Don't Keep Initiating contact with Him. Okay? (Page 2)
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Women respond to challenge because their not used to it. Despite this so called "gender equality" (which I really believe is a PC facade) there is an innate/hormone/dna level men are expected to take the lead and women can pick and choose a man she see's as the "alpha". An alpha doesn't behave like a lap dog. I know because I used to be one of those "beta" needy/available guys. Learned to toughen up as I got older. With that said a guy who texts too often, texts too much or responds to quickly does not come off as a catch for women. He will be judged much more harshly than a woman for engaging in this same behavior. Hard to get can be attractive both ways... but I really believe WOMEN want a hard to get guy much more than vice versa.
This is very much true and I agree
This is dumb. What if he read the same thing but for guys. Neither of you text because you are both stubborn and think it is some kind of game. If someone doesn't want to talk to you they won't respond. Grow up, this is high school stuff.
no. not everyone was raisad pathetically. if I don't want to talk to you that doesn't mean I won't reply. there's such a trait called politeness.
This is a great way to stay single... If a girl hardly ever initiates I'm assuming she doesn't give much of a shit about me and I have more self respect then to stay with someone that doesn't care that much about me.
its a great way to stay single 4 u
@girlinthemirror Yep which is why I don't do this. If I want to talk to someone I won't idiotically expect them to contact me first. Of course that doesn't guarantee they'll make the same smart decision so it might still end up failing because they choose to always make me be a chaser which I won't stand for. But it's better then it failing for sure by expecting them to chase me. I treat girls like human beings not like dogs.
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*Sighs*... @Mesonfielde
I don't understand why it can't be 50-50. And playing those mind-games is very immature. Maybe it works when both people are not in a relationship together yet and just testing out the waters. I don't know; if you are interested in someone, I don't see how playing mind-games shows the other person knows you're interest. It goes both ways.
da fuk?
I'd drop her in a blink of an eye if I'd find out that she's been playing games.
Why?
I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one.
That is such a stupid thing to believe. Regardless of it is men or women. Esp coming from someone who posts as anonymous.
So you stand your ground, he stands his, both of you lose out on a possible future together. If you care about someone you text or better yet, CALL the person. It can't always be one person initiating it.
No, with such attitude you never gona have a serious relationship, he will dump you when he has the chance.
I would say don't play games. 'Cause if you do that, then you run the risk of him thinking that you're not that into him and he'll move on. Initiate if you want to, but like what Mesonfielde said, if you're the only one initiating, he's probably not interested.
Lol I hate posts like this. Why I don't "date". Nothing but mind games. Lol @ "No i want to feel validated so he should text me first". If I'm in a relationship I must really like the girl. If I like the girl I'm keeping it fcking real and talking to her all the time. Anytime a girl tries to pull a stunt like this it's game over in my book.
exactly its almost like men are unqualified to date certain women solely because they don't know how to play their mind games
@bloodmountain1990 You play the game in the beginning to spark that attraction. Once I'm in a relationship though the games are long gone.
"Ladies, don't text your crush. Start seeing other people. Marry someone else. Start a family. Keep him guessing"
"Start a family, keep him guessing"... hahaha awesome.
Ok. I like how a lot of guys responded to this. That they are not into games and this is considered playing games. But why is it that you guys do this. One min its a nice convo and then you guys go mia for days? This is the same. And thier are girls that text and guys don't respond until 3to4 days
Some people are anti and like to close in on themselves. I understand that because I do it to. The problem is that people rely on texting too much when I go MIA no matter what I'll answer the phone but as for a text no way texting takes too much effort. If you really wanna talk to somebody call them or Facetime them. :)
These are the kind of dumb games that would have guys looking for the door. Terrible advice.
I've ended relationships over this exact bullshit. Terrible advice!!!
hopefully more than the two girls who gave you an up and down vote are reading your comment.
if she never initiates then after a while I will just assume she is not interested.
I do not think a girl should be blowing up a guy's phone with a lot of text messages but it's ok to text a guy back if he text you. No guy likes to be bombarded with a lot of texts at once but to not respond to get him to chase is childish in my opinion
i can't be bothered with women like this. nothing but game playing. I have no time for shit like this anymore.
then don't play the game either.
I think both sides should make equal effort, but if someone isn't interested you can tell more from their responses rather than whether or not they text first.
also true :)
and then guys read the same thing, and a bunch of kids end up lonely singles masturbating to porn or 50 shades of grey...
What if he's thinking the same thing? If two people like each other they should both put it in effort..
exactly:)
No you are saying to never text or call first...