Barefoot & Pregnant in the kitchen! Why do mature women & young feminists resent & look down on young women choosing to be wives/mothers?

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I get this attitude often that my husband is some sort of controlling abusive monster that keeps me looked up in his dungeon barefoot & Pregnant in the kitchen. I can't work out if they are jealous or feel regret for their life choices or just wish they could do the same. One woman in the neighbourhood is a highschool teacher who didn't get married until 35 and now 40 is struggling to get pregnant while I got pregnant probably on my wedding night. She's very vocal about a woman's reproductive rights, abortion, women's rights and spoke to me about how I missed out on all the experiences she had travelling, college, partying, dating different guys etc but she always sounds so resentful of me and has mentioned on more than one occasion how im barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. I did like being pregnant most of thd time, i do be barefoot in my home and i do love to cook in my kitchen so it's no big deal. She has taken the election very hard and took a week off from her job.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

in our society it's the norm that as a girl, once you finish high school you go to college and be young and have fun. then when you graduate you go find a career and then rise up the ranks and get settled into real adulthood, then at some point generally in your late 20s to early 30s you marry your boyfriend and then have a kid or two. you might be a stay at home mom when your kid or kids are very young, but then you're expected to go back to work. it goes against our current culture for someone to go have kids, wether its a guy or girl, when they're under 25 and especially if they're very far from 25. so it can give people strong emotions at times to see cases like that. people will think girls like that wasted their your youth being a mom instead of being carefree and young, and that they're too immature to be a proper good mom. they also will assume she will be poor since she has no higher education if she ever breaks up with the boyfriend or husband, she'll struggle so much financially and will be forever poor. people might also be concerned that since she has to rely on the guy for money, he'll be able to do whatever he wants and she'll have to be submissive to him. people view being a young stay at home mom too as going backwards in time. also nowadays since most people who talk about and glorify this lifestyle are the manosphere dudes who often unironically dont like women, and kinda push that women need to not only be like that but have to be submissive, silent, and obedient to their husbands, let them cheat and discipline them etc it creates more disgust and opposition to this lifestyle

GOLDFISH_smile · Accepted Answer

It sounds like you have a neighbor who needs therapy for personal struggles and projection.

I've never met any feminist who judges women for choosing to be wives or mothers, and I certainly don't. I'm a proud feminist and a proud wife and mother. :)

I'm very happy that I got to choose this life with someone I love and trust instead of being forced into it with someone my parents would approve of. I'm also very happy that people like my sister can choose to have a different life, not get married young and choose to build a career and non-traditional relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

young women who choose to be wives/mothers get looked down upon because they are supposedly submitting to the "patriarchy" which is ironic because feminism is only existing because it's being "allowed" by the "patriarchy"

if men all collectively said no to feminism, there's nothing feminists can do about it

just the simple act of refusing physical services puts a feminist at a disadvantage

the love and benevolence that men collectively show women is often met with great envy by feminists who know they wouldn't be the same if they were in such a position hence the simultaneous victim/empowered duality

the feminist girl boss CEO lives in a world built by men from her home, to her electricity, to her car, to her computer at work, to her phone, to her internet, to her safety etc. and when she needs these things to be fixed, she'll still have to appeal to men

Astarlessnightsky · Accepted Answer

Its not looked down upon per se.

Its only a problem when misogynistic men are trying to force the lifestyle upon women and removing the rights femists have been working so hard over the last hundred years to establish.

Also its a luxury to be able to afford this lifestyle with one income alone. Which so many people can't afford. And which those misygonistic men often don't want to change.

Its just taking rights away but no better financial support for the families.

The classic lose - lose - lose situation.

If you, or your husband, does have the financial security on his income alone, and you are fine with the situation, go for it.

Apple1996 · Answer

I became a stay at home mom at 18 and honestly I don't really ever get hate from women for it. The older women are usually supportive and feminist women are just happy that I had a choice.

