Discussing mistakes is not the same as holding something against a person. We all make mistakes and we should learn from them. But also if you don't learn and keep making the same mistakes, you don't respect the relationship and the other person. And the other person should have enough self-respect to leave if no effort is being made. It goes both ways.
Relationships require effort, open communication and growth to be healthy
Men learn from mistakes and move on.. Women will hold a grudge, hold it against him for years, decades even if he makes a mistake. that is literally the difference..
Wha does that have to do with making mistakes? We all make mistakes, both men and women. As long as it's nothing too serious, but an honest an unintentional mistake, it doesn't mean you don't respect the other person.
Respect in relation to that is shown by admitting to your own mistake, apologizing, explaining why it happened (to show you understand it enough not to repeat it), and then learning from it and not repeatinf the sam mistake.
So I'm not talking about serious stuff like cheating, being rude, insulting, etc. Sometimes it can be just coming off as giving mixed signals because you're confused about what the other person wants, but you haven't discussed it directly. Or saying something that would be in the same category. Or maybe not accepting help with anything if you haven't learned that is one of the ways men feel desired, and you're used to doing everything alone or even had men (in a relationship) who got annoyed if you asked for help. And saying you don't meed anybody's help would probably hurt the man too (I haven't said it personally, but I know women who did). It can be a gazillion such little things that can be changed and learned easily if both people are willing to talk and the woman is truly interested and wants to grow.
But the problem is that a lot of men don't want to say that something hurt them or call a woman out on her behaviour, and just like you aren't mind readers, we aren't mind readers either. We can think that something we did hurt them, but if we're used to being in an environment (family, friends) where people are direct, then somebody not saying their issue directly makes us think they didn't actually care about what we think we did wrong, and it makes us feel lole we're just overthinking.
You have to communicate openly to allow space for respect to grow
It does work that way Love isn't important for men, respect is... The biggest mistake women make is not giving enough respect that u have to treat him like ur boss Women try to treat men as equals than men wouldn't find them attractive so they will go out of their way to make sure they get rid of you.. A lot of women try to instigate, irritate men in general that's the biggest reason men are not committed to them
No, That's a woman's definition of respect.. Basically you have to treat him like you treat ur boss That's respect... If you wanna say something you have presented it respectfully like in the Bible.. Tone , words matter a lot If you argue then guys wouldn't want to be with you that's how we men are designed.. we prefer peace over headache in general
Go ask relationship experts , dating coach, psychologist and matrimonial consultant I have already asked it And I'm free to give a legit honest opinion If you want bs sugar coated opinion or you're gonna expect me to talk in a way that suits ur criteria I'm not that guy Take accountability, do you're research and don't Gaslight here πππ respectfully
Not all "experts" are experts, and the ones you've been listening to are the ones that need quotation marks. Respect is absolutely important for both/in both directions, but treating or seeing your man as your boss is extremely unhealthy and doesn't come out of respect, bur fear/issues
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A partner in a relationship isnβt there for us or them, to toss crap at and hold it against them. Either people accept one another or not
Discussing mistakes is not the same as holding something against a person. We all make mistakes and we should learn from them. But also if you don't learn and keep making the same mistakes, you don't respect the relationship and the other person. And the other person should have enough self-respect to leave if no effort is being made. It goes both ways.
Relationships require effort, open communication and growth to be healthy
Yes, men seem to make more mistakes
That was not at all what I was talking about. It's hard to say who makes more mistakes
This is total bullshit, women are deathly allergic to accountability and rarely even admit they made a mistake in the first place!
Women aren't. Girls are. Women take accountability, but apparently it still doesn't matter
No, they don't. When is the last time you tood a man you were wrong?
Last week
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Men learn from mistakes and move on.. Women will hold a grudge, hold it against him for years, decades even if he makes a mistake. that is literally the difference..
Women won't. Girls will
very true
Yes, I agree with you
When I was married, I made all the mistakes, she considered herself perfect.
Sorry you were married to a sh*tty woman :/
women = men... cross dressers
It is reversed in real world.
Respect is most important for men it's very simple
Wha does that have to do with making mistakes? We all make mistakes, both men and women. As long as it's nothing too serious, but an honest an unintentional mistake, it doesn't mean you don't respect the other person.
Respect in relation to that is shown by admitting to your own mistake, apologizing, explaining why it happened (to show you understand it enough not to repeat it), and then learning from it and not repeatinf the sam mistake.
So I'm not talking about serious stuff like cheating, being rude, insulting, etc. Sometimes it can be just coming off as giving mixed signals because you're confused about what the other person wants, but you haven't discussed it directly. Or saying something that would be in the same category. Or maybe not accepting help with anything if you haven't learned that is one of the ways men feel desired, and you're used to doing everything alone or even had men (in a relationship) who got annoyed if you asked for help. And saying you don't meed anybody's help would probably hurt the man too (I haven't said it personally, but I know women who did). It can be a gazillion such little things that can be changed and learned easily if both people are willing to talk and the woman is truly interested and wants to grow.
But the problem is that a lot of men don't want to say that something hurt them or call a woman out on her behaviour, and just like you aren't mind readers, we aren't mind readers either. We can think that something we did hurt them, but if we're used to being in an environment (family, friends) where people are direct, then somebody not saying their issue directly makes us think they didn't actually care about what we think we did wrong, and it makes us feel lole we're just overthinking.
You have to communicate openly to allow space for respect to grow
It does work that way
Love isn't important for men, respect is...
The biggest mistake women make is not giving enough respect that u have to treat him like ur boss
Women try to treat men as equals than men wouldn't find them attractive so they will go out of their way to make sure they get rid of you..
A lot of women try to instigate, irritate men in general that's the biggest reason men are not committed to them
No, That's a woman's definition of respect..
Basically you have to treat him like you treat ur boss
That's respect... If you wanna say something you have presented it respectfully like in the Bible..
Tone , words matter a lot
If you argue then guys wouldn't want to be with you that's how we men are designed.. we prefer peace over headache in general
Omg. You've got issues. That's not how healthy relationships work
Go ask relationship experts , dating coach, psychologist and matrimonial consultant
I have already asked it
And I'm free to give a legit honest opinion
If you want bs sugar coated opinion or you're gonna expect me to talk in a way that suits ur criteria I'm not that guy
Take accountability, do you're research and don't Gaslight here πππ respectfully
Please do your research that is how relationships should be you can search it too before commenting here
Not all "experts" are experts, and the ones you've been listening to are the ones that need quotation marks. Respect is absolutely important for both/in both directions, but treating or seeing your man as your boss is extremely unhealthy and doesn't come out of respect, bur fear/issues
Just go and ask
I have asked multiple experts why don't you search recently i have seen sadiapsychology and she said too
I'm giving general knowledge