I girl I’m no longer seeing still engages with my insta. Likes my stories and posts, should I be continuing to like hers too?

[Anonymous]

A woman I’m not seeing anymore still engages with my social media. She likes my posts and stories, and I did the same to hers a few days ago. It led to very small talk, and her saying thank you for being so kind but then went nowhere. I know liking posts is the least enticing way of interacting with someone so I’m not taking it too seriously but if I like her posts is it showing I’m still interested or in the reverse if I don’t like her stories, like one today and that id very meaningful memories will that send a message that I don’t care? Or would it make her wonder all of a sudden why not? Cuz she can see if view it

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, that social media stuff after breakups can make things way more confusing than they need to be. Honestly my advice would be just stop engaging with her posts.

Even liking something small like a story could be sending mixed signals if you're not trying to get back with her. She's probably still checking your stuff to see what's up with you too. But don't feel like you gotta like hers back just because - let it be mutual.

Not liking some meaningful memory post especially won't make you seem like a dick or anything. She'll get over it. Better to just leave it cold and not give her anything else to misinterpret ya know?

Right now I'd say just do your own thing and stop worrying so much about what she sees you doing online. If she wants to talk, she knows where to find you. Otherwise just live your life without her being part of it virtually too. Makes it easier to really move on that way. Hope that helps man!

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice bro! It wasn’t really a breakup cuz we weren’t dating for more than 6weeks or so. I actually did want to get with her to start so liking her posts back was my way of continuing to show I care, just like I thought her reaching out to me via text was but that didn’t go very far. I would always to try to set up a date that didn’t go anywhere. Anyway I’ve learned that if I girl wants you she’ll court you back as well, she’ll want to see you and put in some effort. Just another one

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah gotcha man, that makes sense. Since it wasn't really a serious breakup, your intentions with liking her stuff were fine. Too bad she didn't seem as interested in meeting up though, that's always a downer.

But you hit the nail on the head - if a girl really wants you, she'll put in the effort too and make seeing each other a priority. Sounds like you gave this one a fair shot but she just wasn't feelin' it. Her loss!

Now you know not to waste too much time chasing after someone who isn't chasing you back. On to the next one bro, I'm sure you'll find a girl who can't wait to go out with you soon. Keep putting yourself out there and don't stress this one - her mind's already made up it seems. You'll be aight, just another day in the game!

[Nikki1989]

OMG.

[Asker]

Not what I want lol, but when your rejected that was the means I was given