Why does he get mad over the littlest things I do?

[PrincessBubble]

my boyfriend gets so mad over things like me taking too long to reply to a text or not picking up my phone the first time he calls.

he never used to be like this, but over the last few months its gotten worse.

is it because he loves me that the little things make him angry?

or does he just like to pick arguments because he likes seeing me upset/angry?

or any other reason...

[Anonymous]

hmm it sounds like he has self esteem and control issues that have been triggered by something, why else would be feel the need to keep such tight tabs on you and freak out for no reason? trust me I know what I am talking about. Guys can project their stress on you just like girls but that would be in the form of yelling at your for not buying the right shampoo or being too messy, not knowing where you are and what you are doing when he is not around to watch you.

[PrincessBubble]

i guess its because I get quite a lot of male attention and he's not very good looking so he may feel a little insecure?

[Opinion Owner]

oh yeah, he definitely is insecure, all guys deep down are insecure but that's got to be tough, whether he is attractive or not he definitely must have low self esteem. His fears of losing you or you cheating whether you are that type of person or not are starting to consume him. So now he is so scared that he is projecting these fears on you, he is a self fulfilling prophecy. if you let him continue you will be pushed to cheat. so you need to talk to him and stop this crap now

[PrincessBubble]

yeah I understand. I've confrinted him about it so many times and he's just dismissed it or pretended like its my fault.

he hates talking about his feelings.

is there anyway I could get him to open up/

[Opinion Owner]

hmm, it sounds like he is simply afraid, of losing you, but his emotions and in general appearing weak. Which is why he probably doesn't want to talk about his feelings, he is probably one of those bad alpha males that thinks it's not OK for guys to care about their or project their emotions. As for what you can do? gosh I don't know, that is something that is very difficult to break even for a professional. Do some research online, I guess try to get him to realize it is okay to allow you to

[Opinion Owner]

have emotional control over him in the sense that you have the enormous power of hurting him and leaving him helpless. He has to learn that everyone experiences emotions and that there is nothing wrong with giving them an important place in his life. He will never be happy with life at this rate, you aren't a mind reader nor is anyone else, nor should anyone have to be. I honestly think you two might be doomed, the inly way guys especially learn that they are wrong and learn in such a way

[Opinion Owner]

that will actually make him want to change and do better and be different will have to be painful. If you just stick around you will implore him to change and realize that he is safe emotionally with you but he will keep throwing your thoughts and feelings aside because he will never be convinced by what you say or do. This is like diabetes int he sense that a person gets tiny symptoms and don't realize how huge the problem is. This is how he views and approaches all of his life and all his emot-

[Opinion Owner]

ions, he probably wasn't raised to accept and respect his emotions, it is a very old school type of manliness that still exists. He will always think it's your fault, trust me! he will ALWAYS think it's you not him that is the problem but relationships are never like that. He just is not emotionally mature, certainly not enough to be a part of a healthy and happy relationship. I suggest either counciling, which I doubt he will go for or breaking up. Great lose is his best teacher

[Opinion Owner]

I know it sucks but trust me. Try counciling, you never know. But you will probably have to dump him, he will never change and never learn otherwise, you can't jsut threaten to leave, it will just make it worse, he will try to be better and change but when he sees you don't leave then it will just make the cut deeper, see a professional can help you, but most likely he is the type of person that really just needs and deserves to be on his own because he cannot handle anymore than that

[PrincessBubble]

wow, you understand my relationship so well!

and yeah I think your right tbh, the more I stick around, the more he thinks he can treat me like this and get away with it.

thankyou so much for your advice!

[Opinion Owner]

haha, yeah sorry I wrote so much, I do hope it helps. if you really like him it might be worth the effort to go to councilling but if he doesn't even respect or acknowledge his own feelings and wellbeing he will never care about yours, best of luck to you, there are much better much more mature guys out there that are worth your time, remember you only live once, don't waste it the way he does!

[Prof_Don]

To me...it sounds like a lack of trust he has of you.

[Anonymous]

He sounds controlling to me with some issues. It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

[asianfreak]

sounds like he's impatient