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"Your friend is so hot" Guys, STOP saying this to your female friends! (Page 2)
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Simple solution, stop posting photos of the both of you on facebook. It's like complaining that men stare at your boobs when you go to a topless beach. It's just common sense, if you don't post the picture for the entire world to see, people won't be able to make any comments.
To me this just sounds like you're being insecure. You're viewing this in a negative light and thinking those guys opinions matter when it concerns your level of physical attractiveness. It's Obvious those men have impaired vision anyways and can't see how beautiful you are. but it's worse when you can't accept that not every undid use person is going to be attracted to you, and you let it effect your own self confidence. in my opinion
honestly, I would say you're both equally attractive. she just has a haircut that better suits her than you do and her makeup "enhances" her looks better than yours. shorter hair doesn't really suit rounder heads on women.
also, realistically many guys probably talk about you being hot to others too.
side note: it's a little weird and disrespectful for you to post photos of your friend on a public website without her knowledge/permission.
You're pretty too... ...
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Keep that quote in mind
If you showed me this picture and I knew you were already in a relationship, then I would figure it was okay to say. Like you were showing HER to me since you are taken. Don't know what your situation was, but it that was it it could be the explanation.
I think you stop caring what people think. The next time a guy says that you should ask them why it is necessary to tell her and tell them that if they think she's hot to tell her. It's not your business whether your friend is hot or not. She's just your friend.
I actually never comment to my female friends if one of their female friends is attractive to me. I generally keep it to myself, cause I never want to comment, and then be told something like "she has a boyfriend/girlfriend" cause that would make me feel like an idiot. I over think things, probably.
I can't say 'same' because i know i am not attractive. nor i try to be.
But both girls are attractive. It is fine. Don't be sad about it, this is how she is and this is how you are. Try to accept it, because you are attractive in fact, Maybe not as much as her, but you are very attractive.
Tell your friend that this guy finds her attractive. all the time.
I think it's rude when people do this. It's like a backhanded compliment. Yes your friend is pretty, but so are you! And why do they feel the need to make that statement to you. Like you are very aware of what she looks like.
People can be so mean without even thinking about it!
I can relate to this. And I'm not sure that guys are the only ones who are guilty of it. In general people in our culture have gotten less polite and less tactful. They no longer pay as much attention to who their audience is when they make a comment.
You think us guys don't get told the same thing? xD
You just deal with it, it is what it is.
I don't even get them. To me you're more attractive than your friend. And that's coming from someone who prefers dark haired girls over blondes.
Nice take. That sucks that guys say that you all the time. And I think it gets more weirder on facebook having them leave comments like that. True its like they want you to hook them up with her. That can be very annoying to hear.
Thank you very much for the upvote.
Why does it matter? Are you interested in your guy friends? If not, get over it.
If you're my friend I'm obviously not going to tell you that you're hot, you'll just think I'm trying to get into your pants and it ruins the friendship.
Stop being so jealous.
I had a feeling it was the brunette from the picture.
Anyways she's attractive but maybe you could see that as an opportunity to improve yourself so that you are no longer compared to her.
Is that really the solution? Make yourself prettier so that your friends will stop being insensitive, superficial assholes?
@samhradh_leannan You don't do it for your friends but for yourself. Imagine how many times the brunette is approached vs the blond. If the blond worked on herself than she would have guys approaching her and less people would compare the two girls.
First of all, she's pretty. You might prefer the brunette but there are others who would disagree. There's really no need to be insulting.
Second of all, not everything can be changed or improved. Yes, some traits that people have can be actively improved. But we're also born with certain traits that can't always be affected. Not everyone who isn't a super model is in that position because they are lazy. Not all of us are lucky enough to have the potential to look exactly the way we want. To assume that someone chooses to be less attractive than someone else or necessarily has the ability to become as attractive as they are is really insensitive and just plain dense.
Even if someone CAN change something about themselves, that doesn't mean it's okay to be disrespectful and inconsiderate to them. They're still human. Your response is sickening.
@samhradh_leannan Disrespectful?
If anything my comment is encouraging her to better herself.
Laziness is a pathetic excuse, in this world we are always competing with each other so it's either you innovate or you lose.
Yes there are a few things we can't change but nowadays most things can be changed.
From the picture I can think of 2 things she can easily do.
1) Wear better looking clothes
2) Go to the gym
Just these 2 things would greatly improve her chances.
Clothing wise, she could wear brighter clothing since that shirt makes her look like a maid.
As for the gym it has been proven that with enough squats ANY woman can get a good looking butt.
I think you may have misunderstood the source of the problem
So basically you're not completely flawless looking and a stranger on the internet THINKS, without knowing ANYTHING about you or your body or your health or your financial resources or your lifestyle or how much effort you are already making, that there are things you should be working on, that means it's okay for people to be rude and insensitive and rub your nose in the fact that someone else is more attractive than you are. Got it.
@samhradh_leannan ANYONE can dress better and go to the gym those are choices. I go to a gym that's free so I'm sure she could find one.
As for clothing I'm sure she has a job.
Your only offended and playing the victim because you refuse to see the source of the problem.
