6 Real Reasons He Isn't Texting the Girl Back

[pavlove]

She's in the aggressor role

Somehow, things got to a state where she's the one chasing him and he likes it. It could have been a fluke of her just happening to be the first one to text but as soon as she does something goes off in his mind that now that she clearly likes him he can enjoy just playing it cool. It isn't intentional payback, but it may as well be.

He has intimacy issues

He's scared when he finds out she actually likes him back. He's super macho, cocky, funny, always coming up with the best thing to say to make her melt, but when it becomes real and he actually becomes her favorite person to talk to some guys can cave under the pressure of potentially letting the girl down and seeing someone too much of him than he feels comfortable (intimacy issues are often related to insecurity.)

He's no longer attracted to you even physically

Emotional fights can actually make a hot girl physically repulsive to a man (I call it the Jackie Effect) if done the right way it can lead to great hate sex but more often it just makes us not really want to have sex with you despite you being an attractive willing girl. Having lost the motivation for even our favorite thing it's like a house of cards...

He actually plays the mysterious game

A lot of men realize it's power since it's worked on them countless times, but very few of us I think actually go through the trouble of playing it a bit stand off ish and mysterious compared to the number of guys who either are ok with being brutishly plain about their interest or honeslty just don't care and that disinterest works for them. A special mysterious guy is just a shy guy who comes off like he's playing the game but he's actually just benefitting from the fact that his shyness prevents him from being needy.

You gave him what he wanted

This is not just sex but that's the most obvious one. it can be emotional comfort in a time of need. it can be a girlfriend so that he didn't feel like such a loser for getting dumped. the point is when he gets what he wants be it sex, comfort, or ego...if it's more about him than you then he probably won't text back.

He doesn't love you anymore

The one that started it all. Sometimes he honestly doesn't love you anymore. There's a number of reasons...some guys aren't cut out for long term relationships. Some couples don't have the chemistry to go the distance. The point for this take is that when he doesn't love you anymore the texting will be one of the first casualities in the relationship.

[FlutteringFeelings]

I always get my text back so i don't even have to worry. I make him workkkkkk.
But it all depends on the guys intentions and what he see's you as. I talked to many guys and received instant messages no matter if i was bein rude or annoying is because i allowed their interest to fly by first. I rarely ever like guys first or try to make the first moves because i seen that it didn't work out? But now when i'm approached and allow the guy to work for his place then thats when its a different story.

So long story short i don't with no texts back.. Never happened to me because i make the rules and expectations with my first impressions.

[JSmuve]

Pretty good list 👍
I'll just add one more.

7) she's not making a similar effort

The guy is texting her and realizes she flakes on his texts, takes forever to respond, gives brief answers, or only texts him she wants something from him. He realizes that she's not as interested in him so stops responding when she texts him after the attention-well has dried up.

[kandyK]

What if the guy does the same exact thing that youve just stated then what?

[JSmuve]

@kandyK well then that little relationship is doomed to fail

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend texts me back but not as fast any more.. the first week of us dating he would text back so fast and get upset if I texted back just a little late then call if I took hours.. now it's our second week of dating and he has been taking his time to text back... also we had sex, he was like my first. But he still texts me things saying he loves me etc. like u had texted me Good morning 😘💍I texted him back like two minutes later and he still hasn't replied 😐 also we would talk otp everyday until we fell asleep a haven't talked otp in like three days now😣 I'm so scared I'm going to lose him

[pavlove]

that sucks :(

[Opinion Owner]

Ik 😔 I'll see him tomorrow at school I'm guessing thing's will at least still be the same there

[pavlove]

let me know how that goes!

[Opinion Owner]

Okay I will. 😊 whenever he texts backs I'm not going to text back for a long time...

[Opinion Owner]

Everything is fine now! His phone died... he called me this morning but I didn't answer because I didn't know the number but he just called again and I answered😊 I feel so dumb now lol he explained everything and he thought he was the last one to text me everything is fine now ik something wasn't adding up lol

[godfatherfan]

WoW, what a bunch of horseshit.
there is zero reason not just not text or call someone. Man or woman, you have no excuse. If your not interested anymore, then let them know what. Anyone following any of the "logic" in this take has never been taught proper manners. Be a gentleman, communicate.
also, if you truly love someone, you can never not love them. If you can say the words "I don't love you anymore" then you never loved them (exception is physical abuse). you might love them differently, but you still will love them in some way.

