They never say that looks don't matter. But they never say just how much they matter and how important they are. Without looks, personality is useless. But yet women will say that personality can make a man more attractive.
They don't want to appear mean or degrading people based on their looks but women can be some of the most judgmental beings
women lie. shocker.
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You won't see a lot of women openly talking about these things in an honest way because of their instincts. Women are not as physically strong as men are & the last thing you wanna do is anger some random guy who's got insecurities about his attractiveness. So ofc they'll take the safer option.
Then ofc there's the truth that many people (or women in this case) don't really understand why they find certain things attractive about a guy. They just know they find the guy attractive if they do. And after that, they focus on the other aspects about him. Like the commonly mentioned ones. Confidence, personality, competence, etc.
I mean we care to some extent. Like, obviously you want to be at least somewhat attracted to your partner, but your guy doesn't have to be a 10 to be attractive. Moreover, it depends on the person, just like with guys. Some people put more stock into it than others.
But at the end of the day I'd say the majority of women, at least women who are looking for relationships as opposed to hook-ups, really are more interested in a guy's personality. She wants to find someone who will make her happy, and just being hot isn't going to cut it. (But like, if it's a hook-up then it legit might just be looks because he's not going to be around long enough for his personality to show through.)
(Also, by politically correct, I suspect you mean "polite and thought-out", as opposed to "superficial and abrasive".)
most of my girl friends rejects ugly guys and whenever i send them a picture of one of my crushes (they're actually handsome but she has a different type and considers them ugly) she tells me eww he looks like a rat , find someone else , or she tells me ''let's go to this place there's a lot of handsome guys there'' , so I agree , and like I blocked 3 guys (altho i liked their personality and started a great conversation) but when they sent me a face reveal I blocked them so yeah part of it is true , but most girls would be totally fine with average looking guys , or medium ugly , the ones i blocked weren't average , but it varies from girl to girl on how much she prioritizes looks
Looks are very important for attracting women, and you can certainly be let off the hook for certain things, but that doesn't mean she'll come crawling back to you if you make her feel like shit.
Women are very sensitive, and I'd even go as far to say that they will fault a handsome man even more if makes her feel unwanted.
Say he just loses interest in her after some time...
A girl will move on from an average dude and tell herself "I deserve better"... no hard feelings (towards him). But if he's good looking, she'll think he was using and abusing her and that he's probably doing that to 3 other women, and she'll hate his fucking guts forever
The moral of the story is, as a handsome man, you actually have to put more effort into making a girl feel special than the average dude, or she will move on
Looks play a minor factor in choice... when the woman is decent & respectable because yes personality IS more important. Respectable women DO NOT want douchebags, abusive trash and general losers that think their looks entitle them. Such men contribute NO real values to a relationship or family.
Women who are trashy themselves - so cheap, promiscuous, dressing overly revealing, etc. - prefer looks over personality because these women likewise contribute NO real values to a proper relationship or family. They are attracted to overly attractive oftentimes insecure and abusive - as in verbally putting others down, etc - men because they TOO have undesirable personality.
There's a saying
Birds of a feather flock together
So decent respectable women go for decent respectful men. And undesirable people - with bad personalities and flawed natures - go together.
i was gonna say how you make a woman feel is way more important than how you look
even though that’s true
but look a big lie that our culture tells about women is that all women are good women and queens and perfect 10s and special snowflakes
a woman good ( one worth having and being with ) who actually likes and cares for you will not care about your looks she will only care about how you treat her
I hate to be harsh here but only about 5 maybe 10 percent of women are good women the other 90 are only good for sex , stress and emptying your wallet.
The funniest thing happened here. When I shifted from girls to guys opinions.
Looks are not that important was what girls were basically saying. And then bamm. The first opinion among guys. Looks are very important.
Complete polar opposites. Interesting and funny.
Personality 100% can make or break the attraction. Looks are what draws people in but a good personality is what makes people stay. If you’re a 10/10 looks wise but you’re an ass, you’re more like a 4.5/10 in my books. If you’re like a 6/10 looks wise but you make me laugh and have a good personality, you’re a 10/10 to me.
Now see I say looks are useless without a good personality… It’s like getting a fancy wrapped gift but when you open it there’s nothing but a pile of shit inside..
Looks do matter for most of us, they are important and a close 2nd to personality for me. Without a nice personality the love goggles quickly come off and I don’t find myself being attracted anymore. Vise versa if he’s got a good personality but ugly it won’t work for me either
because looks are only the first impression to them.
money and status is what they are really attracted to. of course if your looks are above average then that's enough for them to chace you but if you lack the other 2 then they will feel like their chace was in vain
We aren't lying about that. Looks don't matter to most women. Personality is far more important
For all the times I've heard a woman say something along the lines of "looks don't matter as much a personality" I start to assume those women are jus fat, they know it, and they're trying to justify themselves.
Fat mother fuckers.
Women are generally very communitarian in their thinking and ant to avoid direct conflict or criticism by you or society by voicing their opinions. But that being said, there's an old quote, "there are no ugly rich men."
personality is never useless. don't think like that... your attitude may play a big role in this too.
Looks do matter for both sexes no matter what. But i think women as they grow older and want to start a family and have kids they start to consider other things about their partner. Like money, job, status
I've never lied about such thing. I always admitted I like handsome guys. I could never date someone I don't find attractive.
Confidence do make a guy look attractive but I get what you mean. I think girls just say that so they don’t seem shallow. I not a great looking but my girl is always gets attracted when I show off my confidence and charmingly attributes.
Why do you lie about women lying about the importance of looks?
Looks have always been at the bottom of my list of priorities. If you want to go on believing the myth, go right ahead.
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