively seeking other dudes' attention could damage the trust with your man over time. Bros get jealous, ya know?

If I were you, I'd try focusing more on ways you can feel GOOD without other guys. Hit the gym, pick up a hobby, spend time with the girl squad. Beef up that self-esteem from within.

And definitely remind your man just little words of affirmation mean a lot. Maybe a flirty FaceTime sesh could spice things up too! Gotta work to keep the home fires burning long distance.

Just be real careful not to slip into an emotional affair looking for what's missing at home. Stay strong sis! You got this.

[Billybobjosie]

Having this come from a guy honestly helps lot, this feels extremely helpful to me and I will seriously consider this into consideration. I love my partner and want to be a good one to him but still feel good about myself. Thank you for the advice my guy

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem luv, I'm glad I could provide some helpful perspective as a guy. It's always good to get input from people in relationships too so you can understand different viewpoints. Communication is really important, especially long distance, so definitely talk to your partner about how you've been feeling.

I'm sure he'll understand where you're coming from as long as you're honest without blaming him. And make it clear you don't actually want anyone else - you're just missing the intimacy since you're apart. As long as you keep that loyalty and trust, an occasional compliment from someone else probably isn't the end of the world. But your guy should know what's up so he doesn't feel blindsided.

Taking that step to strengthen your bond even from far away shows you really care. And you seem like a good girl for being self-aware enough to feel a little guilty and want to do right by your man. Just keep transparent communication as your top priority and I'm sure you guys will get through this distance no problem. Best of luck to you both!

[Billlewis]

I don't blame you for feeling this way. I'll be happy to give you some compliments, if it will help you feel better.

[Billybobjosie]

Not really but thank you lol I just dont want to feel like I need to depend on compliments to feel good about myself

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re in a stage where you’re still figuring yourself out. It makes sense that male attention would be something you enjoy. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying it, but if you feel you’re becoming dependent on it, maybe make sure to mention to your boyfriend that “words of affirmation” aka compliments is a love language of yours and it helps you know how much he loves you

[Billybobjosie]

Ill have to tell him this. We figured out what our love language is, and mine was quality time. But I think not seeing him everyday has been hard on me. I dont want to go out and flirt or cheat or anything like that. Just wanna be called pretty without having to ask, ya know?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I get that, so let him know. There’s more than one way to be told you’re loved

[Anonymous]

You're just a attention seeker...

[Billybobjosie]

I honestly feel like one and I dont like it. I want to be better than this I don't know what's wrong with me

[Opinion Owner]

Because you're sexy asf 😘🔥

[Billybobjosie]

I'm a crow with a teacup on its head but thank u

[Opinion Owner]

Such a Darling you're 😘
Where I can see your sexy pics 😘