So my girlfriend nags a lot sometimes it really started to mess with me psychologically. Anything that would take time she would nag about. Sometimes i know she is jealous and thinks i am out with Some girl (which is not true) she would keep calling to discuss silly matters just to spy. She is not the first girl i date that nags so breaking up isn't the solution. It seems that women happen to have this habit. PLEASE any advice from guys on here to deal with that. older guys who have been married or dating for a long time opinion will be much appeciated i dont want to leave my girlfriend :(
I wouldn't put uo with it to be honest it's easier said then done but because it happens and u don't bring it up she will continue because she knows its accepted behavior many people in relationships allow toxic traits to be acceptable behaviour through fear of causing issues when u are already dealing with issues
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(25-29)
8 mo
She doesn't really nag, but if I'm annoyed about something (something that has nothing to do with her) she for whatever reason feels the need to keep talking about that something that I'm annoyed about, making it impossible to get over it, and then pulls the "you don't have to take it out on me"...
I just remind myself that I probably do things that annoy her too lol
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8 mo
The being jealous/accusing me of cheating is something I wouldn't put up with tho not all girls do that
About wanting to buy things. I always try to bring her what she want when i can but Sometimes it takes time to save. But this is not the main issue also. With the jealousy thing. she sees rivals when there is none. I would go out with friends and she would be texting and calling a lot to talk about silly stuff. I know she does it just to listen if there are any girls talking around me or so
What you can do is tell her where you will be and then text her to check in when you get there. She shouldn’t have any need to call you unless it’s an emergency. Do you update her when you leave to come home?
Regarding buying things, you have a shared budget. At your weekly meetings finances and goals should be a topic. She has no need to nag you if weekly you are discussing major purchases
@Meropatrick "Yes we share money but she spends a lot beyond our means"
That's not your problem. There's no ring on either of your fingers. That's also a huge red flag because it's unlikely to get better when/if you do get married. That she would have the audacity to ask you to buy anything when she can't budget like an adult is reason enough to tell her to get her shit in check. Also tell her you're not picking up your phone when you're out. You gave her the courtesy of telling her you were going out, and remind her that's more than she has earned.
