What does it mean when a guy says, "you're too pretty for me"?

[SpiderLady]

On a few occasions I've been turned down for reasons such as "she's too pretty". What does that even mean? Is it just an attempt to "nicely" reject someone? Is is possible they could be just lying to make you feel better?

[FUZZII]

I said the exact same words to my ex, but in french lol, and we dated for over 5 years. She was very sexy and pretty, it's just when I realized the type of person she was. I didn't take enough time to get to know her well. A lot of guys would hit on her. She would do stuff she wouldn't want me to do. Very jealous. She went as far as sleeping with a family member of mine when she was a minor and he was over 25. Easy to get. Very selfish and not care who she would hurt through her actions. I told her I don't think I can do this anymore, you're too pretty for me. Reason for, it's hurting me too much. I'm here to love and trust, and not play the jealousy, competition or the "get back at you games". She was only looking out for her best interest/pleasure and trying to control me in the process. I don't believe it's always a lack of confidence. It can all play a role depending on your situations and the person you're dealing with. Also, right before we broke up, she called me a monster. I looked at her and saw the monster in her. Point is, guys shouldn't reject pretty girls. You can be friends at most and help each other to make better choices in life. It marks a deeper relationship I find. If you do find a pretty girl and she wants to go into a relationship, make sure you spend enough time with her first to see how she is not only with you, but within a crowd and when you're not around with her. I've learned a lot through this phase, and I thank God. Also for giving me the will to share this with you girls and guys.

[levantine99]

wow that was a colossal bitch. good job getting rid of her. pick more carefully next time. as you said, looks can be deceiving.

[Tiger2Smexy]

the guys who say that are self conscious they are afraid you will one day think im better then him or somthing along those lines and the guys feel that they need a girl who is at there level of looks

i personaly think the guys who do this to them selfs are missing out (i have seen it happen with one of my friends)

[SpiderLady]

I think they're missing out too. They're really just assuming things and even about the girl. Because really, they're underestimating the girl's commitment and it shows a lack of trust which is really not nice.

Btw, unrelated question; what's that over your picture?

[Tiger2Smexy]

well im a art student and i did this quick drawing and scanned it on to the computer as a sort of stylish watermark

[Scorpio1]

He has insecurity and inadequacy issues. Guys will confirm this - if they know you are very attractive, they feel like they are doomed to get dumped at some point, especially when they know what your options are. My ex was 11 years older than me and broke up with me because of jealousy issues. He wanted to get back together, we went to a party, tons of guys were hitting on me (many that were way younger than him) and the next day he dumped me again! It's just like that old song"If you want to be happy for the rest if your life, never make a pretty woman your wife";)

[SpiderLady]

Wow. Lol. Sorry, not laughing at the fact that he dumped you, I'm sorry to hear that.

Maybe that's why you see a lot of women who seem less than the average standard attractive (most women are truly beautiful to me tbh) getting married. *shrugs* What are these "pretty girls" going to do? :p

[SpiderLady]

Opps I meant to make this the mho. Real MHO. Oh well

[Scorpio1]

No problem hon. I was wondering about that MHO that you chose... whoa... lol

[Anonymous]

yeah its a good way to reject a girl. nad they can mean it some times. like saying "you are too hot and i'll have problems by men hitting on you a lot." etc

[brebre123]

your too is like your too much anything can't handle that but hey your pretty gone girl

[Bluemax]

Alas, it is often the male equivalent of "you're too nice."

Many times it is an attempt a rejecting someone in a flattering way. Sometimes they mean that they feel the woman might be too high maintenance. Other times they are insecure and feel the woman will either reject them or dump them quickly.

[giselle1969]

Thank you for being honest... I've received this response SO many times, and your answer explains it all... none of us want to believe it, but it is the truth

[Dionysos]

Means you're out of his league and he's going to feel a bit insecure being with you because he'll feel like you could have gotten a better looking guy.

Means the same thing as a guy thinking he's lucky to have you.

Plus side: He won't cheat.

Negative side: He might tend to wonder if you're tempted to.

[Elliot285]

I have never said it to a girl that she is too pretty but not going to lie that's what holds me back from wanting to know them, it's indeed of my previous experience with high maintenance and pretty.
From my point of view high maintenance is a very hard work but they will love you in public/ openly.
A pretty girl to a damaged guy like me, it rings all my insecure bells, such as other male keeps staring at your girlfriend knowing that she is pretty... but let's face it all men has thought to themselves... am I good enough to compete with other and most of the time is you can't.
to be fair doesn't help that most of the girl like picking rebels and disgrace of the male history over the proper genuine people out there.

[Jon_25]

It could mean that he doesn't feel like he will be able to keep you for very long. If you are much better looking than him then it's easy for him to think he's lucky you'd want him, but honestly how long is his luck going to last? If you're way out of his league he'll usually be aware of it, and will be scared that a guy closer to your level will take you away. It's not a wise investment for someone who can't hold on to it. That's what it can mean, anyways.

