Is she into me or is it more like online banter?

[Anonymous]

So there's this woman I know, we don't live close but we go to quite a few of the same events and see each other there aswell as other people we know, I don't think too much of women being into me as I'm not a catch, I'm a big fat guy when it comes to looks and I wouldn't really know if a woman is being flirty or just being nice.

So some things made me think, at my last event she said she was looking for me but couldn't find me, I was with other event friends getting something to eat, anyway a few weeks later I put a sort of naughty post on fb and she commented in a delightful (could of been jokey) way towards me of the naughty post.

Then the most recent thing was she posted she wasn't in a nice mood, I said if she needed a cuddle she can have one anytime when I'm around, she said I'll take you up on that.

Now we don't talk on like messenger or really any other time unless at an event.

I'm probably overthinking it but what do you think?

I just don't think of women liking me and when they have in the past I've screwed it up before it even started because I was afraid to so I just don't go there but at the same time I don't want to let thing that could be something go by if they think I don't like them that way.

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Nevermind eh

[Anonymous]

I vote that she sounds interested in you. She’s flirty. If she was looking for you and told you that, she most likely likes you more than you think/know.

[Asker]

I just don't want to make a fool of myself, I'll be seeing her next month at an event, is there anyway to be sure, I don't mind us just being friends but if she wants more then I'd like to reciprocate

[Opinion Owner]

Depending on your courage you could either write to her before the event or say it to her face that you will be there and ready for that cuddle if she still needs it. Or you could just write to her and say you hope she will be there next month and that she finds you this time.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Any updates? Did it work out?

[Asker]

I'll find out this weekend as we will be at the same event together

[Opinion Owner]

Exciting good luck!!!

[Asker]

By the looks of it from this weekend just gone it doesn't seem like she's interested, it was probably harmless flirty banter but it's fine, I just wanted to know either way

[Opinion Owner]

Oh really? Are you sure? Well, it’s good that you tried or at least gave it a shot. What happened?

[Asker]

Nothing happened, just being friendly as normal while at the event so I just stayed with that, I didn't want to try anything incase it actually wasn't mutual and I don't want to make it weird between us

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe next time! Just keep in touch with her, you never know.

[Asker]

Im not gonna think about it too much, she's a lovely friend and if she wants more I will be happy too but if not it's not gonna bother me

[Opinion Owner]

That makes sense. That’s a nice outlook to have, but life is short. If you are interested in someone you shouldn’t always be so afraid. I hope you find who you are looking for.

[Asker]

Thank you, women can be tricky as you never know if they are being jokey nice and friendly or actually like you and in this day an age with all this #metoo it's scary to even try to make a move

[Opinion Owner]

I guess I haven’t thought of it that way. That makes it kind of crappy for you men then to try and figure it out. I’m sorry. Well, either way she likes you as a person and that’s always a good start.

[Asker]

True

[Opinion Owner]

Women have the opposite issue it seems. We put it out there and the guy just walks away. Even if he seemed interested.

[Asker]

It's hard in today's society dating because unless your completely confident it's hard to know if the other person likes you but it is what it is

[Opinion Owner]

Well sometimes they actually tell you they do but still can’t seem to follow through.