What does it mean when a guys says to me, I’d let you take all of my kids, deep in you trust me on that and then said ur totally wifey material?

[Anonymous]

What does it mean when a guys says to me, I’d let you take all of my kids, deep in you trust me on that and then said you’re totally wifey material? We’ve been talking for a couple weeks now. And a week ago I brought up to him that we have the same initials and he said “no way, lmao, so your initials will never change if we got married fyi, lol! Then he asked me how much plane tickets were because he had told me he’d fly me out to him one weekend. And he also said about the initials being the same, “and what are the odds the same initials, such a win win.” Just curious if this is a huge indicator that this is possibly something special or different? It could be crap too. I realize that so just looking for some input.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that stuff he said about the kids is super weird and way too much too soon. Like calm down bro, you barely know each other! And the wifey thing is also moving real fast. I'd be weirded out if a girl I just started talking to said that to me.

As for the initials thing and saying he'd fly you out, that part doesn't seem too far fetched I guess. He's probably just trying to show you he's interested. But he needs to chill on the marriage and kid talk ASAP. Makes it seem like he's rushing things or too eager.

I'd just play it cool for now and don't get too caught up imagining it's "something special" yet. Keep chatting with him if you like him alright, but take it slow and don't fully trust some dude you met online two weeks ago, ya know? Dudes will say a lot of wild stuff to try and impress girls. He needs to prove he's actually reliable first before you believe all that future planning talk. Stay smart about it!

[Anonymous]

He wants to sleep with you and that he thinks you have a future with him

[Asker]

That’d be cool! I guess i shall see. I’ll update this and let people know after we meet.

[Radiate143]

The first part. The second part is what he wants her to think so he can get the first part. It's such a see through strategy but I guess women keep falling for it so guys keep using it.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

That man is a menace and at least 10 red flags rolled into one. You should leave him alone. Initials being in common is actually common. I'm not trying to be rude. If he does something like gives you his birth chart next block him. Like an Instagram dating coach once said any man that deep into astrology or esoteric like signs he's been within everything of a 50-mile radius move out of the way lol.

Talking about having children with specifically you in only a few weeks of talking is sinister and he doesn't care about himself nor you. Wanting to fly you out and not coming to you instead with making that statement is all really concerning. He sounds like a predator.

[Asker]

Well then, I’m the one that is the red flag cuz I was the one that brought up our initials being the same. 😂🤣🫣🤡🤡

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Lol well he's 9 to your 1. He sounds like a grenade. Men that see a woman and automatically jump to vocalizing their theory out loud of impregnating her like its something cool to say quite possibly has a really deep covert hatred of women. If he feels like you're a wifey type, he wants to hinder the chances of that ever happening for you one day being tied to him. It's totally up to you but it all points to disaster that you should move away from.

[Asker]

I’m moving slow. Like a snail or turtle or sloth pace. Because I see how quickly it was stated. I hear you girl! Preach!!! And I do actually appreciate the view that you have and everyone has here! This is the coolest freaking thing ever lol!! I had no idea this existed until last night! But it’s probably my new favorite app lololol! Imma mess I know this already lmfao 🤣

[wolfcat87]

Agreed, lots of red flags. This seems more like love bombing.

[7Phoenix7]

I think he laid it out pretty clear lol. He doesn't mind cumming inside you because he wants you to have his kids and he thinks you'd make a good wife.

[Asker]

Honestly, I think this is it. It’s hard for someone to manipulate someone when they live 500 miles away. That’s some dedication right there. I think there’s easier game closer. I just have to wait for the effort to be put in. And if there’s no effort then I know he wasn’t for real. Until then I am going with what you said girl.

[DannyUk2017]

It means he want to fuck your brains out and breed you, but about the Wify side? Hmmm... it could be just to "assure you" that he wants more, but usually we know where this leads to... Meet, in your panties, get off, get dressed, and everyone goes Home! 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Damn, everyone tho? 😆😅😂🤣 lol 😝 just teasing. I get what you’re saying tho!

[DannyUk2017]

😂😂😂

[Staximus]

Here's saying he will cum in your vagina and doesn't care if you get pregnant. Good luck with this douche bag

[Asker]

Ouch, but fair enough!

[Staximus]

Well that is exactly what's he's saying

[HaleyCatgirl]

I'm rubbing my hands together getting ready to give the answer it means they're going to touch your hand and you get pregnant naturally

[DannyUk2017]

😂😂😂😂😂👍

[HaleyCatgirl]

XD yus

[Asker]

Bro you made my morning 💀😅😂🤣😂😅😂😂😅 i mean… i kinda understood some of it but not all of it 🤷🏼‍♀️ I appreciate your humor and candor too! 🖤

[HaleyCatgirl]

XD I think it's fun to answer these with a bit of humor

[Asker]

Hell yes!!! That’s why I’m responding because isn’t more fun when the author comments back to what you say? Probably depends on what the author is saying but I figure, hey why not 🤷🏼‍♀️ May as well comment back!

