Why do guys stare then quickly look away and then act like they don't want to talk to you?

[Anonymous]

I asked this earlier but I didn't get enough answers so I'm giving this question another go. So there's this guy I like and at a party this weekend when I was with other guys I noticed he was staring at me and when I caught him he looked away fast. Everyone I've asked about this to said he was checking me out and didn't know how to talk to me. Oh and by the way he would barely talk to me that night either. He was hitting it off with other girls but with me NO. When a guy is in to a girl doesn't her tease her as opposed to ignore her? He's not shy btw. This makes me feel insecure about pretty much my existence, lol. So what does this mean and should I make a move or not because I'm stuck, thank you.

[BiffWebster]

well let me put it to yah this way... if your caught this guy looking... and you looked back at him and he just stared at you like this O_O i think youd turn away yourself and be freaked out.

This dude was definitely more comfortable around the girls he wasn't attracted to then he would have been with you. Yah know girls, their voices usually go up when they are around a guy, and they play with their hair from what i understand.
Next time go up to him. Seriously. Just be like hey what up. Because a lot of guys cannot go up to girls with out enough support from friends lol,

[Asker]

Just picturing it and looking at the O_O freaked me out lol. You're right about our voices getting higher because well at least that happens to me and same with the hair playing. I also talk way too much and get very hyper and end up embarrassing myself, hahaha

[BiffWebster]

yah see :P
yea or those girls do that hair flip thing which is so adorable o_o

hey hyper to me is good. Because seeing a girl getting nervous or something etc around me, I don't know id feel good,

[Asker]

You like that? I always thought guys found it super annoying and a turn off!

[BiffWebster]

nah i think its cute.
Because i'm a very calm type of guy, and when they see that they calm down. Also on the quite side at times too.
I don't know tho its just cute, its not annoying at all, its even cuter when the girl tries to hide it

[Asker]

How can you tell she's trying to hide it then?

[BiffWebster]

more like slow it down. Its funny seeing a girl like catch herself and inside her head she's prob like "stop it kayla..." so i guess in a way a girl would be trying to slow down when she is hyper and jumpy

[BiffWebster]

and she'll also look around a bit more... to see if anyone else is noticing her behavior with that over the shoulder glance

[Newtown]

I think he liked you the most at the party but was possibly scared to talk to you incase you wernt interested in talking to him, rejection or he made a fool of himself infront of you. And he probably didn't worry about all those things with the other girls cos he wasn't really interested in them. Don't let out make you feel insecure, he was staring at you, he liked what he saw. if your interested in him then yes take a chance and make a move, what have you got to lose? My phone is playing up on me and I can't delete these next thee words so just ignore them lolront of you.

[SonOfPiper]

Yeah, I'm guilty for this sort of behavior. It's almost like the pressure & expected happiness is far too great to risk messing up. I prefer for it to happen naturally.

I spend too much time raising my social credibility by having fun with other guys and creating backups in case this girl upsets me.

Once a moment arises when the girl is on her own, she complains about how I act with other girls then I know I'm in and I'll apologize and say 'you are the only one I want'. Hopefully it works.

[Asker]

that's cute

[SonOfPiper]

Haha thanks. Unfortunately, In the real world, the girl ends up making out with another guy and texting you the next day saying she is sorry. It's the reason why I never devote my attention to any girl.

[gimmethetruth]

You should make a move. He probably likes you way more than those other girls he was talking to, which is why he has no problem talking to them and is shy about you. No guy has a problem talking to girls he's not interested in. But if the guy likes a girl, thats a reason to be nervous. That might be why he ignored you. He probably let nerves get to him because he actually likes you. Talking to girls he's not interested in was probably him putting off talking to you.

[Zango91]

That's exactly what girls do too.
www.prikolist.biz/.../bitch_mode_on_43_0913.jpg

[Asker]

I know, the questions was why do they stare

[WesTheGuru]

Because we hear talk about all the creepy guys that hit on random girls and don't want to be one of them. Usually he's just looking for an opening.

[Asker]

You make a good point

[catpetter]

Lust and fear of girls