Does the "spark" exist? And if so should you wait for it?

[mccollins]

I told my sister that I had been on a bunch of dates but I hadn't felt any spark. As in when I left I didn't keep thinking about them, I didn't get butterflies or anything.

She told me that a spark is made up and I shouldn't base dating off of it. But the only guys that I have dated were ones that made me feel that way. Granted I have not dated very many guys.

What do you guys think? Does the spark exist? And if so should you wait for it?

Spark does exist, wait for it.

The spark does not exist.

It exists but is not necessary.

[Konnour]

It definitely exists, I've felt it quite a handful of times towards certain girls, and I sensed they felt the same back! Though nothing too serious came out of it, damn those were good times!

But.. there are some really hot girls I just don't feel a spark.. though I feel something else then!

If there's no spark it's almost dead giveaway there won't be possible much or any romance or excitement between you, maybe you could have a good, stable relationship, maybe you could have a good sex, but damn it can get boring quickly, you will burn out!

If you feel the spark it significantly raises the odds of success!

[pbima]

the way I see it, when I think of most girls and whether or not I should pursue them etc...i just have a bunch of questions.

but when I think of this one girl who is really special to me, I just have answers.

[Tamikaze]

The spark does exist. The spark may not be an indicator of good a match the other person is for you and it also may be one-sided, something you are feeling but the other person is not.

I think having spark is important. I have learned over time to not count on it meaning that the guy was as in to me or that we were going to last, but it is one of many things I need to have a relationship. I have tried to make a go of something with a guy I had no spark for, but it always failed miserably. All I did was end up hurting the other person when I finally had to admit that I just wasn't falling for him.

[vmw2008]

It does exist, and I think you should wait for it. It's a feeling of compatibility both physically and emotionally. However, sometimes it takes women a bit of time to feel that spark. You may not feel it on the first date or two, but it'll all of the sudden pop up. If it doesn't come for a while then I'd say move on. If you don't feel the chemistry and strong pull toward someone, it most likely will not last. I don't know many guys that get into relationships with girls they feel bland toward, so women should not be encouraged to do so either.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

The spark means you like him and have chemistry. If you don't feel the spark then you don't like him in that way or connect with him like that. I disagree with your sister, I don't believe you should settle for a man you don't have those feelings for just to say you're in a relationship. The spark DOES exist, but it won't happen with every guy you go out with and that's OK. you go on dates to see if something is there. you don't just settle for a guy you have no spark with because you convinced yourself it doesn't exist.

[ManaX]

I think the spark is necessary and when it happens you really do feel it.

Reminds me of a guy I met nicknamed 'sparky', bearing in mind my nickname is 'fire'. I listened to sparky and fire jokes all night. The dude was hilarious. Not my type but, a funny friend non the less.

[NoOneYouExpect]

I've felt said spark before and that is my indication to head for the hills because that is going to set off a bomb in my face. What you should be looking for is a feeling of contentment.

[rockingpianoman]

hmm I believe sparks exists , not a feeling that you say : "wow I know this is THE ONE" , but a 'spark' that tells you :" I'm attracted to this person and I like her / him..."

[cuteandcheeky]

yes and no, its really rare to get a 'spark' on a first date, I think its more of the thing that comes with time and getting to know someone :)

[Anonymous]

Yeah a spark exists, it is not love at first sight always but there is such thing as a spark. If you aren't feeling it after a while though, it probably isn't there.

[Anonymous]

The spark is not made up. She was trying to make you feel better.

The spark is real. I've felt the spark my first kiss, from the first time he looked into my eyes and asked me to dance.

[Anonymous]

yes the spark does exist, but it doesn't always last.