Do guys REALLY care to defend their Girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Every time, i watched those romance movies, the guy always defends his girlfriend.. which is cute. And if my Boyfriend defended me, that would be an absolute turn on.
But, I just wanted to know if this happens in reality as well?
Do you guys really defend your girlfriend?, or does that only happen in movies?
If you have, can you tell the story? :)

(p. s I never had a boyfriend.. so idk)

Just curious..

[AngelsFalling]

My ex sat there and let his brother call me a whore and a slut and say I cheated on him. I punched his brother out - but my ex never did a thing. He never once stood up for me. Also this other time I really pissed a girl off and she was like twice my size and she attacked me, he sat down to watch! He was lucky I could hold my own, but then after another girl broke it up she grabbed my hair and tried to drag me around and he laughed! :/ It's not like he was a bad guy but he never defended me

Though I had another ex (we were on and off for over a year) while we were broken up once got in between me and another girl before she could come near me and told her to go fuck herself and leave me alone she dumped his cappuccino over his head - that made my day 'cause I was still really mad at him at the time. He was super sweet though.

I guess it really just depends on the guy and how they were raised - ex # 1 was raised to always fight your own battles ex # 2 was raised to take care of girls.

[Asker]

Hmmm wow.. ex 1 is a total jerk.. I hope i NEVER have a boyfriend like that.
I want my boyfriend to be like ex#2, "raised to take care of girls".
Thanks for sharing! :)

[AngelsFalling]

I know he seems like a jerk, but I know for a fact if another guy ever touched me he would have lost it on him and would have taken a bullet for me - he just thought that I should stand up for myself in the other situations. :P My other ex is still super sweet when it comes to girls as well - I'm pretty sure if we lived near each other we would still be together :P

[Asker]

Oh i see! Hmm maybe he's not that bad! Lol.
:)

[AngelsFalling]

Thanks for most helpful. (:

[EllieLexis513]

My boyfriend and I have never been in that situation but I know he'd say something. We were walking my dog late at night in the summer and some guy approached me to ask for directions. It was pitch black and I couldn't see his face, but my boyfriend got in front of me and put his hand on his pocket knife. The guy only wanted directions but I liked that he did that. If I get in an argument, he might pull me away but unless it's with a guy just being verbally abusive, he wouldn't jump in to save me. He might try to break it up, though.

[Destinybae]

Well im not a guy but i have a bf so let me tell u what he does 2 me. Well he will beat up any guy that gets 2 close 2 me. he's the jealous type. back 2 ur questionyeah when people r speaking about me he says positive thinga bout me

[Asker]

Awhh. You're extremely lucky!! :)

[Destinybae]

yeah i am he really loves me *smiles* hope u find a guy like that u will love and who will love u back like that. best luck

[Asker]

I need all the luck i can get!! Lol Thanks!! :)

[MarkyyG123]

For me it's something I wouldn't need to think about. If I saw something, even a hint of anger in a guy, or girl for that matter, toward my girlfriend, I would intervene. Whether she liked it or not. That being said, sometimes it can also just be two friends joking around, so I've had to guage the situation a number of times and have got it wrong a couple haha
I've been told girls admire that trait and it's hard to come by, but I think it should be a instantaneous reaction for a guy to defend his girlfriend, no matter what!! :)

[Asker]

Hmm, that's true!
And yes, us girls do LOVE that trait! Especially me, aha.
Thanks for sharing! :)

[Hal2002]

That is a good way to end up dead.

Not thinking first, is a dangerous thing for a male. It is one thing when you know a female, but to just defend a girl when you do not really know her is just stupid and they way your age group dates. You do not take the time to get a real name, before hooking up.

[MarkyyG123]

@Asker. haha good to know, means I'm doing something right haha. No worries, I hope that means there's hope :)

@Hal2002:
Absolutely agree mate, you can't go in there guns blazing asking for a fight, but you have to be prepared for one. Follow your moral and principals and you can't go wrong. It's as simple, and complicated as that.

[SexyNuns]

Depends, if she gets herself into shit I will watch and laugh. I hate those girls who do stupid stuff because they think their boyfriend will protect them from getting some back. If she was getting jumped or bullied or something, then ofcourse I would. I'd do the same for anyone though

[Asker]

True. And that's good!
Thanks for sharing! :)

[yosamitea]

I just found myself in a botched attempt to defend the woman i was dating from a ex-boyfriend. Here's the story.

