I've lost all confidence in myself and I'm pretty sure girls in my area will never speak to me?

[CarsNGirls]

So It's probably been over a year since I've spoke to her but I'm only back on my feet now my mental health was diabolical after her we or rather I say I had a bad time I'm sure it was for her to but she showed zero care to my feelings ever so frankly don't give a shit. My question really is though is how can I get past what happend and build confidence again when I'm surrounded by people who already have an opinion on me before I'd even spoke to them.. I haven't spoken to anyone due to this reason and a lot of people in my area know me due to her she went out of her way to make friends with girls I've even spoken to once made sure to tell them all the worst things and make me out to be this disgusting dude who can't look after himself, she wasn't exactly wrong but the reason I couldn't look after myself was down to her and I'm doing so much better now.. but this whole thing has had a detrimental impact on my confidence, for along time I never wanted to go into public purely to avoid the female gaze as none of it makes me feel good because 99% of it is bad looks or someone who knows me or heard of me and that's worse. I'm pretty much a empath and I can read a room of people like a book but this also effects me in a bad way because when my judgment is skewed then I'm sure you can guess how that goes I make assumptions that probably aren't true and end up spiraling in hating myself because I think so and so is thinking this or saying this and a lot of the time they are but I can't make any difference anymore, I just can't move 0ast the fact that she made me feel like someone and then dropped me on my head and fucked me. Made sure she told me I wasn't anything and how I wouldn't and can't get anyone and she pretty much made sure she tied all my options tight. I've lost all confidence in myself I even went and relied on alcohol to give me something so I could even travel without the dying feeling of anxiety. I need help.. I want ti make a friend : (

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, sounds like you been through it! That chick really played you bad and messed with your head. But listen, don't let her win by keeping you down, feel me?

Her opinion doesn't matter - she just wanted to hurt you cuz she's bitter. Fuck what anyone else thinks too. You know the real deal.

First, cut off the booze - it'll only drag you lower, not help long run. Get your health right both mentally and physically. Hit the gym, kick a ball, game with the crew - find an outlet and take care of yourself.

Next time you're out, own it dawg! Walk tall like her words don't shake you. Easier said than done but fake it till you make it, feel? Most people not even thinking bout you like that.

And don't be afraid to put yourself out there. One new friendly convo at a time til you get your swagger back. Real ones will see the come up.

You got this bro! Don't let one messed up chick win and take your shine. Brush it off, learn, and level up - show her and yourself what you're really about. The confidence will follow, trust!

[strateguy632]

correct. girls expect a confident guy and will reject. take a break until you feel self confident