Why can't he look me in the eye?

[Anonymous]

There is a guy that flirts with me and another girl. They joke around and goof off whereas he likes to tease me. PLEASE give me some insight. Why is it that he is all chummy with her and can look at her and talk with her but he can't look at me. I've tried to get his attention to look at me. He'll do it for 2 seconds then look away. I'll even tease saying WHY can't you. He just gets silent and CAN'T. CAN ONLY look at me from the side when I sit down next to him. Yet with her, he has no problem. I even joked that I must have to lower my shirt to get him to look. He smiled and nodded jokingly (still looking from the corner of his eye) I started to do so (don't worry, we're both very much so adults) and he looked (from the corner of his eye) but the second that it showed too much, he QUICKLY turned his head and looked away. I know it was probably stupid to do and we were both drinking but I was SO frustrated. To flat out call him out on it and he STILL couldn't. Got embarrassed and shy! WHY?!?!?!?!? If I mean nothing to him, and she means more, wouldn't it be easy to look at me?

[animalwithin]

This guy sounds like a coward. If he flirts with you but can't look you in the eye at all, he's just scared. Eye contact for some men is extremely terrifying. Either that, or he's just not interested in you and is trying to blow you off, bit you're saying he flirts with you and gets shy when around you, seems like he just can't man up.

[Asker]

He definitely flirts and jokes around. I have even tried just sitting there w/o saying a word& watch him from the corner of MY eyes and I'll find that he'll look at me a few times. Even up and down as I sit there. (sometimes you guys aren't exactly discreet!) & then he'll break the silence. He's never mean or anything. In fact when I was trying to get him 2look at me, he only did for about 2 seconds and then looked away. He smiled and then INSISTED on side glancing.if I meant nothinghecouldlook!

[animalwithin]

Then yea this guy really likes you but can't seem to look you in the eye because it terrifies him. It sounds dumb, but like I said before, I contact for men is REALLY scary if nobody has ever told them how to handle it. Think about is. Men grow up staring at women because we think you're hot and sexy. If women caught us looking, we get scared because its not polite to stare and we come off as perverts or wierdos. That said, if a man knows how to hold eye contacft with a woman, its very powerful

[animalwithin]

and shows how confident he is. Men are not taught that though. Its still scary for many to lock eyes with a girl, especially if that's the girl that we are crazy for. I don't now how to specifically help you. Its him, not you. Someone needs to slap him and tell him to man up and look you right in the eye. You just grab his face and stare at each other, but that is kind of weird lol. I'm sorry, that's all I can help you with, its him, he needs to man up.

[Asker]

It was only a month ago or so when he would look me in the eye and just stare. I adored it but then it turned to this. Please explain then why he laughs at everything she says, brings her things, looks directly into her eyes, let's her interrupt us. Do you think that he doesn't like me and that's why he can't look me in the eye? That he knows I like him? What I don't get is if I text him asking if I can ask a ?, he jokes saying no, I'm not sending you nude pics. What?Why be cruel?!

[animalwithin]

First off, guys are dumb. Males for the most part and boys trapped in a man's body so his behavior is very childish. It is definetely possible that he is just not into you as I said above. He could just be trying to blow you off and ignore you, and he defientely can be interested in just your friend which explains his behavior but that's just cruel as you said. Like I said, guy's are stupid douchebags and don't have the guts to do what's right. It hurts to know that he's not interested but you

[animalwithin]

deserve a man who can look you in the eye and not play these stupid games with you. You have two options: be honest with him, tell him you have feelings for him and see how he reacts, or just forget the guy and find someone else, which is the best option. You definetely deserve better, you know that. Don't let this guy play games like this with you. Feel free to ask if you have any more questions!

[Asker]

You know the weird part? He even text me 2 night ago. Usually, it's always me that has to do the texting. But out of the blue, he did! And we had a nice convo! Then this happened the very next night! When he brought her food, he was going off about how he made all this stuff and I asked if he could bring me some, that I'd even pay him to get the stuff. He told me I could do it. WTF yet she asked and he said he'll make her a ton. Yet he always turns a lot of things I say into something sexual! wt

[animalwithin]

This guy is playing games with you, clearly. He's keeping you around on a string while he tends to the other girl. You've got to leave this guy, he's treating you badly, come on. Why isn't he brining you food, why is he telling you he did all that for this other girl. He could be trying to make you jealous, but again, that's all games. Like I said, you deserve better, and you should move on. Add me as a friend if you need help with any thing else! Hope I helped you out, I know how it feels when

[animalwithin]

a person plays games with your feelings and isn't really into you, it sucks, but you're better off without him, trust me.

[Asker]

Yea I'm not sure why he caters to her. She plays games too. Last night she was flirting and hugging this guy who she had gone on a date or two w only to turn around and say to this guy that all these guys want her and it's so annoying. Talk about awkward. You know the weird thing? What I said, my frustration, worked. For the most part, he looked at me! I must have made him feel bad enough to change! Also, why AM I being strung along? Why does he mess w me w texts? Esp when I don't start it?

[animalwithin]

When girls say that, yea they find it annoying but deep down they like it because they're insecure. Attention from guys, annoying or not, attractive or not, they like. As for you, for some men and women, messing around with people is fun. Its cruel and childish but they get a kick out of it and its a way to keep someone around if you can't seem to get anybody else and you want to get laid. Like I said before, you deserve someone better, get away from this guy, because its all games for him.

[Asker]

I admit, it felt good to snap. I put her in her place when she kept interrupting us. For ONCE I did that. I was expecting him to get pissy and protective of her but he got very very timid, quiet, didn't know what to say. That's when I got on him a few minutes later about eye contact because I got sick of it. Even I'd I'm just a friend, I deserve respect! I require it!

[animalwithin]

Every woman deserves and should require respect. Unfortunately, as was in your case, sometimes you women let your emotions take control of you and you lose sight of how much of an a**hole douchebag a guy can be. But now you learned, and hopefully you won't make the same mistake with the next guy lol. This is life, you gotta love it, with all its twists and turns haha.

[Asker]

But you know what's weird though? He's trying to be nicer to me! Like it rattled him or something. Yes, I finally let go rather than oppress my emotions. It was time; I'm too nice. Well, no matter what happens, nice no more!

[animalwithin]

Thats because you stood up to his behavior and showed him that you won't take his bullsh*t anymore. It works the same way in reverse, if a girl was doing it with a guy. Generally, when you stand up for yourself, people back off and realize that they can't do what they used to do with you. Good for you, now you know not to take bullsh*t from guys, sadly it takes many women years to realize this after so many guys treat them like crap. Glad I could help! Shoot me a message if you need anything!

[Asker]

Unfortunately, this other girl plays a roll too. The second that I stand for myself, she feeds him lies. It was only recently that he got all sensitive with me saying that he's not a jerk, that he's a nice guy (he's very shy and insecure). I told him that deep down, he is a nice guy, just make sure ge act like it! The girl is all drama and he puts up w it. I only hope him happiness. Sometimes it's not just girls that settle for d-bags...

[animalwithin]

Oh I know, guy's will settle for women just because of their looks, no matter how bad she treats him. Girls don't even have to look pretty sometimes. As long as you have boobs and a vagina, some guys will do anything for you, its sad. Sounds like both of these people don't need to be in your life though, too much drama and bullsh*t if you ask me...