So i knew her on and off for about 12 years. When the pandemic hit she went back on Facebook and we connected. For about a month we hammocked, hiked, snowboarded, and spent time away from people. She had a stalker ex-boyfriend who was emotionally abusive and controlling. She showed me a text from him and told me he threatened to strangle her if she cheated on him. The text said. "I drove by your house and your car was gone i know your with the guy you were cheating on me with the whole time."
Well she was with me. She had kicked him out of the house three months before since he started drinking. They were both alcoholics. She was 3 years sober. She did not view it as stalking or want to get a restraining order.
So i messaged the guy on Facebook, and i decided to believe the woman's story that she never cheated on him, and messaged him and said " hey man she never cheated on you, i know you have some trust issues because of your past relationships, but she is my woman now. If you want to put on some boxing gloves and fight it out we can"
That message was a well meant mistake, the message was fine but i should not have entertained violence, however, I was trying to get him to think of boxing me rather strangling her. Meanwhile i got my girlfriend a sword. Because i can't be there to make people at peace with her all the time and she did not want to involve the police. She had been supporting him finacially a bit since she kicked him out because he was at risk of homelessness.

I forgot about the guy. She had a lot of emotional baggage from the past and i had none. She was also coming over less and less. So i broke up with her. I immediately regretted it. I asked her to come back to me with all her emotional baggage, i just wanted her back. So we kept talking and seeing each other a few times over the month take a walk and watch the sunset, go out into the mountains and watch the stars and count satelights. The idea was to allow her to heal from her past relationships and reunite when she was ready for a relationship.

[yosamitea]

We met at an overlook. I bought some art from her a mandala, and i gave her back her favorite necklace she left at my house. She told me the ex-boyfriend, Justin, showed up at her house and told her to stop asking about him from mutual friends. She said it reminded her what she needed to heal from. I told her to get a restraining order. She said he has not been that bad, but she felt all fucked up about it. I told her i would show up at his work and talk with him, she said don't do that. The ex had blocked my number, and she did not want me to show up at his work, so i was stranded on the side. Then she disappeared went MIA. I drove all around her town looking for her, went by her house and left some yerba mate tea.

[yosamitea]

She called me that weekend and told me she fucked up with Justin. I don't know how i did not see that coming at all, she was pretending she was fine doing good, but She had been drinking everyday for about a month since we broke up. She got drunk and drove over to his house stayed with him for a few days providing him alcohol so he would not go into withdrawals because they were alcoholics. Long story short. Their time together ended with him beating her and slapping her around. Prior to that week they had only lived together with their parents around. She had been sober for three years and was a total mess when she relapsed into drinking.
So she calls me up all wounded and ashamed because she had been doing good, sober for three years, and i went over to her place. She did not want the guy showing up at her house, but also did not want to involve the police. I went and picked up the crazy ex-boyfriend Justin on the side of the road when he was walking along way over to come by the house and pick up his things, i told him he has to respect this woman and her mother who are trying to help him and care for his life.

[yosamitea]

So he came by later acting nice and gave her some pop corn. We stayed up that night and had a few moments of laughter eating popcorn. But really the whole situation was dangerous and sad. She had a taser for self defense and i tested it on my self and it was just kinda tingly and tickled me.
I stayed there for about 2 weeks until she sobered up and could take care of her self again. Actually that is a good story. So she was still drunk everyday and would drink and drive so she gave me her keys, then the next day she asked for them back, and i went and drove her to pick up Justins possessions from his apartment he had to move out of. She was trying to give me his things. Brand new Xbox and stuff. I refused the possessions told him give them back to him. She was depressed drinking the cheapest gin. I bought her two bottles of her favorite gin and invited a friend over to play cards with her because i was exhausted from caring for her and defending her. So she drank her favorite gin. But she would still talk to the ex-boyfriend. I am not gonna tell her who she can and can't talk to she has to make a good decision for herself. So we celebrated her last night of drinking until she got sick. The next day i read her Isaiah chapter 1 and 2 about the trouble and restoration of Zion, and she put on Damien Marley, Road to Zion. She did not want to go to rehab, she wanted me to take care of her. So I did. i bought her a lot of smart water and kale, avocado, apple, baby food because for a few days she could not eat. She has been sober for about a week. She never stopped talking to the abusive ex. So i kissed her goodbye, she wanted me to leave once he was in rehab and she felt safe anyway.

[yosamitea]

Then i went to the cops with all the information i knew about his past as a hit man in the gang the Crips, that she told me about. Now she denies everything she told me said i made a false report. And i am done with it, not a woman i would risk my life for any further. It is very difficult to defend a woman who can't make good decisions for herself and ultimately no matter how well i protect her, if she does not defend herself a bit and stay with me or follow my advice, I am useless. Justin made a mistake choosing to fight that woman rather than me and I will make him pay for it. And i admit i could have done better defending her without challenging him to a fight and entertaining violence, but she played everything like it was cool.

