I am a woman, so I know the reasons behind our struggles within society and relationships. For years, we couldn't vote, work after getting married or having children, and in the constitution, we were considered chattel personales, or personal property, once we married, in much the same manner as a slave.
Now we have made some strides (and still have more strides to make since women are still consistently paid far less than men for the same jobs with the same seniority, and the nazi-mommies movement would have every woman become a brainless Stepford wife with no soul or personality. Of the both, other women trying to tie women down pisses me off.
1) Women should be able to choose if they want to marry and have kids or not. I mean, of all the important jobs one can take on, none is more important than that of a Mom, so why do we want to MAKE someone who doesn't want that, become that. Do we want even more unwanted children in the world? Isn't it better for a woman to make the choice willingly and lovingly than to have her bullied into it by society?
2) If a woman (like a single mother) has to work, give her some slack for not opting to having an abortion, and struggling to raise her kid! Another novel idea for femi-nazi mommies, is help out and stop finger pointing and bitching. In a perfect world, said woman wouldn't have had a kid at all--but the world isn't perfect, so if a woman chooses to give birth and has to go it alone, lend aid if you think she shouldn't work, not criticisms. What are her and her kids supposed to do--eat air while she sits and looks at her kid all day? Believe it or not, single mothers and mother's who work are not creating serial killers, in fact, most kids who committed schools shootings came from two parent homes that were dysfunctional not because the parents worked, but because they didn't care. I know of a single mother who raised a brilliant little girl who was a straight A student. What happened to her? She went to college and made a great life for herself. How did this happen? Simple. Her mother gave that girl all her love, quality attention and time--AND STILL WORKED. So the lacking ingredient in dysfunctional homes is the absence of love, not the absence of a parent, otherwise, kids who lose a parent to death are doomed to be thugs, right? Needless to say, this is a topic I am very passionate about...but I digress...)
Yes, we have further to come in female perceptions and roles and still have work to do, however, does this justify what we are currently doing to our beloved brethren?
For example, I am often privy to a woman talking about how incompetent her man is with the kids or around the house. Years later, this same disparaging woman wonders why her man has grown distant.
Question -- how would she feel if she was belittled by her husband all the time?
In the above scenario, could it be that the marriage suffered a rift because the man whom you once made feel like a hero, now feels like a zero?
Just as women need reassurance from time to time, so does a man.
Do men have their share of faults. Dear lord don't get me started. That said, we bring own blemishes to the table. Men are our fathers and grandfathers, our brothers and our husbands, deserving of respect and care for their emotional well-being.
If a good and loving man who WANTS to change a diaper, for the love of God, encourage him, otherwise you will be doing all the diaper changing and bitching to the girls that he doesnt help you enough with little Johnny.
If he is doing it wrong, lovingly instruct him, don't roll your eyes and act like he has two brain cells.
You know, I hate to say it, but I blame shows like SEX IN THE CITY and similar LIFETIME MOVIES in part, for the idea that women can treat men like they have no feelings whatsoever (which is why I hate those shows). It really irks me when I hear people say that a show like that has empowered women.
Yes, on one level it has. I do in fact, like the idea of highlighting strong, sexy intelligent women who can enjoy intercourse like any man. But, can't that same show indicate that we care about men and don't look at them as mere playthings, but as valued partners?
Tit for tat is not empowerment--it is revenge.
I am reminded of one show where Carrie cheated on a wonderful man (can't recall his name--Hayden I think) and went off with that adulterous idiot Mr Big.
She had something wonderful, pure and real and traded it to be with a man who couldn't be trusted not to cheat on a woman he made vows before God to be faithful to.
Then after cheating on this good man (which we know, like anything of value, is hard to find), and telling him that she had messed around, she had the temerity to act all offended that he didn't pat her on the back and say "That's okay baby, you didn't mean it."
Now, lets back up the truck a bit.
If any of the girls on SEX IN THE CITY had been cheated on, the female audience would have demanded the bastards head.
And so would the lovely ladies of SITC.
Get my point.
Female empowerment doesn't mean that we emasculate our men, try to brow beat them into acting like women, or treat them as if they have no emotions.
Men are men. They think and act like men, they love and give as men do.
And God bless them for it!
I have a great adoration and admiration for my good, kind and loving brothers for what they are and what they bring into relationships. When we find a good man, we should grab on with both hands and feet and treat him like the treasure he is, not try to act like he is somehow inferior because he has a penis!
In other words, we should give him the respect we ourselves desire.
Do men have things to atone for? Yes, but in our own ways, so do we.
