My partner got drunk, and someone gave them hickeys on their neck, how do I get over it without getting extremely pissed, and/or build trust again?

[KarmaVibes23]

She went to a party with a friend, she pinkie promised that she wouldn't drink or lie to me, and shw swore on her grandfathers ashes she wouldn't drink and drive, she texts me drunk so I call her, pissed, she says she was (she lied to my face earlier in the day saying she wasn't gonna), I say "Fuck you" then hang up, she goes back in the party and says "sorry not sorry" , then around 25 minutes later, she sends me a snap of ehr with a guy, I am reasonably pissed the fuck off, and almost break down in tears while on call with my friend (I had him on call while I walked to cool off), I see her in a field in her car, but snapchat location was probably tweaking, as it does, so then I talk to her about, she wasn't, she left the party with her friends, who she went with and then they dropped everybody off, and she passed out, sober (ig), so then she starts apologizing, and Im being reasonably extremely passive aggressive towards her, while trying my absolute best to maintain my anger/emotions, then she goes to sleep, and I go to sleep until 7:00

Next day

I wake up, she's messaged me, apologizing, I talk to her, she seems apologetic, but im still reasonably pissed, and still being very passive aggressive, I dont stop being passive aggressive until she yells at me saying how she regretted it, so now I wait until she gets home to call her, we call, and she apologizes, and I start saying how everything that happened was of her own accord, and how its her fault everything that happened, and that Im giving her one last chance, and what she does with it is her choice, but if she makes the wrong one, Im gone forever

Am I in the wrong?

More context: She knew that I despised drinking, and she promised that she wouldn't do it ever again.

[Miristheiss]

You don't. You dump them for cheating. Don't say anything. Don't have any more to do with her. Just say, you cheated, get out, and then cut her off forever. Move on.

Why were you even with someone who goes out to parties and gets drunk without her mate? That boundary sucks and you are too much of a "nice" guy who doesn't expect committed, loyal behavior from a mate. She isn't single so don't go out hanging out with other men and getting drunk.

Your standards suck. The fact you didn't dump her on the spot shows you have weakness and you accept being treated in a shitty way.

Are you in the wrong? YES!!!

1. "I'm going to a party without you with drinking and other men". You should have said, ok, but you are now single because I don't commit to women who does that so have a nice life it has been nice knowing you." You accepted that shitty boundary? Get some self respect and standards and boundaries.

2. "Oh, I got drunk and did stuff with some other guy" Your response should have been "Ok, we are done, bye" That is it. Quit being "mad" and arguing. Just DUMP HER!!!

[LONERLONLEY666]

Sorry bro. This means break up with her and move on. Sucks. Invested time, care and the lot. But she doesn't respect you or your opinions and feels the need for want and attention a little too much to be in a relationship, just going to happen again but worse

[deniz_9]

dude this is hardd. she seems to be genuinely sorry over it tho, so maybe dont be so harsh on her? hope it all works out:)

[KarmaVibes23]

You have no idea how it made me feel to find out

[deniz_9]

i hear you 😭 sorry you’re going through this. hopefully it’ll get better

[trumpetplayerforlife]

That would be a deal breaker if she can do doesn't matter if she's drinking or not at least that's my thought

[LionBrasa]

You have to know your worth, is this girl worth your time? Can you trust her? If I were you, I would go after someone else, she is deceiving you, you are only 17, you can meet many girls.

[slatyb]

It sounds like she has a drinking problem. How do you get over it? You tell her that it's intolerable and if it happens again it's over.

[KarmaVibes23]

Thats exactly what I did. I made her swear on everything she holds dear, including herself. EVERYTHING. so now I leave it up to her. What she does with this second chance is her choice, but if she makes the wrong one, Im gone. Thats what I told her.

[Anonymous]

You are only a kid, so I will give your immaturity a pass, but you have a lot of learning to do.

[jahaims]

She cheats on you dumbass

[chocolatetwopointo]

break up, once a cheater always a cheater