Why do women lie about the importance of looks?

Question

They never say that looks don't matter. But they never say just how much they matter and how important they are. Without looks, personality is useless. But yet women will say that personality can make a man more attractive.

jwmiller95 · Accepted Answer

They don't want to appear mean or degrading people based on their looks but women can be some of the most judgmental beings

barn_stormer · Accepted Answer

women lie. shocker.

Sonorous · Answer

You won't see a lot of women openly talking about these things in an honest way because of their instincts. Women are not as physically strong as men are & the last thing you wanna do is anger some random guy who's got insecurities about his attractiveness. So ofc they'll take the safer option.

Then ofc there's the truth that many people (or women in this case) don't really understand why they find certain things attractive about a guy. They just know they find the guy attractive if they do. And after that, they focus on the other aspects about him. Like the commonly mentioned ones. Confidence, personality, competence, etc.

Alli39 · Answer

I mean we care to some extent. Like, obviously you want to be at least somewhat attracted to your partner, but your guy doesn't have to be a 10 to be attractive. Moreover, it depends on the person, just like with guys. Some people put more stock into it than others.

But at the end of the day I'd say the majority of women, at least women who are looking for relationships as opposed to hook-ups, really are more interested in a guy's personality. She wants to find someone who will make her happy, and just being hot isn't going to cut it. (But like, if it's a hook-up then it legit might just be looks because he's not going to be around long enough for his personality to show through.)

(Also, by politically correct, I suspect you mean "polite and thought-out", as opposed to "superficial and abrasive".)

Reem12345reem · Answer

most of my girl friends rejects ugly guys and whenever i send them a picture of one of my crushes (they're actually handsome but she has a different type and considers them ugly) she tells me eww he looks like a rat , find someone else , or she tells me ''let's go to this place there's a lot of handsome guys there'' , so I agree , and like I blocked 3 guys (altho i liked their personality and started a great conversation) but when they sent me a face reveal I blocked them so yeah part of it is true , but most girls would be totally fine with average looking guys , or medium ugly , the ones i blocked weren't average , but it varies from girl to girl on how much she prioritizes looks

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Looks are very important for attracting women, and you can certainly be let off the hook for certain things, but that doesn't mean she'll come crawling back to you if you make her feel like shit.
Women are very sensitive, and I'd even go as far to say that they will fault a handsome man even more if makes her feel unwanted.
Say he just loses interest in her after some time...
A girl will move on from an average dude and tell herself "I deserve better"... no hard feelings (towards him). But if he's good looking, she'll think he was using and abusing her and that he's probably doing that to 3 other women, and she'll hate his fucking guts forever

The moral of the story is, as a handsome man, you actually have to put more effort into making a girl feel special than the average dude, or she will move on

Anonymous · Answer

Looks play a minor factor in choice... when the woman is decent & respectable because yes personality IS more important. Respectable women DO NOT want douchebags, abusive trash and general losers that think their looks entitle them. Such men contribute NO real values to a relationship or family.

Women who are trashy themselves - so cheap, promiscuous, dressing overly revealing, etc. - prefer looks over personality because these women likewise contribute NO real values to a proper relationship or family. They are attracted to overly attractive oftentimes insecure and abusive - as in verbally putting others down, etc - men because they TOO have undesirable personality.

There's a saying

Birds of a feather flock together

So decent respectable women go for decent respectful men. And undesirable people - with bad personalities and flawed natures - go together.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

i was gonna say how you make a woman feel is way more important than how you look

even though that’s true

but look a big lie that our culture tells about women is that all women are good women and queens and perfect 10s and special snowflakes

a woman good ( one worth having and being with ) who actually likes and cares for you will not care about your looks she will only care about how you treat her

I hate to be harsh here but only about 5 maybe 10 percent of women are good women the other 90 are only good for sex , stress and emptying your wallet.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

The funniest thing happened here. When I shifted from girls to guys opinions.

Looks are not that important was what girls were basically saying. And then bamm. The first opinion among guys. Looks are very important.

Complete polar opposites. Interesting and funny.

thatshydork · Answer

Personality 100% can make or break the attraction. Looks are what draws people in but a good personality is what makes people stay. If you’re a 10/10 looks wise but you’re an ass, you’re more like a 4.5/10 in my books. If you’re like a 6/10 looks wise but you make me laugh and have a good personality, you’re a 10/10 to me.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Now see I say looks are useless without a good personality… It’s like getting a fancy wrapped gift but when you open it there’s nothing but a pile of shit inside..

MissBoogus · Answer

Looks do matter for most of us, they are important and a close 2nd to personality for me. Without a nice personality the love goggles quickly come off and I don’t find myself being attracted anymore. Vise versa if he’s got a good personality but ugly it won’t work for me either

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

because looks are only the first impression to them.

money and status is what they are really attracted to. of course if your looks are above average then that's enough for them to chace you but if you lack the other 2 then they will feel like their chace was in vain

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

For all the times I've heard a woman say something along the lines of "looks don't matter as much a personality" I start to assume those women are jus fat, they know it, and they're trying to justify themselves.

Fat mother fuckers.

Kaamraj · Answer

Women are generally very communitarian in their thinking and ant to avoid direct conflict or criticism by you or society by voicing their opinions. But that being said, there's an old quote, "there are no ugly rich men."

Apple1996 · Answer

We aren't lying about that. Looks don't matter to most women. Personality is far more important

Nikki1989 · Answer

Looks have always been at the bottom of my list of priorities. If you want to go on believing the myth, go right ahead.

Meropatrick · Answer

Looks do matter for both sexes no matter what. But i think women as they grow older and want to start a family and have kids they start to consider other things about their partner. Like money, job, status

Anonymous · Answer

personality is never useless. don't think like that... your attitude may play a big role in this too.

sheikalana · Answer

I've never lied about such thing. I always admitted I like handsome guys. I could never date someone I don't find attractive.

kellytheman · Answer

Confidence do make a guy look attractive but I get what you mean. I think girls just say that so they don’t seem shallow. I not a great looking but my girl is always gets attracted when I show off my confidence and charmingly attributes.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you lie about women lying about the importance of looks?

Anonymous · Answer

It's not true. Obviously, looks matter. You have to feel attraction, but it's no more than that.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Because we’re expected to date guys no matter how they look. If we say what we like, we get in trouble.

dolemite58 · Answer

they don’t want to seem as superficial as they are 🤷‍♂️

Sharkstealth · Answer

With women everything has an excuse to lie. Testing, let em down easy, don't make them feel bad, get something for free, use them etc.

BigDog1989 · Answer

They want a guy who looks good, but, it's not the be all end all

Blueeyes81 · Answer

To admit otherwise would take away the leverage of men being shallow.

MountAverage · Answer

Never been with a woman who lied about that.

shades777 · Answer

They lie about everything, its all just a game to them

Anonymous · Answer

Because women don't want to be seen as shallow whether it be true or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Personality can make an attractive man more attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women make the mistake of mistaking physical traits for personality traits and don't even realize. PLEASE DON'T ARGUE WITH ME 😑😑😑

Anonymous · Answer

Looks are imp for me but not the most important

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Good question

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