Girls, Any girls out there that aren't trying to be sahm/sahw or aren't cool with gender roles can answer this question?

[Anonymous]

What is it with guys asking the girl if they like cooking question or if you like to cook or if you can cook? Just anything related to cooking. I just freaking hate that question. What is the point in asking me that, he's hoping I'll baby him, I'll be his mommy and make him a bunch of food because he's useless and doesn't know what a measuring cup is. I always very much go extremely out of my way to never talk about cooking because I don't want to talk about how I'm suddenly going to conform to his wet dreams of babying him. I try to never bring up cooking or me cooking. I accidentally did that with this guy I'm talking to. He asked what I am doing and I said making Spanish rice and watching TV. And he was like, "Do you like to cook?" Then I realized I messed up. This question annoys me. I'm like oh do I have to like cooking because I'm going to be your slave in the fucking kitchen? Honestly I don't mind cooking, I do it because I need to survive, I need to eat. It's not rocket science, it's so easy to do. But I hate useless men that think I'm going to cater to them. Like no bitch make your own food. If he makes food for both of us then I would feel more inclined to make him some food too. But for it to only be on me, no way is that ever going to happen. How do you girls feel about this?

[provokeesmokee]

I don't think "do you like cooking" should be a triggering or angering question. It's a normal question.

And besides, most adults find it a good life skill to be able to cook. And it is.

Being a grown adult and being able to feed yourself is kind of a basic requirement.

Not only is it a good skill testing question, it's a great conversation starter. It can lead off to questions of favourite restaurants (next date ideas), favourite cuisines, new lessons learned, other stories, etc.

I'm non-binary, bisexual, and very much don't gaf about gender norms beyond seeing them smashed. But it doesn't make me angry to be asked if I enjoy cooking.

I think it's a perfectly normal question to ask a grown adult. Heck, even an older teenager.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with a guy finding cooking skills attractive in a woman? My fiance cooks as well as I do (probably better) and I think it's sexy. So what? I like a man who knows how to cook. What's wrong with me saying that? I don't understand why some people are so sensitive about that these days.

And no, I am not a sah anything?

[Asker]

It's attractive that he cooks. It's unattractive that he expects you to do everything

[kaylaS91]

I like cooking a lot but would never be a sahm or sahw. That's just because I don't want to be 100% dependent on anyone but myself, or marry someone who will to some extent be babied.