Why do young women misinterpret a guy's words?

[ManOnFire]

I'm not just talking about the ridiculous "What does it mean when a guy says (such and such)?" questions. I mean in general, and I say young women because I very rarely have a conversation with women my age or older where they misinterpret me. Or even another guy for that matter. It's like the younger women are not listening or comprehending you right, and they will perceive something in your words that is completely unrelated to them, or take what you said out of context entirely.

I was talking to a female friend on Instagram, we were chatting about our parents, friendships, and relationships, and she tells me about her own relationship situation. Next time she replied she got something completely twisted out of what I said, as if she seriously was not reading what I wrote or not comprehending it. She thought I was in some way attacking her where no such implication existed in my response. And why would I insult someone I'm supposed to be friends with?

Why do the young women do this? Why do they have a habit of misinterpreting things you say and create friction out of it?

[Insecure2]

I would say that when IT comes to young women it is just that they are often very sensitive, especially when IT comes to issues relating to them. They tend to overinterpret and overanalyse things without considering that the issues might not be about them. That's why at first your friend didn't react but later, after thinking about your talk, she felt offended or thought that she 'should' be offended, because that is what other young women would do if they were in her shoes. She is just trying to form her own opinions but with a little bit slower response time.

[ManOnFire]

I think this makes sense!

[Insecure2]

I'm happy to be of help😊

[ManOnFire]

I was reading over your answer again and this part really stands out: "she felt offended or thought that she 'should' be offended, because that is what other young women would do if they were in her shoes."

Thinking they SHOULD be offended. Yeah. It does seem as if most young women are literally on the ready to take offense. Almost like they look for a reason to, even where there is none. Just so they can be able to show anger or defense simply because.

[Insecure2]

I think there are actually those WHO are really searching for a fight just like some MEN do, but there are also those girls WHO just don't know' how to manage their feelings, especially shame and Anger, do they overreact.

[Hardshell1234]

I would chalk it up to immaturity, lack of self awareness/insight, and inexperience. Women, like men, can take a while to emotionally mature and she may lack self esteem, too. A lot of this will lead to feeling offended or not truly understanding what you are saying. That’s my old lady 2 cents 🤣.

[ManOnFire]

Old lady 2 cents lol. 40 is young, but I think you have it right. Emotional immaturity.

[Hardshell1234]

Thank you MHO and saying 40 is young. 🤣

[StarWarGirl]

A person misinterpret something when they can't understand one thing can have multiple dimension and all have chances to become right. Or if they already have one glasses and they see everything through that only. Or if they strongly believe that what they think understand is absolutely right and they don't want/care to understand the things from others perspective.

All these signs are of immaturity. And so young who are not yet attain that level of maturity or even sometimes older people who got stuk and never developed their mind and thinking from a certain level they all misinterpret the things.

Also sometimes it happens that information is not complete so some people instead of asking questions or getting it clarified they choose to assume themselves to make sense of that. There also their assumption isn't always right so they end up misinterpreting things.

[handsomelad70]

We men tend to express ourselves differently than women, who are less apt to say what they really want (except most black women, who are the diametric opposite, always blabbing, often demeaning black men), while men are usually more straightforward about their beliefs and opinions as per our socialization.

[ManOnFire]

@StarWarGirl You explained that pretty well.

[Altheavas]

Comprehension is very difficult, people only understand what they want to understand. So, just tell her “you comprehended that wrong, or I wasn’t referring to you at all.”
That could happen both ways between! gender, age gaps, cultural differences, people of different backgrounds make comprehension difficult in general.
if you’re not interested in clarifying just let her thinks however she likes.

[ManOnFire]

So you're right that people of other cultures can misinterpret something, because there can be a language barrier at times. But the difference with younger women is that they tend to misinterpret something as being OFFENSIVE where what you said was not whatsoever. This behavior in them is also reinforced by a society that teaches them it's okay for them to be this way. Instead of teaching these young girls not to overthink something and to listen carefully before jumping to conclusions.

[Altheavas]

Language barrier is hardly the issue. I gave you multiple variables to choose from, and about the cultural differences, is not only of different countries, it can be of societal changes through adaptations, like you and that young woman, different states, and even different education backgrounds or family and entourage dynamics might cause comprehension difficulties. While you might underestimate someone abilities of languages as language barriers of different cultures from different countries. That’s just subtle prejudice, someone who has the lack of education immigrated to other countries maybe you’re right with your views of language barrier, education barrier too maybe. People are of different classes, and education of every culture and countries. Your frustration is merely misconceptions of meaning in your communication with her. Languages barriers of different cultures is not only about the verbatim of words spoken, it also can be about the cultural dynamics, on how many angles can that be interpreted word for words, what about how many meaning and concepts it can translate to.

[ManOnFire]

@Altheavas You just proved my point exactly about misinterpreting lol.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sometimes the "misinterpretations" sound so ridiculous that it feels intentional.

I honestly think that what happens is women hangout with their girlfriends, come up with some plan of action that they decide is what they want to do, and then they do whatever mental gymnastics they have to do to justify doing whatever they decided to do.

[ManOnFire]

Yes, I think that’s part of it too.

[b_lova]

Some people, no gender attached, have a story playing in their head that defines their reality and no matter what you say to them that story will force your words to come into alignment with the story already playing in their head.

Core Belief systems are hard to overcome.

[jahaims]

Males are more direct. Females look for hidden meaning and attach emotions to everything because that is how they communicate.

[ManOnFire]

And they also choose to communicate through body language because they're not courageous enough to be vocal.

[JacobJordan]

They have yet to learn that the vast majority of men say exactly what we mean and mean exactly what we say.

[NathanDavis]

maybe it is older men that can't express themselves clearly enough and leave room for misinterpretation..

could go either way

[ManOnFire]

Then I guess the younger ones better catch up since they're the ones with the problem.

[NathanDavis]

never had that issue myself

[NathanDavis]

sometimes though... people hear other things they want to hear, or see... that can often be an issue

[Anonymous]

Because women let thier emotions control them rather than controlling thier emotions. So a woman will take 1 innocuous sentence and create an elaborate storyline because she likes the feeling it gives her. This is why smart guys know how to use that to his advantage and keep his mouth shut.

[dragoblack]

It's because women are used to having subtext to their words, and men almost never use subtext, so they look for nonexistent subtext to our words.

[CallmeTheKnight]

How can we give an appropriate answer if you leave out what you said?
Besides that, it could be their minds aren’t entirely in the conversation, not so bright, or maybe it’s how you say things

[ManOnFire]

I'm not going to give out the entire conversation word for word because it's personal and because she could be on GaG too and we don't know it. But basically the gist of the conversation was about family, friendships, and relationships, and I was talking about MY experience growing up with some not-so-great situations. And then she thought me talking about MY experience growing up was in some way an attack on her. Like the most ridiculous thing ever. No one else ever gets stuff twisted like this except the young females.

[DaveJord]

I think all women do, not just young women. But then, men do it to women as well.

[ManOnFire]

Bro, it is very rare for me to talk to a woman my age or older who misinterpret me.

[DaveJord]

Yeah, I guess you are right. For me maybe it is not that that they misinterpreted. They probably knew exactly what I was saying... doesn't really change the outcomes either way with me.

[Dongie]

Maybe its sexual tension.🥂

[ManOnFire]

Ha. Nice idea, but I doubt it.

[OddBeMe]

Why are you always attacking them?