Why do slender girls show off their bodies on purpose to make me feel bad?

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I’ve always been a bigger girl. Struggled to lose weight, trouble finding clothes, and never having dates. Shoes are difficult to find. I’m 5’10 and plus size (22W) and 257lbs. When I see other girls that are slender or athletic, I get so jealous. I envy them so much. The shorter girls who are thin with flat or toned bellies are super lucky. Even in crop tops or crop jackets they look so cute. Even girls that are a little curvier and thicker look amazing too. I’ve never had a flat/toned and it looks like I never will. I yelled and insulted the thin girls in my PE class and screamed at them for making me feel bad. This one girl who is about under 5’5 and she is thin with a flat belly and she is beautiful. I gave her a hard time and I’ve once punched and slapped her because she made me jealous. She punched me in the face and shoved me. WTF? I screamed at her what she was doing today. She said, “What is your damn problem? I’m having lunch.” I yelled at her no she isn’t because she’s showing off her slender body on purpose to make me feel bad about myself and yelled at her face. She yelled at me back. She fights back. The other girls called me a jealous bitch. HOW THE HELL DO SOME GIRLS HAVE FLAT OR TONED BELLIES? It isn’t fair? I want slim legs and some of them complained about their slim legs and bellies? They are so ungrateful for the slender bodies they have. They look better in cute clothes.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

So you have punched, slapped and abused a slender girl and you are asking WTF because punched you back in the face and shoved you and yelled back at you.

If you are getting violent because you are jealous of other girl's slender bodies then you are at the point of needing counseling - perhaps through your school. Get it as a priority.

Sooner or later you will be on assault charges and you saying that they were flaunting their slender bodies to make you jealous isn't going to be accepted as a defense. Do it too many times and you will end up in jail.

i am quite sure those girls do flaunt their slender bodies because it is in the nature of girls to show their bodies to best advantage. In any case a girl simply can't hide she is slender. Even in a mother hubbard she will still look slender.

It is also quite true that guys prefer slender girls - I certainly do.

You aren't the only one that hasn't got the best genes. I could get twisted up not being 6' 6" and not having a penis that hangs down to my knees but I can't do anything about that.

You potentially can. You can lose weight if you put your mind and discipline to it. You might not be ever able to be the most slender because it also depends on musculature.

If you are being physically and verbally aggressive then you very much need to start addressing that.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

You are in a very bad space , blaming others for your own short comings.

Focus , on diet , exercise , complete lifestyle , though a doctor like Dr Sten Edberg , residing in wonderful USof A , Id see a phycologist while I was at it. Its your personal body image that is bringing you down.

Now stop this utter nonsense , its not the fault of the girls who are the correct weight ( Not slender ) - Correct body shape.

Alli39 · Accepted Answer

Gods where to even start. First off, being physically violent or verbally cruel to another person for any reason, let alone looks, is inappropriate. That is not ok. I don't care if you were jealous. There is absolutely no reason. None.

Second, no one is ever happy with their body. Personally, I'm currently struggling with being underweight due to mental health issues. People look at me and assume I work out or something and sometimes find it attractive, but it's actually very stressful and the result of being unable to eat properly. You don't know their difficulties or insecurities and have no right to say how they should feel about their bodies.

Lastly, no one is trying to make you feel bad. Those girls exist in the bodies they were born with, same as you. They're trying to learn to appreciate themselves, have an appearance they can be proud of, and deal with jealousy same as you. Their existence is not some sort of slight against yours and your belief that it is is probably the only truly ugly thing about you.

I'm sorry if this was harsh, but nothing about what you've said was actually ok. You have no right to treat people badly just because they look different from you.

JessicaEarl · Accepted Answer

This is very destructive behavior. I suggest seeing a therapist to help you find happiness. As a psychologist I can tell you that it’s very often that someone depressed/destructive thinks it’s because of a situation but then when that situation is solved, they still feel sad. I submit that you may be able to feel better if you find a true root of a problem. It just may not be your weight

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody is showing off their bodies on purpose to make you feel bad. I too would punch you if you ever dared put your hands on me. You don't get the fucking right to go and insult and assault people just because you don't look like them. You being a bigger girl is not their fault and you need to grow the fuck up.

DextroShade · Answer

Instead of attacking women who actually take care of themselves you should focus on losing weight and bettering yourself. 5'10" and 257 lbs is really obese and this didn't just happen to you. You are this fat because of your own choices as you are in control of every morsel of food that you eat, so you need to cut out the carbs, shrink your portions, and exercise more instead of bitterly assaulting people who didn't do anything to you.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

You oughta come to the south. Where you'll get that attitude adjusted for you real quick. It's not somebody else's problem to deal with your mountain of mental issues.

How the hell do other girls have flat or toned bellies? Same way us guys do. We eat responsibly and get off our ass.

kylee2437 · Answer

You are trying to belittle other women because you know you have weight to lose and that’s not very nice. Focus on yourself and stop trying to tear down girls because you wish you were them

kakaling · Answer

Pick one:

1) To feel good yourself. (Magically make all girls ugly and fat)

2) To attract guys, you like. (Magically make all guys likes you)

3) To enjoy being yourself. (Don't need to do anything)

You can't pick all, you only get one, and magically is never going to happen, you need to work for it.

DopeTurtle · Answer

Eh, because they feel good about their bodies and it’s more generally acknowledge as attractive. I’m personally more into curvy or fit women , even bbw if she’s really good looking but it truly depends on the individual tho.

slatyb · Answer

They don't. They aren't thinking about you at all or comparing themselves to you. Consider counseling to work on your self-acceptance.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's not to make you feel bad so much as to make them feel good. They like how they look and want to show off.

Joshcepticeye · Answer

First off, control your emotions, second off, slim girls aren't lucky, they have fit and slim bodies because they have found some way to stay fit and have watched what they are eating, how they spend there free time, etc, and finally, go to the gym and run on a treadmill, it really helps with losing weight.

LazerBean · Answer

Rest assured, there is very small chance anybody is thinking about you at all, so certainly not when they're picking their clothes.

Anonymous · Answer

We show off our bodies to everyone. It's probably not directed at you.

jahaims · Answer

Yep, everyone is so focused on you, that you dictate what everyone buys and wears

Anonymous · Answer

Hot girls don't care of ugly girls around them. They simply dont notice

FunkyMonkee · Answer

To make you feel bad!

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Girl you crazy

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

New day another landwhale complaining🥱

Awantika03 · Answer

Be confident

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