Why do slender girls show off their bodies on purpose to make me feel bad?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been a bigger girl. Struggled to lose weight, trouble finding clothes, and never having dates. Shoes are difficult to find. I’m 5’10 and plus size (22W) and 257lbs. When I see other girls that are slender or athletic, I get so jealous. I envy them so much. The shorter girls who are thin with flat or toned bellies are super lucky. Even in crop tops or crop jackets they look so cute. Even girls that are a little curvier and thicker look amazing too. I’ve never had a flat/toned and it looks like I never will. I yelled and insulted the thin girls in my PE class and screamed at them for making me feel bad. This one girl who is about under 5’5 and she is thin with a flat belly and she is beautiful. I gave her a hard time and I’ve once punched and slapped her because she made me jealous. She punched me in the face and shoved me. WTF? I screamed at her what she was doing today. She said, “What is your damn problem? I’m having lunch.” I yelled at her no she isn’t because she’s showing off her slender body on purpose to make me feel bad about myself and yelled at her face. She yelled at me back. She fights back. The other girls called me a jealous bitch. HOW THE HELL DO SOME GIRLS HAVE FLAT OR TONED BELLIES? It isn’t fair? I want slim legs and some of them complained about their slim legs and bellies? They are so ungrateful for the slender bodies they have. They look better in cute clothes.

[Alli39]

Gods where to even start. First off, being physically violent or verbally cruel to another person for any reason, let alone looks, is inappropriate. That is not ok. I don't care if you were jealous. There is absolutely no reason. None.

Second, no one is ever happy with their body. Personally, I'm currently struggling with being underweight due to mental health issues. People look at me and assume I work out or something and sometimes find it attractive, but it's actually very stressful and the result of being unable to eat properly. You don't know their difficulties or insecurities and have no right to say how they should feel about their bodies.

Lastly, no one is trying to make you feel bad. Those girls exist in the bodies they were born with, same as you. They're trying to learn to appreciate themselves, have an appearance they can be proud of, and deal with jealousy same as you. Their existence is not some sort of slight against yours and your belief that it is is probably the only truly ugly thing about you.

I'm sorry if this was harsh, but nothing about what you've said was actually ok. You have no right to treat people badly just because they look different from you.

[Asker]

So you’re saying I’m ugly because of my big ass? That’s so rude and uncalled for. I hate when slender girls complain about their bodies and their slim saying their ugly and too thin! I just wanted to slap the’ so hard! My legs rub together, I’m obese and my legs are so HUGE! I can’t even look at slim or fit women and people!

[Alli39]

Not at all. I'm saying that treating people poorly out of jealousy is never appropriate. I've never seen you. How would I know what I think of your appearance? Weight isn't everything. There are tons of physically beautiful women out there who are twice my size or more and I see no reason to think you're not one of them, but your actions and attitude here are the exact opposite of beautiful.

[Asker]

I know what I did was wrong but they have no idea how lucky they are. I wish I can fit into clothes very well and I don’t understand why some wish to be heavier bigger. I’ve never had a toned belly in my LIFE! I can’t wear the shit slender or fit women wear.

[Alli39]

Hun I'm tiny and shopping is an absolute nightmare some days. Everything looks awkwardly large or manages to be too tight in just one dimension or something because they make as many assumptions about how small bodies are shaped as any other body type.

There are tons of things I'll never look good in because of my height, or because of how flat chested I am, etc. I'm not saying your body doesn't make things difficult, I"m saying the experience of struggling with one's body is way more universal than you think. Buying into the idea that "thin" bodies are ideal and being upset by it just feeds the system/prejudice. Take responsibility for your body and your behavior.

[Asker]

We’ll I’m sorry to hear that. Being big and curvy isn’t any better either. I never understood why most girls wanna be taller and bigger.

[Alli39]

Try shopping for shoes in the kids section at age 22 and see how you feel about it then. Or trying to play pretty much any sport. Or wondering if the guy you're talking to is actually interested in your or just thinks you look like a child. Every body comes with a unique set of struggles, there's just some that's society has made a bigger deal out of than others.

[Asker]

Okay but it’s not as bad as not being about to find shoes because of my size 12W feet! Having to wear men’s shoes and can’t even wear those sparkly shoes those girls can wear. You try being a tall woman that no man wants! I intimidate men because of my height even if I don’t even talk to them. My 5’10” large bone structure scares off men! You try finding plus size clothing that causes a lot more money and that’s more money I have to spend of myself! My mom said we had to go to other stores for me because if i bought close and shoes it would cost me more. Once one of my cousins told me, “Damn you’re expensive! You let your get big and gain all that weight. That’s your fault.”
You try being a tall young woman that can’t get a date and go shopping! How do you like THAT?
Us bigger girls have it more difficult then you tiny, petite ladies do! We both have it hard but us tall ladies have it harder. I wish I was smaller but you wanna be bigger. Let’s face it, average height ladies have it the best okay? You have no fucking idea what it’s like to be a large tall woman!!! Being BIG isn't THAT GREAT!!! What is your point? That I should be glad that I’m big and tall?

