Okay, so here's my next idea. This song popped into my head, and I thought, 'I could make a question out of that.'
I read a very heartfelt apology by anon user, which was about a terrible crime he committed over a decade ago. It was very sad, really terrible, what he did, but he's going to make amends for it now. And it got me thinking.
Then I got a pm from a friend here who's decided to leave, which makes me sad. Another good one bites the dust. I'm not going to convince anyone to stay, it's their choice, but it is very applicable to the things I write about (disagreements, confrontation, conflict, blocking, etc.) I think this place, just like the internet, is a pretty fragile organism. It only seems like it isn't because of the constant influx of new people, but it doesn't as often take into account who's left. I'm not sure if I should go so far as to say it lives and breathes, but it may very well have a heartbeat (metaphorically, of course), and seems to me that it is the most kind, most sensitive, and the ones who care about humanity the most, that are the most likely to become disillusioned with the harsh realities. There is definitely a lack of compassion at times.
As well, I had a kind of stilted, long pm session with someone recently, and I admit I eventually reacted too abruptly, too confrontationally, to what I perceived as bluntness and impatience, etc. Anyway, long story short, we both made some mistakes, and after he blocked me, a fellow friend acted as go-between and helped to patch things up between us (I did not intend to block and wanted to continue the relationship.) This is another telling example of why I am now against blocking. It shuts down all contact, all potential communication, and can therefore never result in resolution. There are definitely many (many?) times where blocking is warranted and you know 'there ain't no blood in that stone', so to speak. It's a dead fish. (I know, it's 'dead in the water.') Move on. I'll say it again - not everyone is equal and some people are pretty awful human beings. But I'm referring to the much more grey, nuanced, complex situations, where one or more people was offensive, one or more was hurt, and they really do take a hefty amount of self-control and self-reflection to decipher why, and what, in fact, really happened. (Btw, he and I are much better now and I am genuinely happy to know him. He's a good guy. Again, we all need to cut each other some slack when we, inevitably, or intermittently falter. Me included.)
So this question (I had to make it a mytake due to character count. How can this be 3377 characters?! I do run on too much sometimes, but these words here are important)... is up for you to extend that olive branch to someone who blocked you, and you would like to apologize, or just say a few words, that they might perhaps see, and you too, can find some resolution and make amends. Conflict, conflict, conflict. We need to become better at it.
Also, if you like, you can list a user(s) who you miss, who left the site because they were one of the others I mentioned, one of the good ones, and you thought they were a great contributor to the site.
'Baby Come Back' by Player
Player is an American rock band that made their mark during the late 1970s. This is obviously a contemporary video, not related.
This is a decent cover. Not really my style either, but a bit more soulful.
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I sometimes miss my first love but don’t try to get hack with her for the reason why I broke up with her in the first place. Sometimes I want to tell her I’m proud of her though.
There’s a few of my exes whom I’m proud of. But I don’t know how they’d perceive me randomly telling them that. But I’m happy that they’re doing well with their lives and want them to know that they deserve pats on the back.
Emma, you were the first to teach me what love was. You showed me how to see it. I just wanted to tell you that I’m proud to be able to say I spent some of my life with you and that I’m proud of where you are in your life. Keep doing your thing. You’re awesome.
Kharissa you were my very first girlfriend and pretty much my first everything from the kiss to the bedroom. You was my very first positive experience with a girl. The first not to abuse my affection for you and hurt me with it. You taught me a woman’s decency. Thank you. I’m also proud to say that I shared part of my life and you’re one of my best memories. I’m proud of where you’re at in your life as well. I think you’re an excellent mother and you should feel the highest of yourself if you don’t already. Thank you for leaving a good mark on my spirit and I send blessings to yours.
That was so goooood!
You're a good writer. 🧾
I published two books 😜
Oooh. What subjects? Fiction?
Self-published or through a publisher?
The first one is a romance. The second is a romantic horror story. Self published.
Can you explain to me how something becomes an example of good writing? Even when there are other answers which are grammatically correct. I am not trying to bring the stature down, I just can't see any significant difference. Just curious.
Good writing is a subjective term @sensible27 some people hate Harry Potter but that doesn’t mean it’s poorly written and I’m sure J. K Rowling doesn’t care about negative comments.
@sensible27 Well sometimes I can pinpoint, very easily, what it is that I'm zoning in on. But not always.
Regarding your "grammatically correct" comment: I would say that writing, as with anything in life, is about learning a good foundation of theory on whatever the subject is, learning the rules, and then becoming advanced enough in your understanding of it that you then can, and do, break the rules. Like for instance, I should not be beginning a sentence, technically speaking, with "but" or "like", but I do those things deliberately and consciously to emphasize my points. I also use a comma right before the end of a list of items, which is not the 'classic' way of doing things, but I am putting almost infinitesimal pauses in my rather long sentences, to encourage one to take a mental breath there.
I have seen Dongtai's writing for several months now. I know where he stands, somewhat, on quite a few things. His writing is a combination of a thoughtful person who has done a lot of self-reflection and makes conscious decisions to look for the good in people. He is not naive. He is making a choice to appreciate people, and life. His writing here is not grammatically perfect, but as I said recently about myself, I don't believe in perfection, and the reason I complimented his writing again is because he speaks from the heart. He takes you in to his mind and you feel his thoughts. I believe he communicates his thoughts well.