"If he truly loves you, he will chase you" applies differently to shy guys.

[Anonymous]

The age-old saying of, "if he really loves you, he will talk to you no matter what it takes" is dried up and quite frankly, not true in all situations. Some guys can fall for a girl but get nervous around them when they see each other in person. They may be fine with texting you or chatting online, but when it comes to face-to-face communicating, some guys just flee.

Some guys are better suited for pursuing girls through things like random acts of kindness, compliments, and other actions that people call being awkward. People need to understand those shy guys aren't the ones that will make it clear that they're pursuing a relationship with you because they're too afraid to talk to you in person.

Take it from my personal perspective, I believe that communication plays a huge role in a guy coming to like a girl. Sometimes guys may feel like they are in love with a girl that they hardly talk to, but it could possibly just be a strong infatuation with her. Up until about a year or two ago, I had a very hard time bringing myself to talk to a girl I liked, and it wasn't until recently that I realized it was a strong mental barrier that I couldn't break.

"Fear reaction starts in the brain and spreads through the body to make adjustments for the best defense, or flight reaction. The fear response starts in a region of the brain called the amygdala. This almond-shaped set of nuclei in the temporal lobe of the brain is dedicated to detecting the emotional salience of the stimuli – how much something stands out to us. [...] The brain becomes hyperalert, pupils dilate, the bronchi dilate and breathing accelerates. Heart rate and blood pressure rise. Blood flow and stream of glucose to the skeletal muscles increase." et cetera et cetera...

Here's what I'm saying. Not all guys are born with the mental capability to not experience fear in situations where they want to express themselves to a girl but are afraid they could jeopardize what current relationship they may have.

I could go on, but I would rather leave the discussion open to the broader community that sees this MyTake. Not all men can be expected to approach you with ease, and that's just something people need to learn.

To put it simply, some guys are shy. It's not easy to break being shy.

Sources:

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/what-happens-brain-feel-fear-180966992/

[readywriter]

It really is this simple. Not all guys, espically shy guys, have a really hard time exposing themselves to rejection of\r a feeling of incompetence that will give girls the wrong idea. It's not that they are bad guys its just that they need help with the first, Had a friend who was a bear on the football field and a lamb when it came to girls.
I don't think this has anything to do with a mental capacity. They simply need to be told something that someone is interested. From or someone else. I agree that some men can not get past the fear.

[myTake Owner]

I agree with you, just had trouble putting my thoughts into words y'know.

[Elaine_17]

I feel like I can agree with what you're saying as a shy person. When I really like someone, I get very scared, and suddenly, my legs won't move forward. I start sweating a lot the more I try to break that barrier, and when I actually get to talk to him, I stutter a little, or I'm extremely quiet.

[myTake Owner]

That's how it used to be for me. I don't know why it's hard for some people to understand that about shy people.

[Elaine_17]

People think that you can just get over shyness like it's simple as that. People don't even consider that maybe being shy is just a part of who I am, and that I'm not ready to get over my shyness because it takes time.

[Vyxzuw]

Yes, and no.
If you have never talked to the guy, then a shy guy won't "chase".

However, if a shy guy is in a relationship and makes no effort to drive the relationship forward, then there is a problem.

Also, while a shy guy might not chase, that doesn't mean that they are completely passive. A shy guy that is interested will look for opportunities to create opportunities.

For instance, let's say that you have volunteered to help out with a school festival. Surprise, surprise, the guy has also signed up, because he thinks that maybe you can get to know each other by working together.

If they guy isn't even looking for opportunities, then he's not interested. Not really. Of course, I did say looking for opportunities for opportunities, not looking for opportunities to talk to you.

Shyness can be caused by fear, but sometimes it's also about social inhibitedness. They may think that you don't want to be approached by a stranger (at least not them) so they leave you alone.
Just approaching them and talking can allow them to feel it's alright to ask you out. (Note that this doesn't apply to all shy guys.)
Look to see if they are shy around everyone, or just you.

I'd also like to mention another saying:
If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you then you know it's real.

So, if they follow that adage, then they won't chase you, since they don't want to impose themselves on you.

[VIVANT]

I really think if two people are interested they both need to make an effort and it should never be left to one person. Exisctjbg snyind to do sonethjng bc of their traits is automatically going to be super confusing bc everyone has different struggles. You just get to knkw each other well enough to understand when you need to be patient vs when the person is ducking with you.

What I hate about people playing games is it makes it really hard to knkw when to give a person a chance bc being shy being busy and playing hard to get look identical.