[Asker]

I wish I was slender bit big. Big, obese and tall isn’t sexy but like too skinny isn’t sexy. I envy slender shorter girls but they wanna be my height. No they don’t! It’s terrible.

[Alli39]

Actually on the subject of shoes, this may sound super weird but there are companies that specialize in "women's shoes for men" that may be more likely to carry your size and plus size clothing is absolutely making headway in the broader market, so I hope your shopping difficulties become easier over time.

As for the insults and microagressions from your family, I'm so sorry to hear that you aren't currently surrounded by people that can be supportive of your personal struggles.

And lastly, I've personally come to terms with my body. If buying kids shoes means wearing things that fit then I'll shop for kids shoes. If one guy thinks I look like a kid, then I'll find someone who can appreciate my appearance and more importantly my personality. I'm not saying you have to love every aspect of your body, but hating it will hurt you more than anyone. And fr, I think everyone hates their body at least a little bit, even if it's due to issues you can't see.

Our personal struggles don't define us, how we react to them does.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s true. And thanks you. Also I’m sorry for going off. It’s just that I don’t know people don’t understand how tough it is to be a large tall woman. I’ve been treated like garbage because of it and I’m sorry about the way people treat you.

[Alli39]

No problem, we all make mistakes and I appreciate your apology. The ability to reflect on our actions is what gives us the ability to improve and move forward. I hope you're able to find more supportive people in your life in the future. Best wishes :)

[RavVid]

So you have punched, slapped and abused a slender girl and you are asking WTF because punched you back in the face and shoved you and yelled back at you.

If you are getting violent because you are jealous of other girl's slender bodies then you are at the point of needing counseling - perhaps through your school. Get it as a priority.

Sooner or later you will be on assault charges and you saying that they were flaunting their slender bodies to make you jealous isn't going to be accepted as a defense. Do it too many times and you will end up in jail.

i am quite sure those girls do flaunt their slender bodies because it is in the nature of girls to show their bodies to best advantage. In any case a girl simply can't hide she is slender. Even in a mother hubbard she will still look slender.

It is also quite true that guys prefer slender girls - I certainly do.

You aren't the only one that hasn't got the best genes. I could get twisted up not being 6' 6" and not having a penis that hangs down to my knees but I can't do anything about that.

You potentially can. You can lose weight if you put your mind and discipline to it. You might not be ever able to be the most slender because it also depends on musculature.

If you are being physically and verbally aggressive then you very much need to start addressing that.

[Asker]

Look I know what I did was wrong okay? And I got suspended for why I did. Slender women and fit ones are so lucky. They can wear the shit I can’t wear and I wish I had a toned belly but people say men like bigger women but I don’t care!

[RavVid]

I'm glad you recognize what you did was wrong. You do have the potential to change your body if most of your weight is fat and body mass index is a guide to that.

[Asker]

I know but I swear I hate those thin bitches!!! They don’t have to work as hard as me because they naturally have flat bellies. I hate them so fucking much I wanna cry and fucking throw something at them.

[molonski2]

You are in a very bad space , blaming others for your own short comings.

Focus , on diet , exercise , complete lifestyle , though a doctor like Dr Sten Edberg , residing in wonderful USof A , Id see a phycologist while I was at it. Its your personal body image that is bringing you down.

Now stop this utter nonsense , its not the fault of the girls who are the correct weight ( Not slender ) - Correct body shape.

[Asker]

What’s that supposed to mean? Correct body shape? Not all guys like thin girls! I’m sick of these slender girls complaining about their slender legs and flat/toned bellies! So many people including me would KILL for slender or toned legs and a toned belly! Mine juggles. I’ve never had a flat tummy or slim legs.

[molonski2]

You are in a very BAD , mental space , see a worthy qualified phycologist.

[Asker]

Whatever. When slender girls complain about their bodies and how they wish they were thicker that made me so angry!!! Stop complaining! They can fit into clothes

[JessicaEarl]

This is very destructive behavior. I suggest seeing a therapist to help you find happiness. As a psychologist I can tell you that it’s very often that someone depressed/destructive thinks it’s because of a situation but then when that situation is solved, they still feel sad. I submit that you may be able to feel better if you find a true root of a problem. It just may not be your weight

[JessicaEarl]

thanks for the mho

[Asker]

What does that supposed to mean?

[JessicaEarl]

It means thanks for the most helpful opinion. A lot of people thank the asker if awarded the mho

[Anonymous]

Nobody is showing off their bodies on purpose to make you feel bad. I too would punch you if you ever dared put your hands on me. You don't get the fucking right to go and insult and assault people just because you don't look like them. You being a bigger girl is not their fault and you need to grow the fuck up.

