When a guy is angry and says 'just leave me alone!' does he really mean it?

[MargaritaPeach]

When I say it, I secretly hope that he will follow me and take me in his arms and whisper in my ear that everything will be all right. (I know, I know... saying one thing when you mean another is dumb. I don't know why I do that). But when guys say it, they really seem to mean it--like they want a little space. But will he think I don't care enough about him if I DO leave him alone? And how long do I leave him alone for? 15 minutes? A day?

Yes, he means it. Give the guy some space!

No, he just says that see if you will follow after him.

It depends on how angry he is.

A total of 54 votes were cast: 17 girls and 37 guys. See detailed results

[WhiteSteve]

Yeah, us guys generally say what we mean. If we aren't saying what we mean, we're probably doing it subconsciously. Personally, on a conscious level, I'm spending ZERO time playing games. To me, not saying what you mean is playing games and unnecessary drama. One the number one things women do that irks me are "tests." Don't test me. Ask for or tell me exactly what you want. Don't say one thing and get mad because I don't respond in another way. Don't do stuff to see how I'll react. Tell me what the problem is, we'll talk about it, and then come to an agreement. Logic rules in the male mind.

[MargaritaPeach]

It does seem to be true that guys, for the most part, say what they mean and mean what they say. I don't have a problem giving him some space. But I don't want him to think I am being nonchalant about his feelings or the issue at hand when I do back off. Is that over thinking it? And just so you know--I never do things like that to play games. Not on purpose! It just seems like my emotions are all over the place and they interfere with me acting rationally sometimes. I'm a bit jealous that guys seem to have a better grip on those kinds of things...

[Domingo]

For me it depends on what the Issue is. When I say it though I 100% mean it. I'll only say it if I need to

[AthleticMom]

He needs some space to cool down and get his brain/emotions on even keel
THEN you figure out how angry = time span needed for this space
before you go to him to offer comfort and understanding... DO NOT rekindle that fire/argument... any "sorries" you expect from him will take much longer & only after he accepts your comfort, begins to heal

[Lipton]

If I was mad and the person did not leave me alone. I honestly would get more vexed.

[MargaritaPeach]

How long do you prefer he waits before he contacts you again?

[Lipton]

Until I told him he could.

[LambertiFamily]

Sweetie, sweetie, sweetie... you're 38. Please tell us you are joking.

[Dakota_The_Rota]

It could be a fake age. Hopefully, anyways.

[MargaritaPeach]

Yeah, I figured I'd have life figured out by the time I hit 30, too. But guys still confuse me now and again. I've at least got the "S's" of happiness down: Sex, Sandwiches, Silence, Sports. Beyond that... I got nothing.

[LambertiFamily]

Sex, sandwiches, silence, sports. You have passed your National 'How to Keep a Man' Exam. Carry on. :)

[Anonymous]

Consulting the experts:
img-9gag-ftw.9cache.com/photo/4278997_460s_v1.jpg

[Opinion Owner]

Most guys aren't prone to playing games and have little patience for them.

[MargaritaPeach]

Love this! Frighteningly accurate...

[BertMacklinFBI]

mmm when i say that to people i usually mean it like 90% of the time, the other 10% im hoping they might apologize deeply and keep trying to calm me down but it never gets to that point because i say my piece as im walking away. go with your gut

[luvme56]

A day... and the next time you see him he will apologize to you!

[MargaritaPeach]

And in the meantime I drive myself crazy wondering what I could have done differently. 'Keep your fool mouth shut' is usually the answer to that question. ;)

[luvme56]

Yup... we guys always mean what we say... and after all we have feelings so... we regret for our rudeness... so keep your MOUTH SHUT for the time being! Lol :):D

[WhoTheHellKnows]

Yes. I know for me if I say leave me alone, I mean exactly that. I need time to cool down. Talking to me after that makes me more pissed off

[matheus_mb]

When I'm angry I do like to be left alone until I calm down. After things are calmer, I don't mind having company.

[meatballs21]

Leave him alone, let him come back.

I hate having to say that to people, it makes me feel like a jerk but often I've been pushed to it.

[eddzeeman]

Im sure he will come back around, just leave him be for now. Thats the only way to know if he truly cares about you

[Cowboy6666]

May be coz of anger he said that... See his anger n talk with him depending on his anger... If he really cares u he will come again.. If he used u.. He will fly away from u..

[PineappleBreath]

I get it people have to listen to how you are saying it like if your upset you want him to comfort you and if your annoyed you want him to go away

[VeryBiFun]

Yes if he says that give him some space. Learn to read his moods and know when to come back.

He will let you know when he is ok I promise you that.

[Anonymous]

It does depend, if I'm really angry it's best to leave me be. If I'm just a little mad I like when a girl does that.

[Anonymous]

What else does he mean? You're smoothering him too much.

[douride2]

In my experience yes give him some room.