If people don't find a girl attractive there are 2 possible reasons.
1) she's not good looking. This can be changed since ALMOST ANYONE with enough effort can become more attractive.
2) She is in an environment where people have a different perception of beauty. Such as a gay bar.
Don't make excuses. Excuses are for the weak.
Her complaining won't help her get a man, it will only make her seem desperate and unattractive.
She's not exactly some hideous person who obviously puts absolutely zero effort into their physical health or appearance. There is no reason to shame and judge her. I am not playing the victim just because I think people deserve to be treated respectfully and tactfully regardless of their appearance or how much effort they put into it.
And if you are truly under the impression that anyone can look as attractive as they want to if they put enough effort into it, you must be lucky indeed. It's really not always so simple. Some of my biggest insecurities are things that really can't be changed. It's unbelievably frustrating to hear someone try to claim that I could look like a supermodel if I just put in more gym time.
@samhradh_leannan I'm not shaming her, I'm encouraging her to do better that's why I mentioned how she could improve since the maid outfit isn't doing her any favours.
In this day and age of plastic surgery, diets and workouts people have no excuse for being ugly.
You have a flat butt, do squats. You have small breasts get a boob job. You have an ugly face, wear makeup.
I've seen girls go from 4/10 to 7.5/10 just through exercising and wardrobe changes alone.
It's not an impossible task. It just takes hard work.
What's stopping you?
Shit bro, lol.
I gotta say I agree with Man. I don't think he meant that the girl was being lazy or anything, but that she has room for improvement. For a guy it would be like a step from a T-shirt to a button down.
Honestly thou, I'm chilling with the blonde more than the brunette, tbh.
Oh, right. I forgot about plastic surgery. Silly me. The totally foolproof, 100% safe, risk-free, cheap and easy solution to every problem. What was I thinking? I have ZERO excuses for not looking like Adriana Lima.
I'm done here. You are disgusting.
@samhradh_leannan I forgot how piglike guys are.
I agree with everything you've said. These guys are disgusting and are the reason why women shove their finger down their throat.
God forbid not every woman wears a size fucking 0 and conforms with what society thinks is soooo hot. Because a woman can't be liked for who they are and a guy can't think that someone is really attractive unless they are super fit.
Hello, there are hundreds of different body types. Who are you to tell her that she should change hers just because it's not your ideal type? There are plenty of other women out there. You do not have to bring other people down just because they are not what you find the hottest.
She did not ask for your stupid advice, and telling women to "get hotter" is a ridiculous thing to say.
How about stop acting like a tool and grow some respect for ALL TYPES of women, not just your ideal skinny model?
And also, what about you? Let's see a picture of you guys and tear you apart? We'll tell you all your faults, and then wrap it up in a pretty little bow, stamp it with the name of "just trying to help!" and see how you feel. It doesn't feel good to be told that you aren't okay the way you are and that you should change in order for people to like you. And when you tell people that, it typically just makes them feel bad about themselves, which lowers self esteem. When people have low self-esteem they typically get really down and feel discouraged. Discouraged people do NOT improve themselves.
And she looks perfectly healthy and beautiful, and anyone saying otherwise disgusts me. I'd hate to see what these people would say about someone who was actually heavy, holy crap.
@Mekkalyn Amen. Thank god not all men are like this.
@samradh_leannan stop complaining. If someone's ugly then how is that the other person's fault? And how is it "superficial" to think someone looks better than someone else?
You sure you're not just mad? And would you have said the same thing if she were a man?
@samhradh_leannan *
@Kirah Nope. I just value tact and sensitivity. I think it's only decent to be polite. I would absolutely say the same thing if she was a man. I would say the same thing if she was a disfigured hunchback. There's no excuse for being needlessly rude.
@Kirah You get it thank you.
@samhradh_leannan @Mekkalyn I said plastic surgery as an EXAMPLE. Learn to read. I you read the full comment you would've seen that I said that in most cases a woman can just go to the gym, dress better, eat right and they look phenomenal after a few months. Even guys do it. Heck I'm working on it right now. I know what's wrong with me physically, I have seeked input from both males and females, it's just males care less about hurting a another guy's feelings so they give me the bs free version.
@Mekkalyn "Hello, there are hundreds of different body types. Who are you to tell her that she should change hers just because it's not your ideal type? There are plenty of other women out there. You do not have to bring other people down just because they are not what you find the hottest."
I never said she has to look hot for me. I said she should improve herself so she can feel better by getting attention from the guys she wants to find her hot.
"She did not ask for your stupid advice, and telling women to "get hotter" is a ridiculous thing to say.
How about stop acting like a tool and grow some respect for ALL TYPES of women, not just your ideal skinny model? "
In a way she did indirectly since she stated that she keeps getting compared to the girl. There are only 3 possible solutions to the problem.
1) Stop hanging out with that girl
2) Get people to stop comparing but watch as they only flirt with her
3) Improve on herself and get guys to flirt with her
@Mekkalyn "When people have low self-esteem they typically get really down and feel discouraged. Discouraged people do NOT improve themselves.
