Why do women lie about the importance of looks? (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

It's not true. Obviously, looks matter. You have to feel attraction, but it's no more than that.

[Asker]

I didn't say its the most important thing. But it definitely matters in the beginning and if you dont have looks, women won't want to get to know you or your personality

[Opinion Owner]

And the other way around, looks always matter to some extent. Falling in love needs a spark of attraction, nobody fall in love with a bum, so looks matter, of course.

[Asker]

Why do people gaslight incels then and tell them its their personality and attitude that can't attract women

[Opinion Owner]

Personality and attitude also matter, but nobody becomes a romantic interest, if there is no attraction in the first place.

[Asker]

Exactly yet people lie and say that bullshit that personality is why they fail

[Opinion Owner]

It's because if you say looks matter, then you sound superficial, and nobody wants to sound like that.

[Asker]

But intrinsically we do these things anyway

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, but there is a difference between what we do and what we talk about, for social reasons. We can't just say anything we like just because it's true. We have to consider the consequences and the situation, before we speak.

[Asker]

Your actions are the ultimate truth. And people who say personality are usually lying

[Sasha0426]

Because we’re expected to date guys no matter how they look. If we say what we like, we get in trouble.

[Asker]

Be honest. Don't be afraid and buy yourself a 9mm if you feel threatened

[dolemite58]

they don’t want to seem as superficial as they are 🤷‍♂️

[Sharkstealth]

With women everything has an excuse to lie. Testing, let em down easy, don't make them feel bad, get something for free, use them etc.

[BigDog1989]

They want a guy who looks good, but, it's not the be all end all

[Asker]

Im not saying its the be all. But women are full of it when it comes to say that personality is what attracted them

[BigDog1989]

They don't really answer the way we "want" them to, because women know, men are more into a girls looks, than a girl is, him. But, it still does count

[Blueeyes81]

To admit otherwise would take away the leverage of men being shallow.

[MountAverage]

Never been with a woman who lied about that.

[shades777]

They lie about everything, its all just a game to them

[Anonymous]

Because women don't want to be seen as shallow whether it be true or not.

[Anonymous]

Personality can make an attractive man more attractive.

[Asker]

a lot of guys don't get a chance to show their personality because they couldnt pass the looks threshold

[Opinion Owner]

Same with unattractive girls. Maybe you guys should hook up?

[Asker]

They dont want ugly guys. They want Chads

[Anonymous]

Because women make the mistake of mistaking physical traits for personality traits and don't even realize. PLEASE DON'T ARGUE WITH ME 😑😑😑

[Anonymous]

Looks are imp for me but not the most important

[Asker]

No one said they're the most important. I just think women are disingenuous about just how much it matters

[Opinion Owner]

But we are not… we are just not as superficial as men are. What are looks gonna do for me on the long run? I just need attraction

[Asker]

Yeah but if a guy doesn't have them, then what? Is his personality gonna magically woo you 😂

[Äxlbäksölöl]

Yes you guys are

[Opinion Owner]

If he doesn’t have what i am looking for then i am not even wasting time and I've yet to be impressed by a man’s personality more often than not they are just misogynistic and dumb… like there is no personality with them anyway. And I didn’t know i can’t have both? Also I don’t think he has to be attractive he has to be attractive to me like he doesn’t have to be a model or something i just need to be attracted to him.

[Asker]

Personality can't just be changed. Personality is somewhat inherited and genetic

[Asker]

And if you find a guy attractive, chances are other women too

[Jmmmfi4]

Good question