Why is my best friend possessive while sending mixed romantic signals?

[Anonymous]

We’ve never explicitly talked about it, but she knows how I feel. That much has been confirmed as we beat around the bush together.

Yet, she talks about wanting to be my #1, we flirt (won’t show), and we’ve shared an I love you a while back neither of us has spoken about since. She even directly compared me favorably to all of her exes.

If she doesn’t feel the same way, why would she do any of this? I’m assuming it’s one-sided, but she did just get out of a relationship a couple months ago, so it’s poor timing as it is.

Just to give an idea.

[Abbycado]

I really don't see much in the way of mixed signals.

[Asker]

That’s fair. Like I said before, it’s complicated. We’ve described very personal and intimate plans, dropped the topics, it’s very extensive and I can only pick a snippet.

[Abbycado]

I'd say that is more hinting at what she wants, unless she is changing her mind a lot.

[Asker]

It’s very possible. We are both traumatized people, for better or worse. This entire conversation I left out was about me moving to her home country (I want to anyway), and what she’d want to see from me before I do that. Financial stability, therapy, better job prospects, plus she said hopefully she’d be in a better spot too.

[Nikki1989]

Nothing to see there.

[Asker]

Not from what I can share, then. Imagine… 10000x more than I can feasibly write here.

[Anonymous]

None of that is romantic sounding. What is mixed about it?

[Asker]

It’s complicated… I picked a snipped because I can’t share our long history in 5 seconds.