Why am I so scared to get a real job and grow up?

Question

I am done with school and I am taking a year off before I pursue a real job or go to grad school. I moved across the country and am working in a movie theatre while figuring my life out and I feel lost. I put all this money into my education and now I realized I don't even want to work. I still feel like a college freshmen and I'm scared to grow up.

NearlyNapping · Accepted Answer

Not wanting to work is like not wanting to live. Work is an integral part of life. You should stop thinking of work as some kind of negative. To me work and play are much the same thing. I don't look at work as something I *have* to do. It's something I enjoy. I enjoy other things and like a wide variety, but work is one of the many things I like.

Keep looking around for something you like doing. Try to expand your horizons and open yourself up to different things, even you don't think you'd like them at first. If you don't know what you want, just start doing a variety of things until you slip into a good match. You can't make yourself like something. But you can at least give yourself a chance to find out what you do like.

KidanisCortes · Accepted Answer

This is sooo normal I'm still 27 and feel the same don't worry about it just try not to let fear hold you back from trying! At least apply! you just don't belive you can do it and procastinate if you get the job it will help you be a bit more confident

WhatTheHellAmy · Accepted Answer

Don't worry, most humans go through that and they all survive, Think about the freedom you'll have by being on your own, I prefer to work hard and cry blood instead of living with my bossy parents.
Adult life suck when you're not doing something you like. Go out there and get a hobby, get goals, achieve them all, then you won't have nothing to fear of...

GirlsLie · Accepted Answer

No one wants to work lol, well a lot of people don't. It's just something you have to do, if you want things in life. Trust me having and paying for your own car, rent and things is very rewarding, you will feel free to have control over your own life that way.

Awesome93 · Accepted Answer

Because growing up sucks. DON'T DO IT BRO! DON'T DO IT! IT'S A TRAP!!!

Mesonfielde · Answer

I personally would be happy to earn money, but my field of work for example takes a lot of your time and all of your energy, even though it is not physically exhausting at all. I wonder why...

Bvroon · Answer

I suspect it may be because it is a big step in both growing up and accepting responsibility, which as it happens is rather connected. Know this that accepting responsibility and growing up is not without it's rewards, but also know that it is important to know your limits, as you can control how much you take on and how much responsibility you accept. Also responsibility can be progressive, in the sense that you can take on your responsibilities a little bit at a time. To this end though I would not recommend that you have children until you feel you are completely ready for that particular responsibility.

LittleSally · Answer

Don't think about it as 'growing up', maybe first think about doing something you find insanely interesting or working to save money for something you really need...
That way you're taking it one step at a time.
And before you know it - you're not thinking about silly definitions and labels, you're living your life.

Kapakani · Answer

Real job first day training  Yea, I'd be scared to.

BlueEyedHipsta · Answer

I feel you. I dropped out of high school and spent a year at home with my parents nagging me to get a job or go study But I didn't know what I wanted to do and nobody wanted to employ me and those who said they did screwed me over. I was battling my inner demons at the time as well. I decided to go to culinary school because I love to cook and bake and now I have 2 months left and I'm still not sure what I want to do. I change my mind too often. It's really hard to stick with one thing for me.

genuinlysensitive · Answer

Don't worry. Depending on what your degree is you might even be able to get a job outside of your field, if that is what you really want. A lot of jobs are more interested in education level than what the major or concentration is in. Try and find something you are passionate about, love doing, and are good enough at to make a living out of.

Nik1hil · Answer

Same here, think and step forward, yeah I am scared too bro! The only way you, I think I can assure success is not developing any bad habit or falling for a girl, and make her pregnant. Well that is how you will fall mostly apart from it maintain your health, and be focus until you make yourself financially and economically self-dependent.

muspelhem_5 · Answer

However "real", it's just a job. But it pays a hell of a lot better than what you could get if you hadn't gone to school.

