I'm going to be "brutally" honest.
Possible Reasons You're Having This Problem:
1. He doesn't like you.
2. He does, but not enough to want you for his partner.
3. He's not ready for a relationship.
4. He's not interested in having a relationship.
All four of those point to it being a dead end.
Shy men can and do pursue women when they're interested, and don't you dare insult their manhood by assuming otherwise. At least half of my boyfriends were shy, and many who've pursued me to face rejection were also shy. In fact, some shy men continue to try after being rejected multiple times.
Further, if he rejects you so much as once, move on. Women have a long fertility cycle, and we might reject a guy during certain phases of it, so it could make since for a man to ask a woman multiple times for a month before giving up. However, there is no such justification to continue bothering a man after one rejection.
If you do try him, and he rejects you, do not try to force it. If a man forced you into having sexual relations with him (it doesn't matter if he did so while getting you to consider him you're boyfriend, fiance, or even husband), it would be recognized by most as rape. Well, dear, it's also rape when a woman forces herself on a man, so if he says no, listen.
As for if guys like being chased... The ones who do also enjoy keeping a harem, and are not worth you're time. Unless you like it when a man can't tell you apart from any other similar-looking woman.
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If by showing interest you mean
Talking to them a lot
Texting them
Looking at them sideways
Blushing when they're around
"Flirting"
Laughing at their jokes
Odds are they have no idea you like them. The thought could be there, but for some reason guys like to assume the girl doesn't like them, just to be safe.
However, if by showing interest you mean
Saying "Hey, I like you, wanna go out sometime?"
Then I'd say they probably really weren't interested. You can't get much clearer than that lol
Yup. In fact, I think many people like being chased because it makes them feel desirable and highly valuable. It's a self esteem boost.
While it is popular in our media to depict men as having the tendency to be put off by being chased (as it breaks the gender role of women being shy and modest about their feelings while men are depicted as being more assertive and thus the instigators of relationships) as our society has evolved away from those traditional stereotypes it has become much more common especially considering the facts that a lot of people (men and women) are scared to death of sharing their true feelings. Personally If I was to be "chased" my first reaction would be one of relief as it is much easier (and less stressful) to make the decision between reciprocating these feelings or not as opposed to having to make the first move and hope for the best. You may be chasing after the wrong guys or not waiting long enough to get to know them before beginning your advances. Sadly my personal experience on this subject is limited so I can't of too much help here.
What risk are you talking about? and by obvious, do you mean you just say it as it is. I guess in that case, no shy guy would like to drag that chase, at least once he is aware for sure.
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most shy guys like to be chased or just have really low self-esteem so just be patient and tell them outright when it feels right
I love a woman that shows interest, but as soon as I see it, I give it right back if I am interested.
if a girl wanted me she would have to "prove" herself to get me, I don't want a girl to be there for a one time thing and she leaves like it never happend, its not that we don't like to be chased, its more guys want to be desired, you say "When you like someone you make it obvious, well its not in any way obvious to the guy(s) in question
Me, I'd rather a girl be upfront and obvious instead of trying to make me guess. I like the feeling of being chased, I can be won over by it sometimes. I can't really speak generally for all guys though, only for myself.
a lot of guys are lazy these days. women have the power of seduction, we bring men to us or we make them chase us. men are created to chase but a lot of men are to lazy to chase and want women to chase them.
"When I like someone I make it obvious."
Unfortunately, for most women, that means "casting glances at him from across the room".
I'm curious what you're doing to "make it obvious".what girls consider to be obvious signs of showing interest shy guys or guys that lack confident might interpret as something else entierly
Give us an idea of what 'showing interest' means to you.
Woman activist groups fought hard for a long time to battle gender roles. I find it ironic that there's girls in here placing men in them.
everyone likes being chased
tired of girls insisting that guys are hunters
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