[Crazyced]

I've only recently realized that dating might not systematically be a walk in the park for truly beautiful women.

www.usmagazine.com/.../bar-refaeli-no-one-hits-on-me-2012235

[kambo_trick3y]

Sure champ, you wanna add the mob of men? Go for it.

[SpiderLady]

Kambo I assume you meant that for the moment below

[SpiderLady]

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[SpiderLady]

Never mind

[Daveduck]

Like what everyone else says... But dating hot/too pretty girls is a lot of work.
Watching them constantly be hit on...
Being total princesses because everything is handed to them on a platter...
Having people talk behind your back...

It is a lot of emotional effort, been there and done that.

[molan]

He might feel you are too pretty for him, like any other guy that will walk up to you will be way better looking and easily picked over him.

If he is not confidence enough and feels he is easily replaced by another guy more handsome than him, he might not invest in you because he thinks it's wasted or he will get hurt at some point.

In any case, it's all about him and how he feels not you.

[willroyle]

agree with most of the comments. they worry as soon as a better looking/more wealthy guy comes along he will get the "its not you it's me" talk and get his guts rippped out. happens a lot and hurts guys just as much :p

[SpiderLady]

I see girls doing this (even myself) so I guess I can't really be super annoyed at it. But, it's like if I choose you, I want you and only you and you can't just assume things about me as if you know the patterns of my thoughts and of my every move. :/

[kambo_trick3y]

Stupidest fucking cop-out line.

That's like saying, "Ohhh, WOOEE is MmmEEE! I find this huge bag of unclaimed, 10 million dollar bills, but it's too much for me!"

[SpiderLady]

Right. Sounds fishy doesn't it?

[Crazyced]

For your analogy to be somewhat accurate, you would need to add a whole bunch of men willing to beat the shit out of you for it.

Dating a truly stunning women is not 'all gain and no risk'.

[levantine99]

@Crazyced you got it right do. the risks are too many for some men.

[wowzer]

It probably means just that. He thinks there are hotter guys that would be interested and take you off him as soon as you were an item. Guys worry about these things, they know hot girls get chatted up all the time.

[SpiderLady]

What about if the guy himself is already super hot? Does he really not notice it? That he doesn't have much competition? It's like I should be the one worrying about competition, not him.

[wowzer]

It sounds like he doesn't realise or he's just not confident.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

The guys most likely turn you down cause some
guys don't like girls who consider their self "Hot"
i would never date a girl who says to me "I'll Date
You" but I'm really "Hot".

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

The guy says to you he won't date you cause your too
pretty for me most likely means he feels like there is
other guys who want you so what's the use of him
even trying to make a go of it with you

[LifeisFun]

This shows so much weakness and lack of self confidence. I would go down my knees and tell you 'Hey gorgeous and pretty one of course I want to go out with you'. I'm sure it would be really nice :))

[LifeisFun]

I mean go down on one knee like the heroes of the past :PPP

[DodgersGM]

They're either bullshitting you because they're not interested, or they're rife with insecurities and they're intimidated by you.

[Anonymous]

exactly what it sounds like. they think you're too pretty for them. they can't deal with the arrogance and the constant competition from guys that often come with a pretty girl.

[SpiderLady]

I guess that can sort of explain it. A guy I was serious about always seemed unnerved just about me standing next to another guy. He kept giving up on us saying he wasn't good enough for me and it annoyed the crap out of me.

[levantine99]

yeah some men's insecurities get the best of them. they self sabotage constantly. but this interpretation you gave is like the 20% only of when that phrase is spoken. most usually it truly means "you seem like a psycho or a slut so i have to get rid of you somehow" or "you seem high maintanance and spoilt" or "the wrapping paper ain't bad but its the only thing i see in you"... .

[levantine99]

or simply "i substitute you with a new one and have to find an excuse"... .

[UPENDRA123]

Clear answer-lack of confidence in the guy. He feels he will loose before he prepares for task.

[Anonymous]

He's trying to be nice. He doesn't want you. No guy ever says that. It's a nice way of rejecting you. He's not interested.

[SpiderLady]

Well I thought the same thing but we ended up together for about three years. What reason would cause him to waste three years of his life with with a girl who he isn't interested in. :/

[Opinion Owner]

He found someone better. He's letting you down easy.

[Forca]

It means they don't think they are attractive enough for you.

[Anonymous]

They don't won't drama and there's too much competition in the waiting.

[levantine99]

yeah statistically the prettiest girls are associated with the most issues. on average at least.

[samkoool]

he miens that you are me most beautiful woman in the world

[rthomas43]

It means they think you're out of their league.

[kangy]

they lack the confidence

[Anonymous]

They probably think that you're too good for them

[Cyhhgg]

That you're too pretty.

[Anonymous]

They think you're out of their league

[Danxie]

it's a line