[Asker]

Wow you would punch a teenage girl? I’m only a teenager, 18. Don’t cuss at me old lady!!! It isn’t my fault that I’m fat! I hate slender girls showing off their bodies. Can’t believe the other girl punched me for saying my opinion.

[Joshcepticeye]

18 is a legal adult, how clueless are you? Also yes it is your fault that your fat. No one forced you to eat tons of food.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't give a shit if you are 18. You put your hands on me and you bet your ass I would punch you. You being overweight is only your fault, nobody else's so stop blaming every one else. If you were my child and I found out you were assaulting people I would be dragging your ass to the police station and having the police charge you because what you did was also a crime. Grow the fuck up and stop blaming others because your fat. If you don't want to be fat than go to the fucking gym and stop eating crap

[DextroShade]

Instead of attacking women who actually take care of themselves you should focus on losing weight and bettering yourself. 5'10" and 257 lbs is really obese and this didn't just happen to you. You are this fat because of your own choices as you are in control of every morsel of food that you eat, so you need to cut out the carbs, shrink your portions, and exercise more instead of bitterly assaulting people who didn't do anything to you.

[Asker]

Wow…. that was harsh…. it isn’t my fault!! Even the doctor and my dad said I should be blaming myself because I let myself get that way. When I complained that I’m fat, my dad said, “Well since you brought it up, YES you are fat. You’re fat! You complain about your body and you don’t do a damn thing about it! You need to lose weight.”
I was shocked when he called me fat. He was supposed to say that I’m not fat and I’m look beautiful but instead he just called me fat.

[DextroShade]

It's better that he tells you the truth instead of lying to you. And yes it is your fault that are fat and it's your responsibility to fix it. Demanding that others say your rotund ass is beautiful is the height of narcissistic entitlement.

[Asker]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
How dare you call me rotund ass! That’s so mean. I’m only a teenager. I’m 18 going on 19 this year.
My dad is so mean!! He even told me to my face that overweight and obesity isn’t a beautiful thing, it’s a problem and I’m too lazy to do anything about it.
Dads are supposed to make their daughters feel beautiful no matter what sizes but no he insulted me and called me fat. I complained to my brothers and they told me dad has a point and I really do need to lose weight and no 18 year old should be this heavy.
One said, “Well Dad told you the truth and you needed to hear that and telling people that your fat ass is beautiful and being so nasty and demanding is selfish. No I’m not calling you ugly so you better not get mad when I tell you when you’re wrong.”
My other brother nodded and agreed. He said, “The problem with women like you is that you can’t handle the truth and when you ask, you don’t really want the truth, you just want people to agree with you all the damn time and it doesn’t work that way.”
Can’t believe my brothers agree that I’m fat.

[DextroShade]

That you are still so young makes it worse that you are so heavy. Your family is telling you this because they care, and when you are this overweight you will suffer health problems much sooner than you would otherwise. Theyvare just trying to save you from a short, lonely life.

[NotInterestedSorry]

@Asker you are there saying DextroShade was harsh and saying it was mean of him to say you have a rotund ass. Yet aren't you the one who is being horrible to these thinner girls and saying how you have physically assaulted them. You are there also saying your dad shouldn't call you fat, but instead he should make you feel beautiful. Why would he make someone feel beautiful who is essentially a bully and could even be potentially arrested and charged for assaulting people just for being thin, according to what you wrote. You also sit there saying you aren't fat, at the same time you are there saying you are fat. STOP complaining and do something about your weight. STOP blaming others as well.

[Asker]

I understand that but they don’t have to be so harsh. My oldest brother called me fat ass. That wasn’t nice. Why are people so brutally blunt with us younger folks? We’re sensitive. They wouldn’t say that when I was 7 or 8. I miss being a kid 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[BoopBoopBeep]

You oughta come to the south. Where you'll get that attitude adjusted for you real quick. It's not somebody else's problem to deal with your mountain of mental issues.

How the hell do other girls have flat or toned bellies? Same way us guys do. We eat responsibly and get off our ass.

[kylee2437]

You are trying to belittle other women because you know you have weight to lose and that’s not very nice. Focus on yourself and stop trying to tear down girls because you wish you were them

[Asker]

Most men like petite and average height women. I’m sick of these fit and slender girls and women showing off their bodies making us bigger gals look bad. The thinner girls said most men prefer curvy women anyways and being thin isn’t all great. Neither is being a heavy and fat woman! I hate women with flat and toned bellies. Fuck them!!! I hate them.

[kylee2437]

@asker instead of worrying about this, you should be worried about the fact that your current weight can put you at risk for heart disease , diabetes etc. you are worried about the most irrelevant crap to deflect your own issues.

