I think I'm starting to hate my boyfriend. Am I being a drama queen or the hell with it?

[Anonymous]

Let me give it to you straight. We have been together for 2.5 years. At first there was so much interest and passion. Now, we argue about everything. Our main argument is $. I make twice what he makes and he's always throwing it in my face. I'm to the point that if my boss gives me another raise by first thought is going g to be "F&@k". That can't be normal or healthy. He's such a pessimist about everything! It drives me crazy. He never wants to go out and every time I do go out with friends he gets annoyed. And it's not like he's not invited. He just chooses not to go. Before I use to ignore guys at bars or lounges but lately I'm taking advantage of the situation and flirting with absolutely no remorse. Everything about my boyfriend annoys me now. I don't know if this is a phase or if I outgrew the relationship. He's nothing but mean to me and I'm disgusted by the way he treats me. Ugh I would hate to throw away almost 3 yrs. but I'm thinking it's better than throwing away my life with him by my side. Oh p. s. we live together. Help!

[Cherry87cane]

Don't feel bad, my fiance lives with me... we go to the movie theaters and he throws that in my face,he buys me tongue rings,and I do not ask for he throws that in my face. I do not think I want to get married to him now,he treats me like dog sh!t,when all I try to do is to make him happy... my oldest brother gave me advice it may help you to decide the same situation we're both going through... scare him, either make him listen to what you have to say or kick him to the curb... if he doesn't listen then tell him its not working or just make him leave. People say- you do not know what you have until that special person is gone... I hope your situation works out... and maybe if he does love you he'll take that chance to change what he's doing wrong and he'll figure out a way to make it right again... and by the way I do not think your being a drama queen at all.

[UberTroll]

"Ugh I would hate to throw away almost 3 yrs. but I'm thinking it's better than throwing away my life with him by my side"

You have it exactly right, it's time to go. Better to remove him from your life and enjoy the rest of your time rather than let him continue to bring you down, that would be a real waste. And if you learned anything at all from this experience then those years you spent with him weren't really wasted. I was in a similar situation myself and at 2.5 years I had had enough. It was hard but it was definitely the right thing to do. I was losing myself being with someone so angry and controlling. It felt so good to be free again once I learned to let go and now I have the most amazing boyfriend I could hope for =)

[BabyBap33]

You do need to somehow get out of the relationship.. Even if it's been a long time the second you feel unhappy get out of there.. You are already starting to look again.. Which means you are losing interest more and more.. He treats you bad and doesn't like to send time with you and gets annoyed when you go out without him.. He sounds like nothing you do pleases him which is something you need to get away from ..

[TheFuture]

Look up the sunk cost fallacy. You've obviously moved on from this guy. I was with a girl for 4 years and we had a discussion that we were better off as friends, but then we stayed together for another year. I'm still friends with her, but it was rough because right after we broke up I started seeing another girl and it seemed so disrespectful, but I was holding in flirting for about 2 years by that time.

For your dignity, leave this guy. You don't want to be some skank, hitting on guys while you're with someone.

By the way, I don't mind if the woman makes more than me. I'll be your trophy boyfriend.

[Gawesome]

Sounds like you finally see the real side of him. A jealous, pessimistic, insecure guy who does not respect the fact that you make more than him. He should be happy for your career success. Obviously, you're not happy in this relationship so you naturally gravitate towards guys that show you some sort of attention. He's not happy and is not willing to put the effort anymore. Sounds like this relationship is done.

[Konnour]

It's obvious you're not happy together so you both gotta go to a counselor or just end it.

And I really don't like that part where you say you're flirting with other men now, you're basically cheating.

If you want to go for others, end your current relationship first.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Well don't waste 3 more years being treated like that. You don't deserve being treated by a guy like that. You don't need to be miserable