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How to tell if a guy likes you: 6 signs he likes you for you

All sorts of "Does he like you?" guides exist out there, but non compare to this one. As a 28 year old attractive woman, I've compiled a list of the most tell-tale signs that I've come across in my experience that are 99% unmistakable. It's an exhaustive list that will help you decide first of all if he's into you, and whether or not he's looking for a genuine girlfriend or a one-and-done type of deal. As a disclaimer (and I have to write this because someone is going to say, "Well that's not what Joe Blow did, and he asked me out."), these are general rules. Certainly, there will be circumstances where some of these rules won't apply, but in most cases they do.

Does he like you? Read on to find out!
Does he like you? Read on to find out!

1. You catch him staring at you.

At first, it may be from a distance. Some guys are incredibly shy and have trouble approaching a girl. If you catch him staring from a distance multiple times, you can be certain he finds you very attractive. Don’t be shy about approaching him yourself. Once you two are on speaking terms, if you catch him staring at you during conversation or when someone else is talking, this is also a good sign. When you fancy someone, you often just can’t get enough of staring into their eyes, and most guys aren’t immune to this primordial behavior when they see a girl they fancy. It is said that when you are aroused by someone, your pupils will dilate more than normal when you’re looking at that person’s face. See if you can confirm this phenomenon!

2. He laughs at all your jokes and shows obvious interest in what you have to say.

This is typically most apparent in a group setting. If the both of you are part of a group conversation and you catch him staring at you often, laughing at your jokes every time, and listening and asking you questions whenever you contribute to the conversation, it’s a sure sign he’s into you. It’s worth mentioning that, in this group setting, he may also try to position himself in closer proximity to you, and you should not ignore this positive sign either.

Standing close and maintaining eye contact are two very good signs he likes you!
Standing close and maintaining eye contact are two very good signs he likes you!

3. He makes an effort to get to know you.

Another sure sign a guy likes you is if he makes a concerted effort to ask questions about your life in an attempt to get to know you. He may ask where you’re from and where you see yourself in the future. He’ll want to know about your family or what you like to do when not at work or school, for example. A guy just looking for sex will only scratch the surface on this, if at all. He’ll put in the bare minimum and may just ask what you’re doing later in an attempt to make plans to get you in the bedroom, which is related to the next point….

3. He has no issue with adding you on social media.

I know it’s 2019 and many of us now have mixed feelings regarding social media, but one thing’s for sure: A guy who is actually into you for you, will generally have no problem sharing his online persona with you. A guy who is just looking for sex will be much less likely to do so. If you do a little research online and see that he has active accounts and you add him but he doesn’t add you back, consider it a red flag. This is because he’s a ‘f*** boy,’ meaning he likely has multiple women friends who monitor his social media or he actually is already in a seemingly monogamous relationship and doesn’t want to risk you showing up there for those other women to see. Basically, it’s safe to assume that he’s not interested in sharing his personal life with you and keeping you off his social media is an attempt to separate you from it. Red flag alert!

4. He calls you.

This is a really good sign. He’s trying to show you that he’s not like all those other guys out there in that he’s confident enough in himself to talk to you on the phone versus just sticking to texting. He’s trying to impress you and is making the extra effort.

If he calls you, he definitely wants to get to know you.
If he calls you, he definitely wants to get to know you.

5. He attempts to make real plans with you.

Obvious sign, I know. But it’s a good one. A guy just looking to hook up will often only ask to hang out in the evening, and with short notice. A guy who’s actually into you for you will want to take a day trip with you and take you on legitimate dates, like for example, to the zoo or to the arcade. He'll want to share his interests with you, such as musical preferences or sports.

6. He tells you.

Last but certainly not least, the best and easiest way to tell if a guy likes you is if he just straight-up tells you so. If he really does want to be with you, he will have no problem at all verbalizing that. He’s likely to say things such as, “I really like you,” or “you’re an interesting woman and I could see myself with you in the future.” Yes, guys really will say things that are that simple and honest. In my experience, every time I’ve been involved with a guy, every one of them, without fail, verbalized their affection for me openly and honestly like this.

The most surefire way to know? He just tells you how he feels!
The most surefire way to know? He just tells you how he feels!
How to tell if a guy likes you: 6 signs he likes you for you
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