And she looks perfectly healthy and beautiful, and anyone saying otherwise disgusts me. I'd hate to see what these people would say about someone who was actually heavy, holy crap. "
Well then they need to see some positive reinforcement by seeing what others have achieved.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P85Pf0IDMog
Girls like her are EVERYWHERE. So what's stopping the myTake owner? LAZINESS, SELF VICTIMIZATION and who knows what else.
Well if you find her beautiful go date her. Everyone has a right to their own opinion no matter how non-PC it is. What would you prefer that people lie to her face and say she's beautiful but leave her wondering why no one is interested or tell her the truth?
You sound like a bitter woman that can't get a man and only makes EXCUSES.
I don't need to show you what I look like since I know my flaws and I'm working on them. Plus it's a matter of privacy.
@QuestionMan I like big, fat and round butts. So actually, if a girl did squats, that would make her butt LESS attractive to me. Exercise BURNS fat.
I hate small and flat butts.
@EnglishArtsteacher It all depends on the type of exercise. There are many different workouts out there. Looking at Jen's butt I quite like it but I also like bigger butts as well.
Flat is the only type I don't like.
I think some girls misunderstood your point.. I seriously think she is hotter than the brunette. But it seems people don't think that. Anyways you're right at certain extent if she is insecure about her looks she can improve for HERSELF not for some douches which I agree but in this case she just doesn't want guys to say that, she is satisfied with her looks I think, so yeah your comment was a bit offensive but at the same time I upvoted not bc I think you're 100% right but I agree with you on certain point.
@sanloveshorror Thanks for the up vote.
It is unclear whether she is satisfied with her looks. She doesn't have to change her appearance for a guy but I would recommend that she do it for herself. It will get her more attention which seems to only be received by her friend. Even if it is from douchebags as you say, it will still raise her self esteem by making her feel desired.
Yeah good point but still I don't want her to do it for people.. she should do it for herself.
If someone told you that your healthy set of teeth make you look ugly would you get fake teeth regardless of how uncomfortable they are and how much of a burden they are? Why should you change because others don't like who you are? What one person sees in you is just a reflection of what they see in themselves. If you're constantly chipping away parts of yourself for others there will be nothing left of who you really are? How will you know who you really are? Also, not everyone wants the same thing in a partner and who are you to say she has to improve herself when that's for her to decide?
If a girl changes her looks for attention, she isn't doing it for herself but for pthers. The only time you can say you truly are changing your looks for yourself is if you aren't look for validation and dates at the moment you are improving yourself. Plus I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If someone truly loves you, they will find the beauty in you even when your worn out, sweaty, and feeling irritable because love has nothing to do with how great you look. I mean yes, keeping jn good shape is important. So is a good hygiene and appearance. But its really not important. Whats most important is who you are inside. I mean lots of people who look high class are shitty ass people. I am a firm believer in keeping in shape but only because its good for your mind, heart, and body. You feel better and you are less likely to get sick. I believe in keep in good appearance and hygiene simply because its proper manners. But its not the end all, do all. I wouldn't want someone any less
On the days they look and feel like shit. I honestly dont see much of a difference except that the person looks a lot brighter. Other than that, they look the same person. Unless you go through drastic measures to change yourself
But I think this world is too caught up in looks and appearances. Who givea a shit. Its nice to dress up and exercise. I often experience a high when exercising. Its nice putting on that pretty shade of lipstick. But who really gives a shit. People care way too much about beauty. As much as Id love to look like a sexy pinup model, i know that tje grass always looks greener on the other side and how she'd have to worry about if people really liked her for her and not for what she looks like
All i am saying is that people pay too much attention too looks when they should really be paying attention to the mind and heart of the person. Not saying its wrong to not admire attractive people but people like you guys care too much about looks. Its fuckin stupid to be honest and downright childish.
Did anyone notice how both girls are wearing similar "maid" dresses? They are just in different colors.
But ya its like who gives a fuck. Anyone who critizes you ain't even worth your time.
There is such as thing as much needed criticism. But concerning looks, a lot of its superficial.
Why? Are you interested in your guy friends? Do they, for some reason, not have the ability to think your friend is attractive?
If you have no interest in them, what do you care that they find your friend attractive?
Amen to that. For real this insecurities crap gets old.
"she has a boyfriend (obviously)"
Why would that be obvious? A lot of guys don't even approach attractive women because they think they're taken yet we have attractive women who say they never get approached and are single. I don't think this comment actually helps anyone and actually strengthens the male population's tendency to stay away from attractive women.
You don't have makeup on and she does. It's not a fair comparison. I saw your profile pic of you with makeup on and I'd say you're both equally attractive. Are there hotter girls than you two? Of course, just like their is always a hotter guy than me. Focus on being you and don't worry about the attractiveness of others. :) Remember a hot girl that's a bitch isn't going to do it for most guys. Yeah they'll date her for a while, but in the end the guy will get tired of her.
This is what being actual friends looks like. If you can't talk about who you think is hot it's just a pseudo-friendship where one person is sucking up to the other hoping to date.
I don't think you're a "DUFF" at all. Actually, I think your face is attractive, and from what I can see, you look curvy, which is what I PREFER over all other body shapes.
I don't know why guys feel the need to tell guys this.