I don't know about you, but I forgot for a while that a job is for survival. I mean passion is great, but nothing wrong with figuring it out as you go, and that might include working for a while in something that isn't your final destination. Just keep working on your real dreams on the side until they can take center stage. Or else just go all in on your real dreams.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't be scared. Its a part of life. You have to just jump into into things with both feet forward and just do your best in everything you do. That's it. Do your best and you won't have anything to fear. You will be fine, just trust yourself and find out what you really want to do that will make you happy

TruePower · Answer

Don't work, man. I never got a job. You don't need a job, either. Join me in the glorious revolution of humanity. Embrace the Venus Project. Our time is now. Message me if you have questions. No human should work anymore. Our resources and technology are so abundant that no human has to work today or in the future. The only things in the way of true human progress are the outdated monetary system, destruction, greed, and violence. Let us embrace creation, benevolence, innovation, and invention.

Anonymous · Answer

It could be that you are still unsure of what you want to do? Putting in a lot of money and effort into something, then realizing that may not be what you want to do with your life is pretty scary.

That or maybe you enjoy school? I would seriously love to go to grad school and continue my education. Knowledge is more appealing to me than working on my career. I mean, I do like my career choice, but I'd rather go back to school then find a steady studio job.

fortheloveoflyrics · Answer

I understand the feeling. Growing up and realizing you have responsibilities is a scary thing. It's overwhelming when you realize it's time to think of how you'll support yourself and, someday, a family.

Balcazaurus · Answer

Because responsibility sucks.

A good portion of 90's Babies and Millinials are lazy and have sense of entitlement. I admit this for I am one of them, but been striving to be a more responsible adult. And so far, so good.

AmandaLynn1930 · Answer

because the real world can be a little intimidating. but once you are out and independent you will love it :D it feels amazing.

simmony · Answer

Whats your dream. Its so normal not to want to grow up. But its amazing to grow up have a house have money do what you have always wanted to do etc

Anonymous · Answer

To some degree, this is normal. If you're not careful, you will be ridiculed as one of these guys who lives in his parent's basement while trying to convince the rest of the world that you are a mature adult. Also, regardless of lifestyle or sexual orientation, you are not likely to have a meaningful relationship with someone who is career or goal oriented. You would quickly become a burden...

Pinkbeauty · Answer

I don't have a job because I'm specilneeds and I don't wanna work because I like my alone time and I like to be in a quit inviroment but if I get a job my job would be to be a blogger or broudcast and make videos on YouTube and younow

JoeCensored · Answer

Because it is a major life transition, you're afraid you may fail without mommy to fall back on.

Anonymous · Answer

You are use to going on summer breaks when you are in college and you probably realize that working means no summer breaks. Also you don't want to work for your money and you are lazy & afraid of trying and failing

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

because you're still stuck in Neverland. don't worry life will hit you and you will just know

lanternhill · Answer

Welcome to the club. I've been out for 6 years and I'm still freaked out about "real life."

RedRain · Answer

Maybe because you don't know exactly what you want. What did you study?

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

Simple. You went from asking permission to use the bathroom straight to considering your lifes choices. You just weren't prepared and honestly a lot of us weren't.

VampireEmpress · Answer

you moved across the country but you're scared of change?

elamn123456 · Answer

HAHAHAH lol... meh is 19 and living alone With my cool Apartment! life is cool over here fam! but good Luck! never give up fam!

MJas16 · Answer

It's perfectly normal. Im afraid of going into my senior year and having to choosr my future career

Anonymous · Answer

Just find a job and then you can go back to school.

ThatBritishLad · Answer

Real talk, I'd be more worried if you weren't scared. Fear is a sign of sanity.

TMH48 · Answer

Your scared of change. But this change is a good one. You have a chance to find out who you are and what your capable of.

Aeon_Flux_21 · Answer

Because deep down you know the real world is pain and suffering.

Anonymous · Answer

Same position man. Parents attitude doesn't help much either.

tenofthepeaks · Answer

erm... that's perfectly normal. MANY are in your position.

princessmethteeth · Answer

Because a job ain't nuttin but work?

GrigoriYRasputin · Answer

You don't need a job.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop, being, scared, and, man, up

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