Why are women prone to hating themselves?

[Lynx122]

The way mental health problems manifest with women is just so different and foreign to me. Cutting themselves , getting back into bad relationships that they know will never work out just because they fulfill some kind of short term need and allow them to cope or delude themselves that everything is great. Even if they know it's counterproductive they can't stop. They even say openly that they hate themselves and they're struggling with that. That just blows my mind when I hear someone say that.

It just seems like they've already given up on life being good even though it's just started and so much more can still happen. When something good happens they shrug it off and when something bad happens it confirms everything they believe about themselves and the world. It's defeatist.

When bad shit happens to me I protect myself from the people (most of the time people are the problem) by confronting them or cutting them out of my life. And then I try and work towards improving my situation my environment and myself as well. So I can have more positive experiences and less negative ones.

Men do stupid and self destructive shit too but the attitude is just different. I need to dive deeper to fully understand the differences.

A lot of women say it's beauty standards that are the problem everything has to do with beauty. But that just can't be the whole answer. If you're so strongly affected by it, that it can ruin your whole life, then there's already a deeper problem with your mental health. You can't exist and be happy without attention and validation from the outside. That's not the fault of society or advertisers or models or the beauty industry. They exploit it but they're not responsible for the void inside you. You need to figure out how to fill that.

I don't wanna judge I just want to learn and understand.

I'm grateful for every comment and explanation thank you :)

[Little_Bumblebee]

Society runs on women hating themselves.
We're never good enough. We're too slutty, too prude. Too outgoing. Not enough.
We need to trust men, and yet we shouldn't. If something happens it's on us. But if we protect ourselves we get crap for that too.
We need to be skinny, big breasts and a big ass, which genetically is rare to have and it takes a lot of work to get as well.
If there's girly things we like, we're basic or it's undermined.
We're constantly being put down. Even by our own peers. Even by our own mothers.

I hear women in the states learn to yell "fire" instead of "help" or "rape" if anything happens to them.

And think of all the lingo that has been going on since childhood.
Think how you even talk down to boys, is by comparing them to girls. Unhealthy for both sides by the way. You throw like a girl, punch like a girl. Etc.
We're told from childhood of a boy is mean to us, it's because he likes us.

When women try something, there'll always be those people who'll tell them to get back to the kitchen, that were never good enough etc.

I'm starting to rant. And sure. This is very general, but also very true to so many girls and women. And I myself can nod at most of these myself.

[abbyjgriffin98]

I think it's a mix of genetics and environment. Some people are more prone to disorders such as Depression, Bipolar Disorder, Borderline Personally Disorder, etc. which make them feel insecure. But also, it is the way we were raised. If you were underpraised, you are going to feel insecure. Meanwhile, if you were overpraised, you are going to become arrogant. I feel like confidence is not something that is easy for anyone, but it is a skill that can be learned. I took the time to learn it. But a lot of people do not want to put in the effort.

[A_Bell]

I have a habit of fixating on my mistakes, even small ones, and agonizing over them even years later. I don't know if that's a woman thing or a me thing, but I am hyper critical nonetheless.

I generally don't give a second thought to other people's mistakes.

[midnightmoon05]

All women in general? Western women? Eastern women?
I have to say…western women (not all… but a lot are) pretty trashy/entitled.

family dysfunctions…not raise with grace or class. Not sitting around the dinner table to have family discussions etc…All that lost once moms returned to the work force.
girls growing up not having the proper training/discipline that they become women and not stay as entitled little girls.

Got to look at the big picture.

[SexyRedd1966]

Low self-esteem and comparing themselves to social media influencers. It's sad because a lot of women are dying trying to be perfect

[Smashingdoozy]

It can be just as simple as beauty standards. Have a look at the articles we grew up on written about women. Kate Winslet I. The titanic was considered fat.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I love myself.

[Lynx122]

That's great :)

[WhitneySnow]

Depression usually causes this