Would it bother you if your lovers ex fling had no respect for boundaries?

[Anonymous]

My man is friends with women and his exes. I don't have a problem with it except for one. She a bit younger, is flaky and annoying. She has called late at night, with frivolous issues claiming they were emergencies. And she constantly ask my man for odd favors. She gorgeous want to add. She knows many people and men. She could ask anyone else. But she always has to ask him for help. He usually says no unless she pays him. Still I don't like it. Example, she is in town visiting and ask him to borrow one of cars or give her ride places. Like excuse me? The fkn audacity to even ask. They weren't even in a real relationship. They banged for like a month but she was so bat shit crazy, he dumped her. She would get shit faced and break his shit. One time she broke his cars windshield! Punched him in the face in front of his friends. Why would he even want to stay in contact with her?

[Anonymous]

Because she’s probably not as crazy as he makes it seem and if she is then his fault. If you’ve ever had a bad ending with a man, I bet money that he is telling new women his own version of how things ended and there could be someone in this world thinking your bat shit crazy based off what he said or did. I’m not saying the things this woman has done aren’t excessive, but that sort of Ben doesn’t just come out of no where and if she were genuinely that psychopathic I’d imagine he’d try a bit harder to be rid of her, even legal action.

[Opinion Owner]

**that sort of behavior, don’t know why it says Ben

[Asker]

No, she fkn crazy. He's not the only one that has wild stories about when she gets drunk she off the hook. She did kick his windshield and broke it and she did punch him in the face. A few of my girlfriends had mutual friends and they ended up hanging out. She would go through their purses accusing them of stealing from her.

[Asker]

It's actually been another part of our problem is him being so non shalant about this sort of thing. He didn't want to involve the cops, also he was making money illegally at the time.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ll agree that it’s not ok whatsoever if she doesn’t know her tolerance with alcohol and gets crazy when drinking, I have friends who are also incredibly extra when drunk. The key note here though is “when drunk”. What’s she like sober without all the he said she said? Friends say she would go through purses and accuse them of stealing… so if that’s true then why do they keep hanging out with her for this to happen repeatedly? I just don’t think she’s as crazy as people make her seem, and I don't know maybe that’s me giving them benefit of the doubt but I’d LIKE to think anyone who finds a person that psychopathic would steer clear of them. Not keep bringing them around and making them the center of gossip, being fake to their face acting like a friend but aren’t actually. Even with your lover being so passive about her, he probably still likes her because she’s gorgeous but talks shit so no one knows.

[Dinklex3]

I think it’s your boyfriend’s job to set boundaries with her and let her know what behavior is acceptable. So I do find it suss that he’s allowing that. Seems like he likes her or is keeping his options open to me 🤷‍♀️

I have boundaries with my friends. One specifically informed me not to text pass 9 out of respect for his girlfriend. No biggie. I have the same rules with my other close male friends as well.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Have a word with your boyfriend..

Tell him you don't mind a joke, but her making demands on him is such as she is doing is taking the p*ss

[Anonymous]

Do he have babymama issues as well? Sidechicks always want what they can’t have

[jahaims]

The guy doesn't respect his girl

[GoodgirlNatalie]

Yeah that's not good