Throughout the ages, manhood is connected in the general conscience with certain traits and values. Today, the effects of feminism, pop culture and the media, have shaped a quite confusing reality and many young boys search for their identity and manhood in that harsh, unforgiving environment. And we observe phenomena of violence, anger, bullying, showing off, premature growing and sexual activities, being dressed as an adult, smoking etc, as a desperate effort of claiming their own position in the world and shouting, I'm here, and I'm a man, please accept me.
Unfortunately some boys, remain in that stage of boyhood forever, and perpetuate this sad vicious circle of struggle for self-reassurance either by obsessively pursuing fame, money and recognition; or by claiming it through an array of sexual partners with whom they avoid developing any substantial sentimental connection. On the other hand, men are often thought as providers, but they are not just that, they can't be just that. A person who respected women and himself enough to maintain a less abundant approach in his dating life, shall in no case be seen as a sign of weakness. "Marriage material men", are the only "real men". In the sense that they are well rounded individuals that seek self development with every opportunity and try to make the best out of what they got without boasting, and their chivalry does not contradict with their humility. On the contrary narcissism, comes more often than not with the inevitable price of ridicule. Insecure manboys, while alluring and seductive, they are nothing more than players that appeal to confused or traumatized women inclined to self-harm, usually of younger ages.
A mature, rational and discreet woman knows exactly what manhood is about. She is not blinded by the ephemeral shine of the stud, and longs for the longterm warmth of the respectful man. The man that will always be there with her, in hardships and times of happiness. The man that appeals both in her heart, body and mind, and not just in the lower of the human instincts. But this man, in no case should be her last choice for settling down. He shouldn't be the one who tries to heal all the scars created by her previous dark triad-esque lovers. He should be her priority from the very beggining, he who would embrace her inside the wings of his manhood, and make sure she will meet no harm and heartbreaks as long as he is at her side. He doesn't have to be the dock where she finally settles, out of need, now that the unforgiving power of time started leaving it's first marks on her face. Because marriage is not a societal neccecity. It is the concious choice, of two complete and mature individuals who decide to share the rest of their lives together. I sincerely hope women of the world, realise one day that "having fun" comes with it's own cost and that these "traditional men", despite the common belief, can show them actually really fun and creative ways of living. It might be a different kind of adventure but it is not of any less value, and is certainly of a lot less risk than the other one...
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