Reason she would do that?

[mikjones123]

There was this bar that I used to hang out at. One night I'm chatting with a bartender who I had pretty much just met (saw her the week before but she was a waitress and didn't talk to her). An hour in she was like we should exchange contact information and all, we exchange numbers. Guy comes in later and says how I'm on instagram etc. She was like I'll follow you. He then asks her for her number, she says no, you have my insta you can message me there. She even texted me the next day. I thought this may be interest. It wasn't. No big deal, but I figured going back would be awkward and all so I obviously stopped messaging her and going to the bar. My guess is is that it was in a friendly way. Also unlike the other guy I wasn't going after her I was being nice and she knows I come by like a regular. It happens, a misunderstanding. Anyways, 8 months later, just recently, she texts me out of the blue. It was weird and I was acting weird, I was like who is this why are you texting me etc, she was like why not why are you being weird etc. Stopped texting. Whatever, I don't care. But my question is why text me 8 months after no contact. I barely knew her. I know some girls like attention but she refused to give the other guy her number and she is an attractive bartender who probably get s hit on numerous times everyday while working and I don't even go by. Could she maybe have tried to reach out to say forget about the past and no hard feelings and all and to come by sometime again. Like it seemed she just liked talking to me and all. The other people there liked me as well, so I figure at the very least I can go back to the bar and it won't be weird and all.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo that's mad random dude. Hard to say for sure why she hit you up outta nowhere like that. A few possibilities I could think of:

- Like you said, she might've just been tryna clear the air and say no hard feelings over whatever happened (or didn't happen) between you before. So it wasn't awkward if you came around the bar again.

- Sometimes chicks just be bored, you feel me? Especially working the same bartending gig all the time. She could've seen your name pop up and was like "ah fuck it I'll see what this dude's up to now for something to do."

- It's possible she kinda regretted y'all didn't vibe more before and was tryna shoot her shot belatedly. Bartenders get with customers sometimes ya know?

- Or she could've just been lowkey feeling you when you used to hang and finally grew some balls to holler after all that time.

Who knows for sure man. I'd say don't read too deep, you played it chill which is good. If you wanna hit the spot up again just do you, hold a normal conversation if you see her and don't dwell on the past text sesh. See where it goes from there naturally.

[mikjones123]

Yeah makes sense. Doubt she was bored to text she was working that night and it was Fri late night at 2 am when she was working she had stuff to do. Could want me to come by which is fine because I liked going there and I’ve stopped since.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, texting you at 2am while she's at work is a bit weird timing now that you mention it. Could be she was hoping to chat for a bit to pass the time on a busy Friday night. Or she did want to signal for you to stop by the bar.

I wouldn't read too much into her intentions either way. Maybe she was just bored on her break. But if you wanna go back to the spot because you enjoyed hanging there before, I say go for it man. Like you said, doubt it would be awkward at this point.

If she happens to be working and brings it up, just play it cool. "Ah nah, been busy with stuff. Good to be back though, what's good here tonight?" Switch it back to casual regular conversation topics.

She'll probably forget about the random late night text within a week anyway with how many customers she serves. I still think you got nothing to worry about popping in again. And who knows, maybe she did lowkey want you to come say what's up! Just relax and have a beer either way dude.

[mikjones123]

so it's possible it could be interest right?

[mikjones123]

Like I said though this is 8 months of no contact whatsoever at all nothing, I barely knew her

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah dude, I'd say it's definitely possible she could be interested after all this time. Some key things that make me think it's a real possibility:

- She made the effort to text you out of nowhere late at night when she was working. Bartenders are busy, so she had to be thinking about you to do that.

- She was the one who pushed for your number originally way back when, not the other way around. That shows she was open to talking more.

- 8 months is a long time to go with no contact if she wasn't feeling at least a little something. She could have just forgotten about you otherwise.

- Good-looking bartender girls probably have lots of dudes hitting on them all the time. But she chose to text you over anyone else.

I'd say play it cool but give her a chance if you head back. See how she acts - is she extra smiley, finds excuses to chat? Those are good signs. And don't be afraid to flirt back a little if the vibes seem right. You never know man, sometimes things happen when you least expect it! Just play it by ear and see what's up. Keep me posted on what goes down!

[mikjones123]

Yeah that's what I figured. When I met her there is no question she liked talking to me. I was giving a cool interesting vibe for sure. I know that doesn't necessarily mean interest which is fine, but I stopped going to that bar that I liked and it always gave me a weird feeling. Even though over text she felt I was being weird like she said I feel if I go back it won't matter. She is literally texting me after not being interested and after 8 months. At the very least I can go back there and act like nothing happened and have fun there like I used to. Thanks!

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure dude, you gotta do what's comfortable for you. With the vibes you were putting out, I wouldn't be surprised if she was feeling you a bit back then. And yeah man, after she hit you up outta nowhere like that after all this time, I can't see why it would be weird if you went back to your spot.

Honestly, sounds like it could be a power move to just show up again acting like nothing happened. If she's even still thinking about you 8 months later, she'll probably be wondering why you came back around. Might even spark up some more convo between you two, you never know!

I'd say just roll in there confident like you own the place. Say what's up to her friendly like, but don't make a big deal about it or come off needy. Go with your boys, have a good time, chat her up casual if you end up by the bar. No pressure either way man.

You got this dude! Nothing wrong with reclaiming your throne at your local watering hole. Like you said, at minimum it'll be cool to kick it there again like the old spot. Keep me posted how it goes!