Why does she act like she doesn't need me?

[Anonymous]

I have known this girl for a few months now.

In the beginning we would text day and night and would reciprocate perfectly. We have had a couple of hick-ups and it almost seems like she doesn't need me anymore -- it feels like she strings me along because she knows I am not going anywhere.

I know she isn't seeing any other guys, but trying to text her is impossible. She just flat out does not seem interested in my life or things I am doing because she is busy (I see it as an excuse). But when we hang out in person (maybe once a week for 3 hours), things are great and it feels like a relationship -- she even says how great it is. I have tried talking to about how she feels but she always beats around the bush as if she is insecure being honest (prideful).

I tried moving on but I find I just think about her with other girls.

What am I doing wrong? H

ow can I get her to be interested in me again?

How can I gain some power and not get the sh*t end of the stick?

Is there any hope of making things so we are mutually happy?

How can I move on?

Do I still try working on things?

I appreciate any help!

[leialove]

What kind of hick-ups? Well looks to me she doesn't want to commit or give up anything important in her life right now to have a relationship with you at the moment.

Continue what you are doing like asking her out and make her feel comfortable with you. If she rejects you when you asked her out, give her some space. I know you want her badly but you got to take things slowly. Just be sure of this.

In my opinion, when something isn't as good as before, it doesn't mean there is something wrong. Try to keep your thoughts positive too.

[Asker]

great advice! It is a slippery slope when you really want someone who doesn't have the time. I think I may just try to make the most of our personal interactions in person and try to not involve myself too much in her life outside until she starts reciprocating -- It is hard just because I want to tell her about my day to day life in hopes she will again too

[leialove]

well, most girls (including me) don't really fall in love and have feelings for the guy immediately. It takes some time for us to discover our real feelings. Those girls who said they fell in love at first sight, I believe is just having a crush. It might be a short term. Just remember that you want to be more interested in her than the relationship itself :) All the best!