Why do guys stare but never approach?

[Anonymous]

Just a curious question, I don't get it. Guys will stare at me when I go out but never approach me. Or they'll check me out, and still never approach me. Is there a certain vibe that I am giving off? Im not stuck up or a bitch, but most of the time guys just look at me, check me out, or stare at me, but do nothing. Why is that? Why do guys do that? Is it because they think the girl is out of their league? Stuck up? Something else? Please share your input. Thank you!

[Jaybone98]

It could be for a number of reasons. I think a lot of males are quite shy, only a select few have the confidence to approach women, especially in a social environment like a club. Fear of rejection is big which i've seen mentioned. Also if you are in a large group of girls, it would be terrifying to go up and talk to someone. Imagine you go up and then get flat rejected in front of a large group of girls.. not fun.

I think also, obviously hard to tell not seeing you IRL. But try smiling, if you give off the impression that you're happy, it makes it more inviting for a guy to go out of their way to speak to someone. If you think a guy is good looking, make eye contact and smile. This (for me anyway) would be a good enough hint, that you're not going to rip my head off if I approach you.

[young_old_soul]

They are checking you out. But they don't know you, and probably don't have the confidence to make a move. If a guy you like is staring, perhaps walk over and introduce yourself. Unless they awkwardly follow you around or stare incessantly, they probably are not creeps, just a little shy.

[laurenok]

they're probably trying to figure out if you're ugly, average or good looking. if they don't approach it could either be because you're ugly or you're so good looking you intimidate them. i know from personal experience, being a highly attractive person you actually get approached LESS due to people being intimidated and feeling as tho you're out of their league etc. but post a pic of yourself if you want more accurate reviews.

[winterfox10]

Sad to say, but you might want to blame your fellow girls for that one.

It could be a vibe, but it's far more likely that the guys just have a ton of life experience of trying to approach women, and then having it majorly blow up in their faces. I know that I don't even try approaching women anymore, simply because the off chance that she would actually want to talk with me isn't worth the surprisingly large risk of her flipping her shit about me trying to say something.

[tartaarsaus]

- often guys think that girls already have boyfriends
- stare but don't approach because that girl is out of their league
- generally scared of rejection

[Gedaria]

I can understand you may feel a little off about it. But there is no harm in just looking. It's when they want to touch , that when the problem starts..

[thechesseman]

Might not be interested in a relationship. There's also probability factors. Most women won't date strangers.

[MrBurke]

Sometimes were taken sometimes were just chicken sometimes were just staring at some crazy chick or a dangling booger heck the guy could just be staring into space

[Americanteengirl]

I don't know from what I’ve seen they usually do approach after staring

[Anonymous]

You'll have to thank women time and time again wanting to have their cake and eat it too on this topic...

[SamiDz]

They are afraid of being rejected because some girls are bitches.

[AkshiJanjua]

like what do you mean if a guy sees a girl he always will go and talk to her

[Anonymous]

They want you to approach them as a strong independent women you should approach them

[swankyfox]

If you care that much go talk to them.

[Balcazaurus]

They're not confident enough or are single.

[Evan94]

Because I got social anxiety

[Anonymous]

Because they're pussies

[GreenGold1992]

fear of rejection