Chivalry: Why men should hold onto it not because of norms made by society but because of the genuine affection for the women that they love! (Page 2)
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". Healthy loving relationships are about focusing on spoiling your lover "
Yes, totally.
I'm exactly like this and I can't help it, when I love a girl I really go all out and get obsessed with her in a good way, I always want to make her happy and do nice things but not outright spoil her, and I expect nothing in return, even though you probably have a better chance at making her want to please you in return ;) But what can I say I'm a romantic guy, next to food women are right up there on my favourites list.. Lols
Every woman I have been with responds in a very positive way to this. It is not that they are looking for free food on dates or too lazy to open their own door. It is a sign of affection and women are emotional creatures.
Doing little things for her gives me a good feeling, too.
Most of all I want my woman to feel good about herself, me and us.
I absolutely agree that you have to be "chivalrous" but, chivalry Isn't just being nice to girls. Chivalry was a medieval battle code, it was how to be a "good" man. Guys should be chivalrous but just know that it goes beyond paying for good and opening doors.
I disagree with your myTake completely.
I rarely spend money on other people and even then when it is just a favour because I know the person well. If a woman has money why can't she spend it? I am not her bank account and I'm definitely not paying for food I didn't eat.
I want an equal not a dependant that may or may not satisfy my urges later. That way we can be fully comfortable with each others company.
The sex is something expected in a healthy relation and not a reward. There's my pleasure and her pleasure.
I may just want to see her smile sometimes, so i do watever i may be able to do , may be something "oldscholl" or something really silly/stupid :)
When I don't open the door for the chirp I like I feel I m doing everything I should be doing or I fell I missed and opportunity to do what is expected of me. I think chivalry is being a gentleman but also works as a barometer for the relationship, if even though the guy is chivalrous and the girl insists on paying for herself she is a keeper. If the girl never offers anything in way of reciprocation of courtesy then that's a red flag and may get worse down the road.
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Didn't read the take just came to bash another guy being a phony trying to earn brownie points.
Literally all you said was 'allow yourself to be taken advantage of and reinforce a bad dating atmosphere until you don't get used anymore, basically leaving a breadcrumb trail of a bunch of entitled women for the next man to deal with'.
No ta.
Chivalry is sexist, courtesy is the way to go. Why should men hold open doors for women when said women won't do the same? I say it should go both ways.
It's mostly a take for guys. I might do one for girls in the future if I'm not lazy. It's not about having to do something for them because they're a girl. It's simply about how we should just do things for our lovers for no other reason than to just be affectionate.
@Octavius I'm a guy, and I disagree with chivalry.
If chivalry is something you "just do" for your lover, then why don't girls do it? Why do you specifically state that guys must keep up chivalry, while stating nothing about girls?
@Maverickj "I might do one for girls in the future"
Chivalry is one of the biggest turn ons I can think about
Yes! I love this take, thanks! We need more men like you in the world <3
I just came because there was a big "..." after the "Chivalry: Why men should hold onto it not because of norms made by society but because of the" XDDD
If it goes both ways its not chivilry though.
Im nice to everybody so that means im not going to treat a girl differently, im just automatically good to people by default just because. Thats not chivilry.
I hope there are more gentlemen out there like you are.. 😊😊
A good mytake but just for the record only a small part of the code of chivalry deals with women. The code as a whole overall does not really deal with women.
I've gotta agree with you. Its kind of like how Im an asshole to everyone except family, close friends, and whoever Im in a relationship with.
yeah when women are virgins at marriage again ill agree with you
"I want to be payed equal, but have you open doors and do all the heavy lifting"
-Typical Feminist
You don't have to date someone that uses you you know.
If you're not doing it as a social norm, then it's really not chivalry. The social norm element is part of why chivalry is what it is.
Tough luck. I share your belief chivalry. I too think it is important. But sadly many people have become more careless regarding these things.