[wuhsin88]

Guys will usually fight to defend a girl even if she's the aggressor or in the wrong, and she's not even their girlfriend. I personally think it's stupid to white knight over any dumb girl. I would kill anyone who had the nerve to mess with my girlfriend in front of me though, with my bare hands.

[Asker]

YESS. You've got it right!! :)

[Hal2002]

It would depend on the situation, and the woman.

I would not get in an altercation over a woman, that was a cock teaser or did things that did things that lead to trouble and there are women out there that live to start trouble than run to a man to be defended.

[Asker]

That's true! Stay away from those girl, you hear? Lol.
Thanks for sharing! :)

[Anonymous]

Hell no, take care of your own shit!
I once had a girlfriend that apparently had a very nasty dark side, she would steal from her friends and sometimes even hit on their boyfriend/brothers. So when me and her are sitting down for lunch and this big girl walks up and punches her in the face and screams give me back my money. I wanted to defend her, but naturally I wanted to hear this story. Needles to say I asked her if it was true, she said no. I sort of believed her, but it happened like two more times. The last time was with her homo friend, apparently she got drunk and slept with his boyfriend. I got up from lunch and walked away, I haven't talked to her since.

[Asker]

Wow.. I hope you find a good girl, and defend her..
Maybe then you'd change your mind..
Thanks for sharing! :)

[Angelo75]

A man will almost always defend when "he" thinks that something is degrading or dangerous to his girlfriend from "his" point of view.
So sometimes even though you go through something that you expected or thought he'd defend you, if he does not pick it up as a reason, he won't do anything.
Remember that the other side of the coin is that he can be defending you on things that he considers degrading/dangerous, while you think it's fine.

So it's all about point of view.

[Kaynetime]

Well people can say they will all they want but actions speak louder than words. That said overcoming any obstacle has it's own intoxication combine that with your woman and BAM. You are the manliest MAN in the world and this lady won't be for while. If you think angry sex is good, Saved your ass sex is better.

This is in regards to a traditional relationship, this was not meant to devalue or attack other relationship dynamics.

[relahvent]

It depends on the situation. If she's getting into an argument with a female then I'll let her handle herself. Men have no business getting involved in cat fights. However if another man is talking shit to my girl then he's officially talking to me.

[Asker]

Aye!! That's what I like to hear!! I like your mindset! :)
Thanks for sharing!

[Suaveguy111]

I totally would defend my girlfriend, not because she is weak, or I need to be a white knight, I would defend her because she is my best friend :).

[Asker]

:) Woow! Well said!!!

[Suaveguy111]

Lol nothing to it, I've just learned well :p.

[mrrapperguy]

definitely happens, I got into a fight with someone over a girl who wasn't my girlfriend but she was a good friend and I liked her more than that

[Asker]

Awhh!! That's very brave of you! :)

[mrrapperguy]

not even, I just did the right thing

[Keyspirits]

Ofcourse i would. I'd give ma life on the line for the luv of ma life.

[Asker]

Awwhh!! :) Thats cute.

[Letstrend]

Adorableee

[Keyspirits]

Whats even cuter is that i will hug her even tighter and longer than before. ain't no other lions come near ma lioness!

[Keyspirits]

Kiss her from sunrise til nighfalls.

[Asker]

YESSS!! Any girl would LOVE to hear that!!! :) Stay sweet.

[TashaJJ]

My boyfriend stands up to me when a douchebag treats me like shit so yes it happens :)

[Asker]

Im glad it doesn't only happen in movies!
Thanks for sharing. :)

[TashaJJ]

No problem :)

[Philosophical]

Yes! If a guy loves or seriously is interested in the girl he will defend her, make no mistake though its always better to walk away instead of fight but if your girl is threatened of if someone steps over the line any man that gave a shit will be the first in line to defend her.

I personally would defend a stranger, girl, guy, child, animal. It doesn't matter.

[ieatDaCake]

If she's wifey material yeah, if not it ain't worth getting a busted lip for nothing

[Asker]

Lool I see what you mean!
Thanks for sharing! :)

[Aizou]

Pretty sure my girlfriend can stand up for herself
but obviously I wouldn't just stand and watch
if she was ever in trouble.. that's a given. ^.~

[Asker]

I am sure she can! :) Thanks for sharing!

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes, if i had girlfriend i would defend her

[Asker]

That's Good to hear! :)

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Thank You :) Yes i agree !

[skeptic007]

yes but it rarely happens

[Asker]

Okay! :)

[Anonymous]

yes i would

[Asker]

Im glad! :)