I and this girl are coworker yeah first time we talk because we are playing same game ,
then after that we be friend but one day i say you are cute in chat , she send back gif with confused face and say she took a long time to choose a gif , i laugh
Later we are join game tour, some friend say to her to use red shirt, so i tease her can i will use shirt same color of yours, yeah i match her shirt color like other friend say she must be red shirt
In before tour we talk about other game, example x game i say am playing this game with my family or etc , and she reply back her playing this too but she feel lonely, yeah because she wanna find boyfriend in this game she say, and i say do you find it? She say no ( i think she mention she is single) and many time in Saturday she mention single life are just playing game in Saturday night
but after few month i am not confessing to her and i say to her we are just friend (many time) because i try to hide my feeling, but now the smiles already gone and she ignore my chat and distant to me,
so in the day i confess to her, i stare at her many time she is like avoid eye contact but sometimes she stare at me, and i confessed, she say she is not feel in same way?
So now i lose my chance with her or she just hide her feeling, Yeah when she say she not interested in Me i say ok, i want just be friend, and ITS ok when i say goodbye to her she is happy
but tomorrow i try talk to her because she skip the lunch so i ask her why , she is not answering me, look to another direction her face are mad and not happy (annoyed maybe ), when i stare at her, she instally throw her face to another direction, and when i say good bye she is ignore me, avoid me too in game when we are online but she didint remove me yet, yeah sometimes she stare at me too, but when i not notify her , what must i do now
2 weeks ago she bought all cowotker chocolate expect me she wait me gone before give the chocolate to all coworker
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Dude, this is a tricky situation. Based on what you described, it seems like she may have started developing feelings for you too, but was also worried about ruining the friendship.
A few things that make me think she was into you:
- Mentioning being single a lot
- Avoiding eye contact after you confessed
- Staring at you sometimes
However, after confessing and she said she didn't feel the same way, you really need to respect that and give her space now. Pushing it could damage the friendship further.
My advice would be to back off romantically for a while. In the workplace, keeping things professional is important. Still be friendly, but don't stare or try to talk one-on-one right away.
Let things cool off without contact. She may miss the friendship after some time. Or you could end up just staying coworkers. But forcing anything more won't help.
Hope this helps man. Work situations can be tricky, but respecting her "no" is key right now over any other signals you thought you got. Good luck!
Yeah but before i confess she already avoiding eye contact , but she when our eyes meet she throw away her face and smile, but now when our eyes meet she is shy throw away her face with no smile
Ah okay, that changes things a bit then. It does sound like before your confession, she was already acting a bit shy and flustered around you at times.
The avoiding eye contact and looking away with a smile suggests she may have liked the attention but got nervous. And now after your talk, she seems even more shy and unsure how to act.
Her feeling awkward could still just be because things are new and open between you. But it's also possible she did have some feelings starting to develop and your confession caught her off guard.
I'd say give her a little more time, like a few weeks, to process everything without any pressure from you. Then you could try carefully testing the waters again. Next time you make eye contact, smile at her warmly instead of staring. See if she starts to smile back as things become less uncomfortable between you.
Taking it super slow and being casual is key. Hopefully with no pressure, she'll start to relax and you'll get a better sense of what's really going on in her head. Fingers crossed man!
She is confused I believe. She may be confused that she felt something for you. Once you admitted that you like her, she may have lost interest which is a common problem in the world. I would say move on
But before i confess she already cold and distant , are because i too late to confess because it take me 8 month to confess to her
That could be the reason too. I think you know the answer better than I do
Yeah thanks, i Miss her smiles when she glance at me or stare from far or pass by , now she mad at me and avoid me, do you have. Advice what must i do now, do i must talk to her again what reason i late at confess etc ( already confess she say she didn't have same feeling)
I have no idea any more. Maybe write her a letter
Yeah now when we pass by or make eye contact she is look down do you have an idea why this happen
And when i say goodbye she to her she is quite does not answer me and look to another direction
Probably she is afraid of something I don’t know otherwise..
Afraid me or u comfortable with me?
No i mean afraid me or uncomfortable with me?
Uncomfortable I think