Often times I get a lot of hate from men. Like a bunch of men my husband works with thought he was abusing me because I've been constantly pregnant for the past few years 😅 they were contacting me privately asking if I was safe and shit like wtf. Other men just think it's lazy that I'm skating through life because I don't work like they don't see my kids or home as work I guess 🤷‍♀️

aquamoon · Answer

Oh dear, it seems like there's a lot of mixed feelings and judgment going on here. It's unfortunate that some people feel the need to belittle and criticize others for the choices they make, whether it's about being a wife and mother or exploring different experiences in life. At the end of the day, it's important to respect each other's choices and prioritize what makes us happy and fulfilled. It's a shame that your neighbor can't appreciate the beauty and fulfillment that comes with being a wife and mother, and instead chooses to project her insecurities and regrets onto you.

Bricealan · Answer

I see it as a back lash of sorts, if that is the right word, and it probably is not, but the mature and feminist women probably feel like those 'house wives' are setting back the 'woman's movement by taking on the role of wife/mother/housekeeper etc. Maybe they have been watching old reruns of The Stepford Wives, which is a look at a very exaggerated view of what once was thought to be "A woman's place" in a home and marriage. Those backward looking 'mature and feminist women are probably afraid that those few women that elect to do that are 'taking them all back' to that place in time.

Ignore them.

Cutea · Answer

They don't have this right. It is a personal life choice. You shouldn't care about what others might say. You are unique and nobody except you can tell what is good for you. You are the one who decide what life choices is best for you. You only live once. Choose what you are okay with, else if you think about others opinion you will regret a lot in you life. Only what matters to you is important

Vendetta_ · Answer

I've never really come across a woman that "looked down" on another woman for choosing to be a tradwife. I think most women don't like tradwives telling them that women were "meant" to do that or be a certain way. That's what starts to upset people. If you don't do that then great, ignore anybody that bothers you.

AviatorTom · Answer

Mother Nature built women to have children and raise them. It's an instinctive thing in women. Women who choose careers, or young women brainwashed by feminism, have to fight that instinct, and are jealous of women who do what Nature built them to do.

worldscolide · Answer

Stupidity no more no less.. Real feminists fought for a woman's right to choose. As in she's free to choose to be a home maker and house wife if she so desires. Real feminists applaud her choices regardless of what they are as long as they are hers to make. The ones that look down on it are female supremacists, sexists, and basically shit stain humans. They are the same ones that sent my wife death threats and called her a gender traitor because she publically said she likes making me lunch.

molonski2 · Answer

I think the problem for most in the Western world with this is $$$$$ , I think it all relates back to money , just one income..

So this leftist neighbour woman , is probably subconsciously questioning herself , but also you are very very young to be doing this by todays standards , and I'm certain you realise this is not going to be easy.

strateguy632 · Answer

1, kitchen is too dangerous for bare feet.

2, femenism oppposed you because because you ruined their false narrative.

They assume you only do it, as a prisoner against your wish to have a career.

But you, same as some women i know personally prefer "mothering" your own children.

mandyfire98 · Answer

It's not a woman's choice to be a stay at home wife and mother that's usually attacked. It's the view that most women SHOULD be stay at home wives that is mostly attacked.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They've been brainwashed and because of it, are pissed off because they can't find somebody to love them and put up with their bullshit.

saraupstairs · Answer

I'm glad I didn't know that. Some people are morons.

TosunPasha · Answer

During 2016 elections I won a bet against one of the feminazis and as punishment made her to go one of them Trump rallies barefoot 🤣🤣 This made me remember that

Anonymous · Answer

Becausd they are stupid and brainwashed into thinking that they will become happier with their careers then being a mother. Ignore them

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

With me, a woman doesn't need to get her biscuits in the oven (literally and at my age, surely not metaphorically!!!), but she CERTAINLY needs to get her buns in bed !!!

Anonymous · Answer

I think women should have some kind of basic universal income in case things turn bad.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Believe me 100%. People out in the real world aren't thinking about women being wives and mothers.

slatyb · Answer

I wish you a great life.

Anonymous · Answer

Because feminism.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Fck her. She ain’t shit

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