Girls: If a guy asks you to grab a coffee or lunch does it imply a its a date?

[Anonymous]

If you hardly know the guy, would it feel as if he's asking you on a date?

Yes

No

[geri3ttc]

I wouldn't say it's a date but it's a precursor to one. I would say this is a low risk/stress situation to get to know each other which has far less expectations and generally more relaxed than a date.

I usually use such scenarios to get to know the person quickly, see if they're enjoyable to talk to/we click over a 30 minute or less period then tell them I need to attend to other things in my day but would love to meet up for drinks, specify a SPECIFIC day and time that I am available and possible a location - depending on if I know what the weather, special events, and other variables are like. For example, if I know in a couple of days it's going to be nice and sunny, and there's maybe a beer garden or some outdoor festivity then I would specify that as the location immediately, but if it's a week down the line and I have no idea if it's going to be hailing or sunny, I would say the day and time and that I'll pick something... interesting ;)

It's always easier to get a person to come out for coffee and escalate from there, than to go for a straight date, but short answer - no I wouldn't consider it a date in the true sense, more of a low pressure situation to have some laughs and exchange some light-hearted and entertaining stories - without exposing your entire life story.

[Agrojag]

If I asked a girl this question, I'd be intending it as a date.

[feliciaaa]

It depends on how you are asking, if you want it to be a friendly relationship only I would suggest you make it clear from the beginning so you avoid any awkward confusion :)

[Asker]

How do I make it clear to her that I am not asking her on a date, we are friends but she rejected me last year I have moved on but want to catch up as she's back home for a while

[feliciaaa]

Just tell her you want to catch up and ask her if she's up for a coffee or something. And then if you'd like you can add "as friends of course". It won't be odd considering she rejected you before. :)

[ButterflyXkisses]

If we were both single or he has shown interest in me prior to asking for my time, I would assume it was a date.

[Asker]

How do I make it clear to her that I am not asking her on a date, we are friends but she rejected me last year I have moved on but want to catch up as she's back home for a while

[ButterflyXkisses]

Then tell her that. Don't make it so complicated. Just say, hey its nice to have you back why don't we catch up over some lunch? At least then you have a reason for the lunch, not just asking her out. Also, if she gets defensive over, tell her it's just platonically.

[theENFJ]

I'd be at the very least suspicious that it was a date, lol. ☺

[Asker]

How do I make it clear to her that I am not asking her on a date, we are friends but she rejected me last year I have moved on but want to catch up as she's back home for a while

[theENFJ]

Say "Hey, it's been a while. Wanna catchup over coffee or lunch?" She might wonder at first, but she won't know for sure. So she'll go and figure it out. ☺

[Kileyslovininglife]

To me it would feel more like he wants to know more about me by having a convo over coffee. He may feel comfortable enough to ask me out after or during. Which I wouldn't mind if I was single, I'd actually be flattered.

[sammy_31]

I wouldn't call it a date exactly unless he said it was or if I jokingly asked if it was one. I wouldn't want to assume something it wasn't. If it were one its a great first date.

[523206720]

If its somebody I don't know I will assume he is trying to date me. If it's somebody I know well I will assume that he just wants to be friends.

[SailorMars]

I would assume that it's date so that I can get to know him better

[Anonymous]

I would see it as friendly. If I was asked for. dinner or an evening drink, not knowing them well I would think that's implied as a date.

[Anonymous]

I love those kind of things.. It's cute and interesting every time..

[Asker]

How do I make it clear to her that I am not asking her on a date, we are friends but she rejected me last year I have moved on but want to catch up as she's back home for a while

[Opinion Owner]

Just be subtle with her saying "it's nice catching up with a good friend" just don't say "let's do this again" cause that implies date just say other things like "good seeing you loved catching up"

[bubbletrouble]

Usually since guys only do stuff like that when they want to takes further

[Justmeucee]

From what I know, guys do not invest their time on women they are not at least attracted to.

[amandagayle252074]

No it could just be a friendly lunch

[Asker]

This is what I want it to be, how do I make it clear it is not a date?

[amandagayle252074]

You could invite other people too.

[amandagayle252074]

Or ask her if she would just want get together and catch up.

[Toothpaste92]

Sounds like a date to me.

[Anonymous]

I may be a date but not necessarily.

[Asker]

What would make it not a date?

[Opinion Owner]

I have lunch or coffee with guys often that are not considered a date.

[Opinion Owner]

It's just 2 friends getting together.

[Asker]

How do I make it clear to her that I am not asking her on a date, we are friends but she rejected me last year I have moved on but want to catch up as she's back home for a while

[Opinion Owner]

Say do you want to have lunch just to catch up on things

[Klaatu51]

not a date of course