Do we want to be loved ladies? Then give love. Uplift our men, don't crush their spirits--praise them for who and what they are.
For being gloriously strong, radiant and male!
Now we have made some strides (and still have more strides to make since women are still consistently paid far less than men for the same jobs with the same seniority, and the nazi-mommies movement would have every woman become a brainless Stepford wife with no soul or personality. Of the both, other women trying to tie women down pisses me off.
1) Women should be able to choose if they want to marry and have kids or not. I mean, of all the important jobs one can take on, none is more important than that of a Mom, so why do we want to MAKE someone who doesn't want that, become that. Do we want even more unwanted children in the world? Isn't it better for a woman to make the choice willingly and lovingly than to have her bullied into it by society?
2) If a woman (like a single mother) has to work, give her some slack for not opting to having an abortion, and struggling to raise her kid! Another novel idea for femi-nazi mommies, is help out and stop finger pointing and bitching. In a perfect world, said woman wouldn't have had a kid at all--but the world isn't perfect, so if a woman chooses to give birth and has to go it alone, lend aid if you think she shouldn't work, not criticisms. What are her and her kids supposed to do--eat air while she sits and looks at her kid all day? Believe it or not, single mothers and mother's who work are not creating serial killers, in fact, most kids who committed schools shootings came from two parent homes that were dysfunctional not because the parents worked, but because they didn't care. I know of a single mother who raised a brilliant little girl who was a straight A student. What happened to her? She went to college and made a great life for herself. How did this happen? Simple. Her mother gave that girl all her love, quality attention and time--AND STILL WORKED. So the lacking ingredient in dysfunctional homes is the absence of love, not the absence of a parent, otherwise, kids who lose a parent to death are doomed to be thugs, right? Needless to say, this is a topic I am very passionate about...but I digress...)
Yes, we have further to come in female perceptions and roles and still have work to do, however, does this justify what we are currently doing to our beloved brethren?
For example, I am often privy to a woman talking about how incompetent her man is with the kids or around the house. Years later, this same disparaging woman wonders why her man has grown distant.
Question -- how would she feel if she was belittled by her husband all the time?
In the above scenario, could it be that the marriage suffered a rift because the man whom you once made feel like a hero, now feels like a zero?
Just as women need reassurance from time to time, so does a man.
Do men have their share of faults. Dear lord don't get me started. That said, we bring own blemishes to the table. Men are our fathers and grandfathers, our brothers and our husbands, deserving of respect and care for their emotional well-being.
If a good and loving man who WANTS to change a diaper, for the love of God, encourage him, otherwise you will be doing all the diaper changing and bitching to the girls that he doesnt help you enough with little Johnny.
If he is doing it wrong, lovingly instruct him, don't roll your eyes and act like he has two brain cells.
You know, I hate to say it, but I blame shows like SEX IN THE CITY and similar LIFETIME MOVIES in part, for the idea that women can treat men like they have no feelings whatsoever (which is why I hate those shows). It really irks me when I hear people say that a show like that has empowered women.
Yes, on one level it has. I do in fact, like the idea of highlighting strong, sexy intelligent women who can enjoy intercourse like any man. But, can't that same show indicate that we care about men and don't look at them as mere playthings, but as valued partners?
Tit for tat is not empowerment--it is revenge.
I am reminded of one show where Carrie cheated on a wonderful man (can't recall his name--Hayden I think) and went off with that adulterous idiot Mr Big.
She had something wonderful, pure and real and traded it to be with a man who couldn't be trusted not to cheat on a woman he made vows before God to be faithful to.
Then after cheating on this good man (which we know, like anything of value, is hard to find), and telling him that she had messed around, she had the temerity to act all offended that he didn't pat her on the back and say "That's okay baby, you didn't mean it."
Now, lets back up the truck a bit.
If any of the girls on SEX IN THE CITY had been cheated on, the female audience would have demanded the bastards head.
And so would the lovely ladies of SITC.
Get my point.
Female empowerment doesn't mean that we emasculate our men, try to brow beat them into acting like women, or treat them as if they have no emotions.
Men are men. They think and act like men, they love and give as men do.
And God bless them for it!
I have a great adoration and admiration for my good, kind and loving brothers for what they are and what they bring into relationships. When we find a good man, we should grab on with both hands and feet and treat him like the treasure he is, not try to act like he is somehow inferior because he has a penis!
In other words, we should give him the respect we ourselves desire.
Do men have things to atone for? Yes, but in our own ways, so do we.
Do we want to be loved ladies? Then give love. Uplift our men, don't crush their spirits--praise them for who and what they are.
For being gloriously strong, radiant and male!
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