Which comes first? Your boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend?

[iminlovewithcam]

So...the age old question. Your boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend? How do YOU decide. How do they feel about that?

Friends

BF/GF

Idk either...

[Toxicgarbageisland]

In general ofcourse your partner!

Just because of the evolutionary sexual attraction (hormones) on it's one that I would prefer a time with my girlfriend even if a night with my friends would be more exciting.

In a real relationship your partner probably also is your best friend next to your sex/date partner.

There is love on top of the friendship, you dig her looks, you like here cuteness, the way she smiles, her smartness, her books and butt ofcourse, haha.

And you trust her and have fun with her.

A friend you also trust and have fun with as most important key factors, but there is not a chance you end up living together for the rest of your lives (or you probably stay single both together), marry eachother and get children!

I don't see how this is a hard question and it scares me that that many girls think friends are important...

Ofcourse love can also end but if you don't act like your partner is your number one, (next to family, can't really compare those two) you can't say it was real love in the first place..

This is how it naturally feels for me, I wouldn't prefer casualling it up but because of so many girls prefering there friends I maybe should start having doubts, lol.

[Toxicgarbageisland]

Damn, a few mistakes in my message, it isn't editable is it? Although it's pretty obvious what I mean. :P

[here4you]

well it depends

i would pick the bff most of the time but

unless you really think that the boyfriend or girlfriend is the ONE

then go with the girlfriend or boyfriend but other than that I really don't think there is a

competition cause ur obviously for a reason

and is that reason greater than keeping for boyfriend or gf?

[ally_lucie]

Hey dear!

Alright, so, in my opinion, that question is relative. What I mean by that is that is depends entirely on the situation. Anywhere ranging from whether your best friend is being reasonable or irrational, as well as your significant other, how long you and your boyfriend or girlfriend have been together, how much they mean to you, and how much the product of the SITUATION means to you.

In other words, if I were going out with this boy for 2 months, and he were to make me feel uncomfortable, if my best friend advised me to leave him, I would probably listen to her.

On the other hand, if you are very much in love with your significant other, and have been together for a while, or even if you are engaged, then that is very different.

Ultimately, and personally, I don't believe in taking sides, or chosing one of the two. I believe that your best friend should support you always, but advise you along the way. I also believe that you should be smart in relationships as well. Thus, it shouldn't come to a point where you have to chose between them...

[MobMonkeyLex711]

Well, it all depends upon the situation. Like if your friend wants to hang out for no reasson, but your boyfriend/girlfriend is having some problems and needs you, I'd pick the bf/gf. and vice versa. Now, if your friend or boyfriend/girlfriend is making you choose between each other than that's a horrible thing. I'd just say I'm not choosing and if they really cared they'd accept it and leave you alone about it, but if they continue trying to force you to choose than you pick the one that isn't making you choose since they're the one that's willing to accept whatever you do even if they disagree.

[ivarei]

it should be your friends, but it becomes increasingly difficult the more you like your bf/gf. I guess it also depends on the situation. if your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to go to a movie, but your bff is stranded on the highway with a flat tire, then the best friend comes first. if you're best friend wants to go get lunch with you, but your boyfriend or girlfriend calls up and says that their grandmother just died, then I think that it's more important that you be with your bf/gf.

[BBGyrl]

Neither should have to be first, there should be a somewhat equal amount of time that you spend with both. Being that you're young you don't need to spend time with him all the time anyway but at the same time that doesn't mean that you should always just spend time with your friend. It's important to be balanced with the two relationships regardless of who was around first.

[Milton]

your best friend won't get jealous or start having second thoughts if you hang out with other people of the same sex.;p

well really I think best friend, because they are ALWAYS there for you, or at least for me they are. so I would pick them over a guy annnnny day.

and also, sometimes need "guy time" or whatever you wanna call it...and so do girls. its like an escape. so it would be the best friend over the boyfriend/girlfriend for my opiniooooon.

[Shlei3]

This one is easy for me because my fiance is my best friend. We were friends for 4 years before we started dating so yeah, I'm one lucky chick.

[daisyELECTRIC]

I would choose my best friend over a boyfriend. My best friend has been there for me through a lot of stuff so I'd choose him. That's just how that is for me.

[Anonymous]

Whoever needs me most, is who wins. If I have a date with a girl, and my best friend's dad just died, I'm going to cancel the date and be with my friend.

[starryeyessurprise-]

In some cases the boyfriend/girlfriend can be the best friend so they can fall under either.

[love-bird-18]

It really depends on the situation

[HaggardDiva]

It honestly depends on what's going on.

[Anonymous]

friends. chicks before di*cks or bros before hoes

[Anonymous]

I can't choose!