[Asker]

Why do you think I’m trying to lose weight? It’s bad enough for women show off their bodies and wear cute clothes and I can’t because of my fat tall ass. Can’t believe that little bitch punched me because I’m telling my honest feelings. Im disgusted with her slender body and the fact that her thighs don’t touch but she isn’t underweight. She bitches and complains about her slim legs. Im like, “Girl if you don’t shut up…”

[kylee2437]

Just focus on you. There’s no need for this mean girl passive aggressive attitude. You need to focus on the main issue which is health issues associated with heavier weight.

[Asker]

Thank you

[kakaling]

Pick one:

1) To feel good yourself. (Magically make all girls ugly and fat)

2) To attract guys, you like. (Magically make all guys likes you)

3) To enjoy being yourself. (Don't need to do anything)

You can't pick all, you only get one, and magically is never going to happen, you need to work for it.

[DopeTurtle]

Eh, because they feel good about their bodies and it’s more generally acknowledge as attractive. I’m personally more into curvy or fit women , even bbw if she’s really good looking but it truly depends on the individual tho.

[Asker]

Okay but I’m ladies can be thin and curvy but I don’t give a damn what guys like. The thin girls said being thin isn’t all that great and they told me guys and men prefer women on the thicker and curvier side anyways and I should be lucky.

[slatyb]

They don't. They aren't thinking about you at all or comparing themselves to you. Consider counseling to work on your self-acceptance.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's not to make you feel bad so much as to make them feel good. They like how they look and want to show off.

[Asker]

I mean yeah but they shouldn’t do it in front of me! I’m 5’10 a size 22W and 257lbs! I’ve struggled to lose weight for a while. I’ve never been slender. If I wore crop tops and jeans I would look terrible! I hate slender people! I wanna slap them for being ungrateful for their slender and toned bodies.

[ProbablyClueless]

I've struggled with my weight loss too, so I know how you feel! Do yourself a favor and get your thyroid function checked. It turned out that I have an under active thyroid.

Research the tests for yourself and figure out how to interpret the data on your own, because your doctor might not get it right, but you might have an underactive thyroid.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Joshcepticeye]

First off, control your emotions, second off, slim girls aren't lucky, they have fit and slim bodies because they have found some way to stay fit and have watched what they are eating, how they spend there free time, etc, and finally, go to the gym and run on a treadmill, it really helps with losing weight.

[LazerBean]

Rest assured, there is very small chance anybody is thinking about you at all, so certainly not when they're picking their clothes.

[Anonymous]

We show off our bodies to everyone. It's probably not directed at you.

[Asker]

You’re very lucky to be fit/slender! It isn’t fair.

[jahaims]

Yep, everyone is so focused on you, that you dictate what everyone buys and wears

[Anonymous]

Hot girls don't care of ugly girls around them. They simply dont notice

[Asker]

Who are you calling ugly?

[FunkyMonkee]

To make you feel bad!

[Asker]

Exactly! Us fat girls aren’t wanted, especially tall and bigger girls.

[FunkyMonkee]

So far, all I've had are fat girls!

[Asker]

What’s a wrong with that?

[FunkyMonkee]

Nothing but, I'd like to try a skinny girl, for once! Preferably a tall virgin.

[Asker]

I FUCKING HATE THIN BITCHES THAT SHOW OFF THEIR FUCKING FLAT BELLIES!!! I HATE THEM AND FUCK THEM!!!

[FunkyMonkee]

Tell us how you REALLY feel.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Girl you crazy

[Asker]

I am not crazy. It’s the truth! I wish slender people would just eat and eat and eat so they can get fat and be in my shoes! They have no idea how horrible it is to be overweight, and fat and nobody wants you.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

So then why don't you eat less and put yourself in their shoes?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

That's the cool about our bodies. We can change them

[Asker]

😳😳😳😳

[Asker]

You just roasted me

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol, I wasn't trying to
I just meant bitches will be bitches. You can't change them, but you can change yourself

[Asker]

What do you mean put myself in their shoes? I can’t because I’ve never been slender.

[LimitedBenefits101]

New day another landwhale complaining🥱

[Asker]

Landwhale? What does that supposed to mean?

[Awantika03]

Be confident

[Asker]

How can I? I can’t believe there’s slender girls that hate being slender. I KILL for slender legs. I rather be thin and curvy than plus size and curvy. I hate my fat legs and flappy belly.

[Awantika03]

Being plus size is not bad
You are the creation of God 🙏

[Asker]

It isn’t but my weight is a problem. One of my cousins told me there’s men that prefer plus size or bigger girls over a slender girl and I don’t need to be petite or slender to be beautiful. Well those guys would be rejecting me when I get to my perfect size 6. Right now I need to lose weight.

[Awantika03]

Try yoga and workout

[Asker]

Thanks

[Awantika03]

Ur welcome 😘