[HaleyCatgirl]

XD you're right about that

[Harry_mm]

There's a bad side and a good side of this sentence
The bad one is that he could be using kids as a meaning for his semen 😅
The good one is that he could be really interested in you as a wife

[Asker]

So I’m pretty sure that’s what he meant too when he said the kids part. He was referencing his swimmers… and he’s brought up the marriage comment three times now… over a period of three weeks soooo it could be a good thing. He doesn’t pressure or push for nudes or sexting so to me that’s good and he will carry on a conversation with me to get to know each other with out all the sex talk. So I’m hopeful it’s more than just an attraction thing. That’s usually what it ends up being for me 99% of the time. Which was why I figured I’d ask on here to get some opinions. I’m trying to avoid the it’s only because they find me hot trap again and again and again. 🥲

[Harry_mm]

That makes me feel so sorry for you 🙏🏻, I wish you get what is better for you ❤️

[Akothee005]

I think his words can mean two different things one Being that maybe he may be interested in you and would want you to be his wife and the other is that he can only be interested in fucking you.

[MysteriousDarkness]

He basically is saying he wants to pay for you to come to him so he can at least try to impregnate you. On top of that he wants to at the least make you think he wants to marry you. He has said he wanted to marry you three times already. He is saying all this too soon and that is a red flag. Have you cideo chatted with him?

[LiamJHayden]

Sound like a load of B. S. so that you will let him have raw sex with you.

[Jmmmfi4]

HE WANTS TO CUM INSIDE YOU

[Asker]

I’m dying over the CAPS in your response. Spot fucking on dude 👌🏻👏🏼😅 #facts

[Radiate143]

Lovebomb.

[Asker]

I thought this as well! I was like what are the odds he’s a narcissist too… 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don't know ya just never know these days.

[Radiate143]

People throw around narc a lot. He's just like a lot of men. Trying to get what they want fast and preying in women's insecurities.

[Radiate143]

Just enjoy the ego boost but 99% he's full of 💩. What you do is start demanding actual comittments and asking for things that deeply comitted partners would ask for then he will disappear. You'll feel dumped but you aren't losing.

[Radiate143]

Oh and DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM.

[Asker]

Lol I’m almost 40… if I wanna sleep with him I will. But I did not plan on doing that anyways. Hard for that to happen when we live one state away from one another anyways… 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Radiate143]

Your perogative. No matter what age I am, I can't really be too interested in sleeping with a guy who I know is willing to bamboozle me to raw dog me but hey. That's just me.

[Asker]

That’s because you don’t know what I look like lol 😂 I get why 99% of men do it. It still isn’t a valid excuse for them to do it. And I don’t add to the problem of why men feel as though they can get away with such appalling behavior either. I am Just saying, I can put myself in their shoes and understand why it would be hard for them not to at least try with me. I am amazing. I have the right curves, I read people well, can compliment them, I am fun, easy going, and funny. I get it. But, I also don’t allow the ones that are doing, what you’re referring to, an inch to pull that crap with me. And it’s hard to tell, I guess so early on. Sometimes patients is an amazing thing to have on your side. But that’s just me. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I guess I’ll have to wait and see. And by the way it took me a very long time to have confidence like this. It didn’t happen over night. I’d say take a breath and do some meditating yourself. You seem more enraged than you should be. But I don’t know you, so I’m only responding to you based upon my knowledge and experience that I’ve gone through so far in this world. Don’t shoot the messenger, so to speak. I am only asking the questions. I am not the one doing the actions.

[Radiate143]

Me too. I am this type of female as well. The difference is that I don't find deception flattering even if it's because they pop a biner at "hello". Before even.

[Asker]

And you know 100% that it’s deception? Beyond a shadow of a doubt? God damn can you tell me the winning lottery numbers? Cuz I have some debt lol 😂

[Radiate143]

Ok. It could be true. But men don't say this in two weeks. If they mean it the do the things then later in they vocalize. That's how they operate. If they say before they do its usually nonsense. I would LOVE to be wrong because I've been played before and it really hurts.

[Asker]

I understand. I had a fiancé do me very dirty. I lost everything. EVORYTHANG! But I won’t lose my hope too. I just operate and move differently now.

[Radiate143]

💯 absolutely

[jimmy2]

He want to go to prison for no child support