Hello guys, this will be my first myTake! It's my first time to write about something so I hope you like what I'll be discussing!
So firstly, I am a highly sensitive male and I only have a few friends, most of them are guys. I'm also close with my brothers and my uncles as they taught me the real meaning of masculinity. Fortunately, my loved ones have unconditional support for me being an HSP even though I'm the only one in our group of friends who hasn't dated. I never had a girlfriend but never did I felt alone because I know that happiness comes from within.
Anyway without further ado, I'll be sharing the things my brothers taught me about real masculinity.
1.) He respects himself
His body, his family and his properties are treated with respect. He has complete virtue towards everyone around him and acts like a decent individual towards people he meet. At the same time, he will not let anyone step on him no matter who that person is whether men or women, he will not tolerate being stepped on.
2.) He is generous
From being generous for himself, he's also generous to other people. He helps the ones in need and gives a hand to helpless people. A real man is also chivalrous to his girlfriend/wife (occasionally) and doesn't need anything in return, not that he'll turn down the help given to him, but it just means that he doesn't rely on help from others and if he receives it, that will be a lucky bonus for him.
3.) He lifts other people up
Unlike those men who put people down in order to feel better about themselves, he instead lifts others up in order to feel good about himself. He wants everybody to feel good about themselves and spread this attitude towards others. A real man is willing to share his success to the ones who supports him and inspires others to do the same as well!
4.) He knows his worth
A real man will NOT chase after a person who doesn't want to be with him. Just like pursuing a relationship with a woman, he doesn't tolerate mind games like: making him jealous or being talked down upon. He has a high value and will leave that person behind if he knows that the woman is just pushing him away (whether serious or just being hard to get).
5.) He's able to stop fights rather than creating it
Just like the bouncer in clubs, he won't let others create chaos in public places. He has full discipline and expect others to act accordingly. Shall there be a rumble, he won't hesitate to stop the parties getting physical (although I admit I still have yet to get fit in order to be able to do this because I'm just overweight).
6.) He challenges himself
Challenges that involves improvement of skills, knowledge, abilities and attitude. He pushes himself to his limits and at the same time, he accepts his flaws or any other shortcoming he has that other people may dislike as there will always be people who will either like or dislike you, nonetheless life goes forward which leads to...
7.) He knows he's not perfect
Nobody is perfect and although that doesn't mean we should own up to our mistakes, we should stop pleasing others in order to satisfy them everytime as this may lead to you losing yourself. He needs not to change for a person because he knows that if they truly are his supporter or lover, they will accept him for who he is.
8.) He appreciates the good things in life
He doesn't ask for more and values the things he have. He also is grateful towards the people who love him, especially to his family, relatives, girlfriend/wife and children (assuming he's a dad). If he has the ones making him feel great, then he gives back as well, that's the part of showing gratitude, you're not only thankful but you're also investing the same efforts to the ones who do for you.
9.) He gets things done
When he says he will do something, he grants his words and move. If he has goals in life, he never stops to achieve it, he will do everything he can to get it. He never lets himself get sidetracked by any obstacles in life and he manages to get past the obstacle and strive to attain the goal he desires. Quitting isn't a part of his vocabulary, and he's serious on how to achieve his dreams. He pursues the things he want in life and completes the objective but also knows not to force things.
All these traits may or may not fit to your idea of being a real man but hey, end of the day valuing your emotions and loving yourself as a man is part of being a positive influence to stop this toxic masculinity from spreading. Though being strong is also one thing a real man must do in tough times, as a matter of fact strike the perfect balance!
Thanks for reading, once again I hope you like this!