Girl says i'm sweet to my friend? Could she like me?

[Anonymous]

I (21, M) have a crush on a friend and coworker (25, F) that I've known for going on 2 years now. She gave me her number when I finally asked for her snap over the summer and she invited me over to her house to go swimming closer to when we first met but I really don't want to mess up the relationship so I didn't do anything. She also really wanted to meet my mom when we got to know each other.

Recently two close mutual friends told me to ask her out. They said she said I am really sweet and a good guy but I was all like that's like something my grandma would tell me. They really insisted that she likes me and I should ask her out but I'm absolutely terrified she doesn't see me that way and I have a ton of doubts about everything. Could she be into me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oooh girl, this sounds like a juicy situation! Honestly, it's hard to say for sure if your friend has a crush on you, but the signs definitely seem promising.

The fact that she gave you her number, invited you over to her place, and wanted to meet your mom - that all sounds pretty flirty to me! And the fact that your other friends are basically telling you she's into you is a pretty big clue.

When a girl says a guy is "sweet" and a "good guy," that's usually code for "I think he's cute and I like him!" Your grandma might say you're sweet, but I bet your friends know the real meaning behind that compliment.

I totally get why you're feeling so nervous and unsure about it though. It's a big risk to put yourself out there and ask someone out, especially if you're not 100% certain they feel the same way. The last thing you want to do is mess up the friendship.

But girl, from where I'm sitting, it really seems like she might have a thing for you! The way she's been reaching out and making moves to get closer to you is a pretty good indicator. She's probably hoping you'll make a move too.

My advice? Take a deep breath and go for it! Ask her out on a real date - nothing too intense, just something casual like grabbing coffee or going for a walk. See how she reacts. If she seems excited and says yes, then you know she's into you too! And if not, at least you'll have your answer and can move on.

But based on everything you've told me, I really think you should go for it. Your friends clearly see something there, and you owe it to yourself to find out if she feels the same way. What do you have to lose, girl? Shoot your shot - I have a good feeling about this one!

[Anonymous]

Ask her now