[abundantlyrich]

Really

I would think it is because

1- he's loving porn more than investing any interest in building further rapport

2-he found a hotter girl to relate to and he doesn't care to message any longer.

3- he doesn't care

4- socially inept or just emotionally unavailable

[pavlove]

lol ! those are reasons too for sure

[Anonymous]

I've been in a relationship for a week and so far I'm the one who's been texting him first but only when I need to know something like if he's going to stay after school etc., and he replies as soon as he sees them. So we've basically texted 6 times and they weren't conversations but it's probably because both of ous aren't fond of texting; we prefer to talk face-to-face. Although since I don't see him for numerous of hours I do tend to get sad because even though I strongly dislike texting I wouldn't mind texting with him at all.

[DarkHumorRUs]

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[Azara]

her texting first doesn't explain why he wouldn't text back anymore than him texting first would explain her not texting back.. this has nothing to do with gender out has to die with disinterest. if a person feels like they can sit back and did nothing its bc thats how they feel not it--nothing.

anyhow texting is the plankton of interpersonal communication.

[Heyyakkk]

I just assume he got bored and is on to the next girl

[pavlove]

that's possible

[bdbee]

There should also be a number 7 - you played games. If a girl plays games it doesn't mean I don't find her attractive still but it means I am not considering a reasonable prospect because she's disrespecting me.

[Cerenityy]

Dating is a game, plain and simple. People LOVE to scream how real they are and how much they want to meet a genuine, loving, nice person, but when they do, they revert to juvenile mind games like the examples above. Guys and girls. who do these things are simply fraudulent and can't live by example, therefore won't ever be taken seriously by me.

[BaileyisDarcy]

The Jackie Effect hehe love it. I know a chick called that. Most emotionally exhausting person to be around. Not that I'm ever around her now. Ten years knowing her and I finally cut ties. Feels great.

I didn't read past that but what I did read was good.

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with this article.

I would stop texting a girl if:

-She is playing mind games
-She has implied or given me a red flag about her status when I want to date her ( Like won't tell me if she is single)
-I am busy/long day at work, I don't use my phone at work and after work I am tired, I shower might go to a friends house, then probably look at my phone when I come home

[Poppykate]

What is it with girls and the mind games? Maybe girls play a lot less mind games then you think!

[Opinion Owner]

@Poppykate

I am not sure. It feels like girls do this without even knowing they are? And if they are playing a game they will hit you hard.

Because If a boy starts getting interested, he will start overthinking your message.

[queenmariereigns]

The first reason you listed is the main reason why some women don't approach guys

[Azara]

woman are just as capable of to putting effort in as men are. this is a reason a lot of people don't apprise anyone. but its not a good reason bc you can't find decent people if you are not willing to wade through jerks. good things don't come easy. not usually for anyone. part of it is bc without experience we don't even know what good is, for us individually.

[queenmariereigns]

@Azara lol trust me I have met a lot of jerks
Enough to make a novel about

[Anonymous]

Or the girl just talks waaaaaay too much and he can't be bothered to message back to every single thing.

[pavlove]

haha I should write a less serious one that covers the usual but minor issues

[southerngirly10]

Yeah

[Poppykate]

I have done this. Probably because I don't talk much in real life.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

You forgot the biggest one: You never replied to his previous text.

[Heyyakkk]

That's childish though

[Words_and_Wisdom]

@Heyyakkk It's true though. You need to keep the conversation flowing. It isn't a one-man show.

[Eternallylucky]

My reason is he is not into texting esp when he has a lot of friends to associate with and a busy life style.

[Maverickj]

I'm sorry, but "you chased too much and now he's sitting back" is just BS for sexist people who think "hurr durr only men should approach".

[Anonymous]

I just think he either got busy or lost interest. I'll try a few times to communicate, but I'm not pushy (as I don't like pushy people). If by 2 weeks there's nothing, I detach and move on.

[THEALIster]

I move on after v they state interest but text me back 2 days later

[ArtDent]

He hate texting and finds it a poor communication tool that lends itself to miscommunication

[admles]

This is pretty much the main reason, to be honest.

[Nik1hil]

I would text that pair of tits (you shown in that pic) anytime, unless I am hanging from a cliff or a gun is aiming at me.

[Yanoa_Yanza]

To me it'd be if she isn't putting any effort in texting herself.
Like if it takes an eternity for her to reply, or it's just short answers like 'ok'
Then I'd be like, yeah nvm her