Another problem is if one person does the heavy lifting in the beginning they tend to drop off severely once the rejstionship commences- feeling their work is done.

Beat to just make the effort you can maje and recognize things hslleming is your responsibility not his/ gets. If everyone feels that way things should go somewhere sometime at some point. If not you just soon I’m circles.

[Anonymous]

Shy guys aren't attractive, anyway, so no one cares.

[Opinion Owner]

@Riggers Don care. Truth hurts. Shy guys are not attractive. Get over it.

[Riggers]

And as i said to you, don't care, truth hurts, bitchy cunts aren't attractive, get over it.

[Opinion Owner]

@Riggers I’m not hurt lol. You’re the one throwing Out names like a triggered snowflake 😂

[Riggers]

Tbh, Im actually quite chill, This little thing happening right now means very little to me in the grand scheme of things, haha. I just think people like you are real shitty. I understand why you think shy guys aren't attractive, and honestly i dont really blame you for it, I think most women are probably like you. I just think its a very shitty part of human nature. And its even more shitty to just fuckin blurt it out as if it wasn't already obviously apparent. Its like rubbing salt into a wound.

[myTake Owner]

I will have to disagree with that generalization, but I've grown to respect all opinions... Sooo I disagree but I'm not going to argue about it.

[Juxtapose]

Oh hey, you're that Alie-whoever girl.

[OatsnWhey]

Lmao

[MM442]

When women shut you down every single time, and just walk away and walk on by with an angry face at a brisk pace there is no way to approach a woman like that. Women make it known don't come near me or I will rip you into pieces attitude. I'm not going to chase women like that. women are always with a guy when I'm alone, not going to chase women like that. I'm not going to chase pregnant women with someone else's child. The only time women come around me is when I'm with someone else and can't talk to them. women do that on purpose because they know I can't pursue them and they can go on with their lives with their boyfriends, husbands or go to other men and not me. Women don't make them-self's available when I'm alone. You women and your attitudes and actions are the reason us men won't chase you.

[SpongebobBeTHICC]

I love that shy people are finally being acknowledged. I like being independent, and playing hard to get just makes me lose interest in the girl. Whether the reason you're ignoring me is because you hate me or because you're trying to get me to like you more, it's so immature.

[Guanfei]

If I truly love you and you run away from me, I'll take it as a sign you don't want me, and leave.

[myTake Owner]

That's fair to assume. I don't blame people that look at it that way because shy people are hard to read.

[Juxtapose]

Same could be said of women. Why aren't *you* chasing me bitch?

Ohhhh I see.. it's a double standard.

Go fuck yourself, reader who agrees with the double standard.

[Aynsof]

Very nice one I agree
I get a little offended when I hear people say something like that if generally wants you he will chase you
It is ridiculous to assume that

[JustWorthlessMe]

LMAO That statement only applies to attractive guys (another lie women love to use) If you're not attractive enough doing that will get you a stalking charge.

[genericname85]

Nobody is worth being chased. If they reject you, move on. Fuck them.

[Browneye57]

Weak guys are never gonna take command, and go for it. They can just sit on the sidelines.

[sp33d]

Chase her? As in, they are not even committed, yet? Who the hell said anything about love?

[Pauliho]

Shy guys are perceived as weak though it's just a fact of life

[HereIbe]

How about "If he loves you, he'll presume you're an adult and not put up with bullshit."

[kat24508]

I like a shy guy but he gives me mixed signals and since I don't know I always end up getting really shy and so does he but he just stares at me.

[PrettyGirlChic]

Seeing that I'm more of an introvert I couldn't agree more with what it's says. If you really like someone you'd go out of your way for them.

[TheUglyMan]

Women know this they just wanna find a less painful way to ignore all shy dudes to go for Chad.

[Anonymous]

stop being shy look at them like toys
smaller weaker
bendable and use able
they only want to serve two purposes

babies and being whores

[VIVANT]

Many women are bigger than many men.

[Opinion Owner]

@VIVANT

and guess what we can still beat them cause we have so much more muscle mass then you women

plus you are talking to the top 3%of tallest men in america so good luck

[VIVANT]

this is so ignorant. There is no us and them. Thre are billions of people with billions of variations. Anyhow I don't know what muscle mass you are long at... everyone is tied to computers. few men are walking around with muscle mass other than their thumb for tweeting

[Opinion Owner]

@VIVANT

those are called idiots that don't go to the gym

[Anonymous]

Usually it just takes more time and consideration. At some point most will try.

[purple1]

lol... a coward you mean!