What kind of woman doesn’t want children”?

[Anonymous]

So firstly I’m not judging but I’m more intrigued. I was never a child liking person, always said growing up that I never wanted children. I then settled down and instantly wanted a family, my maternal instinct kicked in strong and we tried for a baby. I loved it the second I saw the positive pregnancy test, I never suffered and doubt or anxiety over being a mum and luckily never had the oh so common baby blues. I then planned another a year or so later, and then unexpectedly found out I was pregnant again a year after the second. That pregnancy was a little different, I didn’t feel I wanted the baby, although I felt love for it just the same as the others, I just didn’t think that it was the right time. I kept it never the less. I then, around 5 years later found out I was pregnant again. For circumstances I can’t go into right now, I wasn’t able to keep the final baby so an abortion was arranged. I looked after this baby the best I could u til then, I was carful with what I did, I ate my 5 day, avoiding my coffee and alcohol and done right by the baby for as long as possible. On the day of abortion I cried and apologised to the baby, and I still have the positive test in my jewelly box as it’s all I have from that baby.
So I have longed a baby and aborted a baby. So I am not against abortion. But my brother and his wife and just found out she is pregnant and she isn’t adamant she isn’t keeping it and doesn’t want children. My brother wants it but is obviously happy to follow her lead. I’m just wondering, as there is nothing stopping her keeping it, what is it woman lack when they don’t instantly love a baby? Or when they have no maternal need?

[Anonymous]

Everyone is different. The only thing I hate is abortion. If someone chooses to engage in sexual relations and they don’t want to deal with it, it’s the same as men and women who run off refuse to pay child support or do anything for their child.

But. Some people just don’t want kids, or don’t want kids for the time being. I think it’s fine. Some people have other passions or whatever in life. Maybe some juar don’t feel like they’re able to raise kids.

I don’t think a woman who has a abortion or “does not keep” her baby has ANY maternal instincts and men who enable it cucking to these women are not men.

[Berethor]

Not a real woman, no other way to say it, they act like teenagers, and they also selfish.

[HelpfulWoman]

there isn't anything lacking.
its simply they don't want to. and thats not a bad thing.
I struggled heavily with not having maternal needs/love for my kids.
YOUR experience isn't the same as hers, so stop trying to stir drama and actually be there for her decision as a sister in law.

[Kykiono1]

A career feminist one